Post Thanksgiving Musings

TXgolfer said:
Yes ma'am.....I had someone typing the conversation. I did the same thing when my dad passed away. I can catch most of the conversation with HA and lip reading and then check the screen if I get lost. It works for us.
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CART?? :lol: Tx, you are just too social!
 
TXgolfer said:
Yes ma'am.....I had someone typing the conversation. I did the same thing when my dad passed away. I can catch most of the conversation with HA and lip reading and then check the screen if I get lost. It works for us.
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Ooohh, I LIKE...A LOT!! So you hire someone to type for you or family/friend do this?

Is this similar, how say, technology to what Deaf university students have now so can understand professor?
 
Jazzberry said:
Thanks Jillio. Would you care to take a trip back in time and explain all that to my family? :)

Oh well, I guess you can't. /* snaps fingers */

But I'm glad that you are here now to help explain things to the parents that come to the board asking questions now.
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:ty:
 
mbrek said:
I just had a light bulb going off in my head after reading this, but please - tell me if my analogy is wrong.

Would you say that not teaching a deaf child (CI or oral) ASL would be like not teaching a child how to do division? Thinking instead that calculators are readily available everywhere, so why should we teach them how the process works?
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Yep. I can see that.
 
Jazzberry said:
Yep. But it's a different kind of exhaustion, not the kind you get from a good workout.
I remember when I was a kid I would be sitting at the dinner table and be very frustrated as I didn't really know what was being said -- just a vague idea here and there when I would catch a word or two. When I was older, around 12, I tried a few times to ask questions and to get an idea as to what was going on.

My brother yelled at me and said, "You have no idea what or who we are talking about, stop interrupting!"

My parents and sister said nothing, just paused for a moment until they could get back into the conversation again.

He was 18 at the time, my sister was 17 and of course my parents were adults.

So they did know the effect that hearing loss had on me, but they did not want to take any action that would inconvenience them.

I have more stories, but I think most of you here already know what they are.
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It is a mental and emotional exhaustion. That takes more of a toll on you than a physical exhaustion, and particularly when the mental and emotional effort leading to the exhaustion appears to be completely unproductive. That level of stress wreaks havoc on your body, as well.
 
My thanks giving holiday didn't end well with my little sister. I didn't really interact much with my family because I had a hard time following them. Then I set the dogs off barking around 1 am much to my little sister's annoyance.

Plus I had the montlies and they can be quite heavy and I will grant that I could have done a better job of cleaning up after myself when I went to the bathroom early in the morning. My little sister told me that if I wanted to be a guest in the future, I would need to do a better job. I told her I would not be back. I'm sick of walking on eggshells and I'm sick of this bs so I will not be back next year. It's not worth it.
 
deafskeptic said:
My thanks giving holiday didn't end well with my little sister. I didn't really interact much with my family because I had a hard time following them. Then I set the dogs off barking around 1 am much to my little sister's annoyance.

Plus I had the montlies and they can be quite heavy and I will grant that I could have done a better job of cleaning up after myself when I went to the bathroom early in the morning. My little sister told me that if I wanted to be a guest in the future, I would need to do a better job. I told her I would not be back. I'm sick of walking on eggshells and I'm sick of this bs so I will not be back next year. It's not worth it.
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she told me that I needed some sort of assisted living or help to deal with creating chaos for everyone.. .
 
rebeccalj said:
Ooohh, I LIKE...A LOT!! So you hire someone to type for you or family/friend do this?

Is this similar, how say, technology to what Deaf university students have now so can understand professor?
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A friend of mine had no plans so I invited her for Thanksgiving to eat and paid her to type.

When my dad passed away I hired someone that could type really fast because we had to make alot of plans....he went unexpectedly and I am like the family boss anyway. :lol: . I pretty much followed along with HAs and lip reading and when I got lost I would hold up a finger for them to pause and I would look at the screen to catch up. It worked well.

I am trying to get my church to do something similar on our screens because we have lots of elderly members.
 
jillio said:
How rude!
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It hurts a great deal because my dad said a similar thing in a letter to my little sister a few years ago. He was serious so you can see why I don't like having family over...
 
deafskeptic said:
It hurts a great deal because my dad said a similar thing in a letter to my little sister a few years ago. He was serious so you can see why I don't like having family over...
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I always feel like I could get put in a home if my family could find the right channels..
 
deafskeptic said:
It hurts a great deal because my dad said a similar thing in a letter to my little sister a few years ago. He was serious so you can see why I don't like having family over...
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Sure can. I would avoid that kind of stressful situation like the plague! I would rather spend a holiday by myself than to put myself through that kind of humilation just to be in the same room with "family".
 
jillio said:
Sure can. I would avoid that kind of stressful situation like the plague! I would rather spend a holiday by myself than to put myself through that kind of humilation just to be in the same room with "family".
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Me too. I've had enough.
 
deafskeptic said:
I always feel like I could get put in a home if my family could find the right channels..
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That is a whole lot easier said than done. They might try...but no way they could be successful. No one could ever find you incompetent to care for yourself. You are far too articulate and reasonable.
 
jillio said:
That is a whole lot easier said than done. They might try...but no way they could be successful. No one could ever find you incompetent to care for yourself. You are far too articulate and reasonable.
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if a tad disorganized. :P
 
My brother yelled at me and said, "You have no idea what or who we are talking about, stop interrupting!"
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:eek3:

A rude bully.

My parents and sister said nothing, just paused for a moment until they could get back into the conversation again.
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:thumbd: Insensitive wimps.

Yes, while I am never being addressed in such a rude way,
certain members of my family sometimes tell me "just wait, please " or "oh, never mind, it's not important"
which irritates the heck out of me, grr.
And while I can stomach "wait please" as sometimes what are they talking about may stress them out, so I should let them have it first worked out,
the other thing, though - grrr
maybe it's not important indeed but it sure does not make me feel good
being excluded from the "in-crowd", either.

My friends, though, never dare to do that to me and that's why I like my friends more than my family.
At the most they politely ask to wait if this is something that is very involving and emotional.
Them I happily oblige, because at other times they truly try hard to include me. I am so grateful.

Guess I know how you feel.

How are things today with family talks at the table?
Do they include you now, I hope?

Fuzzy
 
Jazzberry, we had the same Thanksgiving experience. How ironic the very holiday that is based on being thankful makes us feel quite the opposite? And your car experience? Ugh all the way. My solution to staying preoccupied in the car is to play Scrabble on my iPod touch (highest word score: 131 points on "lasering", a triple word play - can you tell I play quite a bit?). This keeps the pressure off of talking, and also keeps my mind off of the fact that I CAN'T talk in cars.

Your party was exactly like mine except my parents add a little something special to the mix: watching family home videos. They had all their camcorder tapes converted to DVDs, tapes covering vacations we took when I was a kid. I have to sit and watch my whole family laugh for two hours, mostly at things the kid-me was saying on the videos - I couldn't follow along because obviously home videos are not captioned. And the extra annoying part is when the laughter dies down, someone turns to me and says, "Did you hear that funny thing you said?" and they repeat it for me, but it fails to be funny long after the fact. This year, I took my leave in the middle of the home videos viewing, it wasn't even 7pm.
 
Abby, I would have just roared laughing and for dramatic flair I would fall off my chair laughing. Then calmly returned to my chair and respond "no, I'm deaf, I have no idea what is being said on the videos. But you guys enjoy, I'm going to help myself to more of that pumpkin pie!" I would then plop myself in a chair in another room with my AD friends on my iPad and enjoy being with friends while munching on my favorite Thanksgiving desert.

But then again, that's just me! :D
 
Jazzberry said:
Why on earth isn't ASL recommended by more specialists for the deaf and HH automatically? It's not rocket science ladies and gentlemen. It's damn obvious that it's the right thing to do. Looking back, I feel that I was always asked to do the impossible, starting from when I was a toddler. I didn't question it and the way I handled it was I gave everything 120% and didn't stop to think about it. I understand why I did this. I was a HH child growing up in a hearing family that wanted easy solutions -- solutions that were easy for them, not me. The ENTs, audis, hearing aid dealers, and speech therapists told my parents what they wanted to hear. But still, I wish I had taken a moment to stop and think for myself earlier in life.
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because their job is to help people hear. why would they recommend ASL?
 
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