Random Vents.....

rockin'robin said:
Seems to me he's going at it the wrong way (the way he has said it)....I have boys and some of their girlfriend(s) parents have dropped their daughter(s) off at my house to "hang out"....Absolutely, I don't like it too much....my rule is they have to leave the bedroom door open at all times, since they go in there to play video games and listen to music, etc......And I'm always walking up and down the hallway, peeking in to see what's going on.....asking "is everything OK....having fun?...etc.

Last week, my 16 yr. old made a pallet on the floor in his room, and he and the girl were laying on it, watching TV.....(even tho' he has 2 chairs and a desk in his room)....I didn't allow that...and suggested "why not go out on the dock or to the pool?"....A soda, perhaps?"...or take a walk to the Park..

Makes me feel like "a Cop"....but, all in all, if teenagers are gonna have sex, they are gonna find a way to do it....but not in my house!...I felt a "huge responsibility" towards the girl's safety....and I was and am actually worn out by it.....so I'm not gonna allow that again....

Maybe I'm old-fashioned or whatever, but feel the boy should go over to the girl's house, and they take in a movie or something, to the park, etc....Do parents actually allow their "girls" to visit a "boy" to hang out these days at their house?..My guess is "yes" they do, as the girl's mother seemed not to be overly concerned about it!
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My mom wouldnt allow any boys in my room all the way through high school.
 
My daughter told me that her dad told her that as long as she doesnt have sex, she can have a boyfriend. If I had said something like that, he would have acussed me of leading her down the wrong path. I was like , "WHAT?He said that to you???!!!! "
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I can onlly imagine how horrified this teenage girl was! The father has boundary issues and needs to stop the controlling behavior. It's always creepy when a dad oversteps his boundaries in an attempt to stop his daughter's sexual behavior.
 
shel90 said:
She is 14 years old. I am just surprised that her dad, of all people, told her that. Whenever I talk with her about peer pressure issues, she tells him and then he texts me acussing me of leading her down the wrong path. Now, this? Geez.
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Was it unprompted (like he brought the subject up), or did she ask and he said "Okay"? The former is just creepy and weird. The latter, less so.

shel90 said:
My mom wouldnt allow any boys in my room all the way through high school.
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Were you allowed in boys' rooms?
 
StSapphire said:
How old is she?



Er... why? If you'd let a boy go to a girl's house, why would you not let a girl go to a boy's house? I see no reason for there to be any more of a concern one way or the other.
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Oh boy....:giggle:...was not "hoping" for this answer but knew it was a'comin'!....of course ur right...(but in my case, wish you weren't)...perhaps if I did have a girl, and allowed her to go over to a boy's house to "hang out", I'd make her wear a "chastity belt" with lock & key...(j/k)....I'm sure parents of girls worry also whenever a boy goes to a girl's house to "hang out".
 
StSapphire said:
Was it unprompted (like he brought the subject up), or did she ask and he said "Okay"? The former is just creepy and weird. The latter, less so.



Were you allowed in boys' rooms?
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I dont know because I am no longer with him.

I never really went over to many boys' houses but I had a boyfriend at the end of my senior year. His mom didnt allow us in his room alone.
 
rockin'robin said:
Oh boy....:giggle:...was not "hoping" for this answer but knew it was a'comin'!....of course ur right...(but in my case, wish you weren't)...perhaps if I did have a girl, and allowed her to go over to a boy's house to "hang out", I'd make her wear a "chastity belt" with lock & key...(j/k)....I'm sure parents of girls worry also whenever a boy goes to a girl's house to "hang out".
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Haha, keep in mind that I'm from a much younger generation, and I at least, don't really see anything wrong with boys and girls hanging out alone together. Once they're at the age that they'd want to spend time alone together, I'd hope they've been raised well enough to be responsible (our definitions of "responsible" probably aren't all that similar either, though) without constant surveillance.

Mind you, it's much easier for me to say this now with no children anytime in the foreseeable future, but I don't expect that opinion to change entirely.
 
shel90 said:
I dont know because I am no longer with him.

I never really went over to many boys' houses but I had a boyfriend at the end of my senior year. His mom didnt allow us in his room alone.
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Ah, didn't know if the daughter had gone into any more detail. And at least she was consistent, lol.
 
StSapphire said:
Ah, didn't know if the daughter had gone into any more detail. And at least she was consistent, lol.
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Oh she didnt say. I try not to question her too much about what goes on at my ex hubby's house. As long as she is happy and well taken care of, I am fine. I was just mad because he always bitches at me for certain things I say to my daughter and he turns around and says something like that to her. Just venting how unfair he can be.
 
shel90 said:
Oh she didnt say. I try not to question her too much about what goes on at my ex hubby's house. As long as she is happy and well taken care of, I am fine. I was just mad because he always bitches at me for certain things I say to my daughter and he turns around and says something like that to her. Just venting how unfair he can be.
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Yeah, that sounds pretty shitty of him to be inconsistent like that. Sorry if I got in the way of your venting. :P
 
I am wise on boundaries on protect to prevent to someone bug picked
protect to implementation because pretty strong confidential my personal wise protect
I don't want share to my personal!
 
DeafCaroline said:
I'm mad Blockbuster is shutting down in my city because of online streaming. Most movies online don't have captioning. :(
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Yeah, the 140 Blockbuster stores in Canada are being closed and all the stores in Ottawa are being shut down. Recently they had super discount sales on DVDs to get rid of them out of their inventory.
 
I think so strike? I wonder I am not sure pretty assurance I afraid!

or shut down blockbuster
 
StSapphire said:
Haha, keep in mind that I'm from a much younger generation, and I at least, don't really see anything wrong with boys and girls hanging out alone together.
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Of course you don't. You still are one of those boys. :giggle:
 
My vent is that I am so inexperienced with all these home renovation projects and my hubby brought home more stuff from Lowe's which is sweet of him but it makes me overwhelmed since i am the only one doing them!
 
I am SO FREAKING MAD that I have to pay over $900 for tests to be certified in the current state I live in...I'm already certified to teach in three other states but this state is a SNOB and won't accept any of them. I have to take the same freaking tests that I took and aced years ago. Dammit, seriously, dammit. My Masters degrees= no good. 11 years of experience= so what?

I should have been a lawyer.
 
shel90 said:
My vent is that I am so inexperienced with all these home renovation projects and my hubby brought home more stuff from Lowe's which is sweet of him but it makes me overwhelmed since i am the only one doing them!
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Break it down into pieces/parts and be happy to get the "little" things done. If you have 10 things to do and get 2 things done...that's leaves only 8 more things to do later. Small steps are better than no steps (because you're overwhelmed).

And remember to enjoy the summer. :wave:
 
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