PTSD and abuse.

What are your experiences that have caused you to have PTSD?

  • I was sexually abused/raped as a child.

    Votes: 6 50.0%

  • I was emotionally abused as a child.

    Votes: 7 58.3%

  • I was physically abused as a child.

    Votes: 4 33.3%

  • I felt my life was threatened as a child.

    Votes: 5 41.7%

  • The abuse I experienced only happened once or twice.

    Votes: 1 8.3%

  • The abuse I experienced happened on a regular bases.

    Votes: 5 41.7%

  • I was severely bullied at school.

    Votes: 4 33.3%

  • I experienced the loss of a close family member as a child.

    Votes: 2 16.7%

  • As a child I had other experience not mentioned.

    Votes: 4 33.3%

  • I was raped as an adult.

    Votes: 1 8.3%

  • I've experienced domestic violence

    Votes: 5 41.7%

  • I feel responsible for someone elses death.

    Votes: 3 25.0%

  • I'm a war veteran and have had very bad experiences conected to that.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I've been mugged.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • My house has been burgled.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I've had house fire, terrorist attack, tornado, or other disaster.

    Votes: 1 8.3%

  • I've been homeless.

    Votes: 3 25.0%

  • I've had an abortion.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I've lost a parent, child, or spouse.

    Votes: 3 25.0%

  • I've had another tramatic experience not mentioned above.

    Votes: 6 50.0%
  • Total voters
    12
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Hear Again said:
vampy,

those of us wh have ptsd do not blame society for the struggles wer face. why do mst people think that in the first placve? i dn't get it..
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I didn't say that all PTSD people blame others.
 
VamPyroX said:
I didn't say that all PTSD people blame others.
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But you did imply that "anything" can cause PTSD. And not anything can. It has to be a SEVERE TRAUMA.

CAUTION! Abuse discussed in detail below:

Do you know what it feels like to watch your mother be stranggled in front of you? To watch in fear as you believe she dies? Do you know what it's like to have a crackhead (oh and the crackhead is your uncle) break into your home in the middle of the night with a knife and have to literally run away to the police station in your underwear at 7 years old? Do you know how it feels to have your best friend steal your virginity by raping you?
And lastly, do you know how it feels to know that you will have to hold your only child as she dies? To be told that you will never get to see her eyes because they can't let her wake up, because she would be in too much pain? To know that she will die after only 3 days of life, but those days were nothing but pain and agony? To look in the face of an angel and know that she'll never see a tree or breath fresh air? To watch YOUR baby have a two needles pushed inside her heart from her neck and have all her blood drained from her body? Have you been told that if you even kiss you baby she will feel it as horrible pain, and so you must sit and watch her suffer, unable to touch her or comfort her? Have you had to write birth announcements that also declare the death of you precious child?

If not, please don't declare that other people "can't handle" stuff.
 
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To those of you who defended all of us with PTSD, thank you.

To the rest of you who don't know what it feels like, you really don't have a clue, so you really need to just back up and get educated.

I will say this about being managing the illness, I feel we have a responsiblity to protect ourselves on this forum. If certain things trigger you, stay the hell away. Personally, I stay away from the adult forum for pretty obvious reasons. I have abuse issues and that forum triggers me, so I rarely if ever, go in there. Having said that, I don't feel it's wrong to ask someone to be careful about what they say. Those of us who were abused were never given a voice or we weren't allowed to use our voice and stand up for ourselves. By voicing that certain things trigger us, we are taking control of a situation and not allowing ourselves to be revictimized. That is so empowering.

Bottom line: It takes two. The person with the illness must take responsibility for themselves, so they don't expose themselves to triggers, but also, it IS about curteousy on the part of others as well. If a friend of yours has PTSD, please be respectful and ask them about what triggers them and DON'T knowingly expose them to something that will upset them.

Education can go a long way, folks. Think about it.

Thank you.
 
VamPyroX said:
I didn't say that all PTSD people blame others.
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vamy,

what you asid was that people with ptsd blame societyy. furthermore, you didn't say "some people with ptsd" or "most people with ptsd." that imlies a generrl statement meaning "all."
 
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to expalnd on faire jour's post, do you knw how it feels to have your li fe threaened as a 9 year oldchild or to have your parents sexually, physically and emotionlly abuse you? i'm insulted when people incinuate that ptsed is caused by "anything" because it is caused by so much mre than tht.
 
faire_jour said:
But you did imply that "anything" can cause PTSD. And not anything can. It has to be a SEVERE TRAUMA.

CAUTION! Abuse discussed in detail below:

Do you know what it feels like to watch your mother be stranggled in front of you? To watch in fear as you believe she dies? Do you know what it's like to have a crackhead (oh and the crackhead is your uncle) break into your home in the middle of the night with a knife and have to literally run away to the police station in your underwear at 7 years old? Do you know how it feels to have your best friend steal your virginity by raping you?
And lastly, do you know how it feels to know that you will have to hold your only child as she dies? To be told that you will never get to see her eyes because they can't let her wake up, because she would be in too much pain? To know that she will die after only 3 days of life, but those days were nothing but pain and agony? To look in the face of an angel and know that she'll never see a tree or breath fresh air? To watch YOUR baby have a two needles pushed inside her heart from her neck and have all her blood drained from her body? Have you been told that if you even kiss you baby she will feel it as horrible pain, and so you must sit and watch her suffer, unable to touch her or comfort her? Have you had to write birth announcements that also declare the death of you precious child?

If not, please don't declare that other people "can't handle" stuff.
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*hugs*
 
This is part of Vampy's post that needs no explanation.

So, I'm not saying we should blame ourselves or blame society. It's like the nature versus nurture argument. I'm not going to go there. A psychiatrist is best suited to answer that kind of question.
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"A psychiatrist is best suited to answer that kind of question."
 
I witnessed my mom attacking my dad physically and then him attacking her physically. While my dad was knocking my mom around, my brother, who was only 6 at the time, ran to block his punches to protect her. After that, my dad left and when I was older (about 15 years old), we had a long talk about that. He told me what happened and why he did that and why he had to leave. I think that helped me to overcome the trauma and accept it. I think as a result, I never suffered any PTSD from it. I dont think I suffer from PTSD...sure, I have some bad memories but nothing that gets a physical reaction. Even as I am talking about this episode, I feel fine. :dunno:

I am sorry for everyone who has experienced trauma and suffer from PTSD afterwards.
 
shel90 said:
I witnessed my mom attacking my dad physically and then him attacking her physically. While my dad was knocking my mom around, my brother, who was only 6 at the time, ran to block his punches to protect her. After that, my dad left and when I was older (about 15 years old), we had a long talk about that. He told me what happened and why he did that and why he had to leave. I think that helped me to overcome the trauma and accept it. I think as a result, I never suffered any PTSD from it. I dont think I suffer from PTSD...sure, I have some bad memories but nothing that gets a physical reaction. Even as I am talking about this episode, I feel fine. :dunno:

I am sorry for everyone who has experienced trauma and suffer from PTSD afterwards.
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Did this only happen once? I think those of us who end up with PTSD have to live this kind of situation EVERYDAY for years. We are in a horrible traumatic, abusive home, all day everyday for our entire lives.
It is true that a violent event, like a rape, can trigger PTSD, but more often, it is a lifetime of abuse.
 
faire_jour said:
Did this only happen once? I think those of us who end up with PTSD have to live this kind of situation EVERYDAY for years. We are in a horrible traumatic, abusive home, all day everyday for our entire lives.
It is true that a violent event, like a rape, can trigger PTSD, but more often, it is a lifetime of abuse.
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True..it happened only once cuz my dad left my mom because he scared himself and he didnt want that for the family. I thank him for leaving instead of staying and make us suffer thru that daily.
 
shel90 said:
I witnessed my mom attacking my dad physically and then him attacking her physically. While my dad was knocking my mom around, my brother, who was only 6 at the time, ran to block his punches to protect her. After that, my dad left and when I was older (about 15 years old), we had a long talk about that. He told me what happened and why he did that and why he had to leave. I think that helped me to overcome the trauma and accept it. I think as a result, I never suffered any PTSD from it. I dont think I suffer from PTSD...sure, I have some bad memories but nothing that gets a physical reaction. Even as I am talking about this episode, I feel fine. :dunno:

I am sorry for everyone who has experienced trauma and suffer from PTSD afterwards.
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Like it was said before, it's just how people respond. When it comes to PTSD, there reallly is nothing to blame - you can't help how your brain chemistry deals with trauma. That's probably why some people develop PTSD and some do not. I have a friend who was raped once and her PTSD showed up right away.

Whereas (I previously said) I was born into an abusive home, where my dad abused my mom and my siblings and me until I was disowned at age 14. My PTSD was not diagnosed until I was 17.
 
Mrs Bucket said:
This is part of Vampy's post that needs no explanation.



"A psychiatrist is best suited to answer that kind of question."
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He made statements that greatly upset alot of us. If we misinterpreted what he was saying, then OK. But, I think he needs to clarify what he meant because he offended many of us; myself included.
 
SFShawn13 said:
Like it was said before, it's just how people respond. When it comes to PTSD, there reallly is nothing to blame - you can't help how your brain chemistry deals with trauma. That's probably why some people develop PTSD and some do not. I have a friend who was raped once and her PTSD showed up right away.

Whereas (I previously said) I was born into an abusive home, where my dad abused my mom and my siblings and me until I was disowned at age 14. My PTSD was not diagnosed until I was 17.
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this is true. i suffered from 4 different types of trauma (sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse and having my life threatened) over the span of 18 years yet my ptsd wasn't diagnosed until 20 years later even though my therapist told me i was most likely showing the signs of the disorder a long, long time ago.
 
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