Venting.....
My daughter told me that her dad told her that as long as she doesnt have sex, she can have a boyfriend. If I had said something like that, he would have acussed me of leading her down the wrong path. I was like , "WHAT?He said that to you???!!!! "
Seems to me he's going at it the wrong way (the way he has said it)....I have boys and some of their girlfriend(s) parents have dropped their daughter(s) off at my house to "hang out"....Absolutely, I don't like it too much....my rule is they have to leave the bedroom door open at all times, since they go in there to play video games and listen to music, etc......And I'm always walking up and down the hallway, peeking in to see what's going on.....asking "is everything OK....having fun?...etc.
Last week, my 16 yr. old made a pallet on the floor in his room, and he and the girl were laying on it, watching TV.....(even tho' he has 2 chairs and a desk in his room)....I didn't allow that...and suggested "why not go out on the dock or to the pool?"....A soda, perhaps?"...or take a walk to the Park..
Makes me feel like "a Cop"....but, all in all, if teenagers are gonna have sex, they are gonna find a way to do it....but not in my house!...I felt a "huge responsibility" towards the girl's safety....and I was and am actually worn out by it.....so I'm not gonna allow that again....
Maybe I'm old-fashioned or whatever, but feel the boy should go over to the girl's house, and they take in a movie or something, to the park, etc....Do parents actually allow their "girls" to visit a "boy" to hang out these days at their house?..My guess is "yes" they do, as the girl's mother seemed not to be overly concerned about it!