PTSD and abuse.

What are your experiences that have caused you to have PTSD?

  • I was sexually abused/raped as a child.

    Votes: 6 50.0%

  • I was emotionally abused as a child.

    Votes: 7 58.3%

  • I was physically abused as a child.

    Votes: 4 33.3%

  • I felt my life was threatened as a child.

    Votes: 5 41.7%

  • The abuse I experienced only happened once or twice.

    Votes: 1 8.3%

  • The abuse I experienced happened on a regular bases.

    Votes: 5 41.7%

  • I was severely bullied at school.

    Votes: 4 33.3%

  • I experienced the loss of a close family member as a child.

    Votes: 2 16.7%

  • As a child I had other experience not mentioned.

    Votes: 4 33.3%

  • I was raped as an adult.

    Votes: 1 8.3%

  • I've experienced domestic violence

    Votes: 5 41.7%

  • I feel responsible for someone elses death.

    Votes: 3 25.0%

  • I'm a war veteran and have had very bad experiences conected to that.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I've been mugged.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • My house has been burgled.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I've had house fire, terrorist attack, tornado, or other disaster.

    Votes: 1 8.3%

  • I've been homeless.

    Votes: 3 25.0%

  • I've had an abortion.

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • I've lost a parent, child, or spouse.

    Votes: 3 25.0%

  • I've had another tramatic experience not mentioned above.

    Votes: 6 50.0%
  • Total voters
    12
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Hear Again said:
i hope i didn't trigger you by writing that, ocean. if i did, i'm sorry. :(
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You didn't. I have to actually be subjected to it to be triggered. Yelling, screaming, foul language, and discussions about sex are all triggers for me.
 
my vote is I experienced the loss of a close family member as a child. But im loss family when i was adult i make lists on member:

late Grandfather 1976
Great-Grandparents - 1995 and 1999
Step-Father-2000
Grandmother - 2007
Great-Aunts-1999,2004
 
i'm sorry for your losses, sara. <hugs> i know how you feel. i lost my father in 1999, one of my sisters in 2001, my mother in 2004 and a very close, dear friend in 2005.
 
Hear Again said:
i'm sorry for your losses, sara. <hugs> i know how you feel. i lost my father in 1999, one of my sisters in 2001, my mother in 2004 and a very close, dear friend in 2005.
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i know its hard for me on my losses when my grandma dies in 2007 and i cant going anywhere for weeks till im feel better.

but im been lose family member every years side of my mom's lots and sometimes my dad's but i didnt attend my late grandfather boyce's funeral.
 
sara1981 said:
i know its hard for me on my losses when my grandma dies in 2007 and i cant going anywhere for weeks till im feel better.

but im been lose family member every years side of my mom's lots and sometimes my dad's but i didnt attend my late grandfather boyce's funeral.
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how are you doing emotionally, sara? losing someone is always hard -- even when a loss has taken place many years ago. sometimes it takes a lifetime to grieve. i know i still mourn the loss of everyone i mentioned terribly -- especially my mother and close friend.
 
I had acute PTSD after the birth of Miss Kat. It was a terrible terrible thing, and we believed we would loose her. It is a long story, and I blamed myself....

I remeber 2 months after she was born I had to go back into the same room where she was born and visit my friend. I threw up from the smell. I remember the smell of the hospital to this day, it still makes me sick.
 
I am really sorry to hear about that, faire jour.
 
jillio said:
I am really sorry to hear about that, faire jour.
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It took a long time, and a lot of work, but I feel like I'm moving on. I have my girl, and while things went very badly that day, it could have turned out much worse.
When we went to trial of the malpractice in December, I had to listen and relive the whole thing....that was exhausting. It wasn't great to hear the defense blame me but I made it through.
 
faire_jour said:
It took a long time, and a lot of work, but I feel like I'm moving on. I have my girl, and while things went very badly that day, it could have turned out much worse.
When we went to trial of the malpractice in December, I had to listen and relive the whole thing....that was exhausting. It wasn't great to hear the defense blame me but I made it through.
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It does take hard work to deal with PTSD, and I admire anyone that puts the amount of effort into it that it takes.

I can't imagine what it was like to sit through that trial for you. It had to one of the most emotionally exhausting things you have ever endured.

Kudos to you.:hug:
 
jillio said:
It does take hard work to deal with PTSD, and I admire anyone that puts the amount of effort into it that it takes.

I can't imagine what it was like to sit through that trial for you. It had to one of the most emotionally exhausting things you have ever endured.

Kudos to you.:hug:
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I have to say that my anti-anxiety meds have been a lifesaver. I have no idea what it would have been like otherwise.
 
Jillio, question:

What say you about someone who avoids triggers to cope? Is that working to heal or just avoiding trauma? I'm putting myself out here with this question. I admit that I avoid alot of triggers when I can do so. I won't watch certain movies. I try to avoid crass language. I virtually want to run and hide when I hear arguing around me. I recoil when someone is angry at me or just angry in general. I just feel so BAD when I am confronted with certain triggers that i don't want to experience the feelings of dread that I get, so I avoid what I can. Is that wrong?
 
jillio said:
Nothing wrong with meds. They are quite often necessary.
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I heart seroquel! Nothing better than being able to go to sleep at night without racing thoughts and being able to drive in rush hour without pulling over in tears!
 
faire_jour said:
I heart seroquel! Nothing better than being able to go to sleep at night without racing thoughts and being able to drive in rush hour without pulling over in tears!
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I know what you mean, Fair Jour. I am not on seroquel. In fact, it was a horrible drug for ME, but I am on a regimen that works very well. I have suffered from PTSD from abuse for years, and I can attest that the right med (or med regimen) works wonders for those of us who suffer.
 
Oceanbreeze said:
Jillio, question:

What say you about someone who avoids triggers to cope? Is that working to heal or just avoiding trauma? I'm putting myself out here with this question. I admit that I avoid alot of triggers when I can do so. I won't watch certain movies. I try to avoid crass language. I virtually want to run and hide when I hear arguing around me. I recoil when someone is angry at me or just angry in general. I just feel so BAD when I am confronted with certain triggers that i don't want to experience the feelings of dread that I get, so I avoid what I can. Is that wrong?
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Avoiding triggers is certainly an effective way to manage symptoms. But in order to actually heal in the sense that the triggers no longer send you into an unmanageable episode of PTSD, takes some long term therapy and insight. Not everyone is able to acheive that, however. It doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with them, just that their abuse was so horrific and left so many scars that it is impossible for them to revisit it in a way that will permit that deep healing. In fact, most often, a combination of meds and avoiding triggers is the treatment used. Part of that is because, thanks to insurance restrictions, so many people are limited to brief interventions.
 
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