Polygamy

jillio said:
Well said. If one will only take an honest look at the patterns, one will develop insight.
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There is an old, old, O L D, story I was taught. It makes things pretty simple.

If you drive to town and you meet an idiotic jerk on your way you no doubt met an idiotic jerk.

If you met two idiotic jerks on the way to town you just may have met two idiotic jerks.

But if you met three idiotic jerks on the way to town -- Take a look in the mirror. YOU are the idiotic jerk.
 
Berry said:
There is an old, old, O L D, story I was taught. It makes things pretty simple.

If you drive to town and you meet an idiotic jerk on your way you no doubt met an idiotic jerk.

If you met two idiotic jerks on the way to town you just may have met two idiotic jerks.

But if you met three idiotic jerks on the way to town -- Take a look in the mirror. YOU are the idiotic jerk.
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I can think of so many threads that would be pertinent in right now!:lol:
 
Berry said:
There is an old, old, O L D, story I was taught. It makes things pretty simple.

If you drive to town and you meet an idiotic jerk on your way you no doubt met an idiotic jerk.

If you met two idiotic jerks on the way to town you just may have met two idiotic jerks.

But if you met three idiotic jerks on the way to town -- Take a look in the mirror. YOU are the idiotic jerk.
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:hmm:
So I guess I'm the negative one? I think I need a break from life...
 
jillio said:
Well said. If one will only take an honest look at the patterns, one will develop insight.
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Well, I've always tried to gravitate towards people who are nice and kind, but then there was a period of years where I realized people were just using me for their own personal gain, whatever it may be. The people I cherish the most in my life are the ones that showed me kindness, gentleness, and support. Those who would laugh with me as well as cry with me. Those who are willing to work it out rather than just walk away or throw me out like disposable garbage. Sadly, those that have been kind tend to fade away after a year or two. Sometimes, I wonder if it's me. If that's the pattern, then there's something 'wrong' with me, or at least my attitude. Maybe I'm too needy, maybe I'm just not as confident as everyone else, I don't know. All I know is, in the whole scheme of things I just want someone to be my friend. I had to learn things about friendships in my early 20s that I should have learned in middle school and junior high because no one wanted to be friends. I was the weird fucked up kid. That's the best I can do.
 
Dixie said:
Well, I've always tried to gravitate towards people who are nice and kind, but then there was a period of years where I realized people were just using me for their own personal gain, whatever it may be. The people I cherish the most in my life are the ones that showed me kindness, gentleness, and support. Those who would laugh with me as well as cry with me. Those who are willing to work it out rather than just walk away or throw me out like disposable garbage. Sadly, those that have been kind tend to fade away after a year or two. Sometimes, I wonder if it's me. If that's the pattern, then there's something 'wrong' with me, or at least my attitude. Maybe I'm too needy, maybe I'm just not as confident as everyone else, I don't know. All I know is, in the whole scheme of things I just want someone to be my friend. I had to learn things about friendships in my early 20s that I should have learned in middle school and junior high because no one wanted to be friends. I was the weird fucked up kid. That's the best I can do.
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You just need to look at what happened before those people drifted away, and why it continues to happen. There is a common denominator there. Sometimes it is painful to see.
 
jillio said:
You just need to look at what happened before those people drifted away, and why it continues to happen. There is a common denominator there. Sometimes it is painful to see.
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:Oops: I'm almost ashamed to say it was very likely my fault. Maybe I felt these people were getting too close to me, so I pushed them away subconsciously. Does that make any sense? I'm willing to admit my own faults. If there's a personality flaw I have, I hope to have it pointed out so as to not repeat the same mistakes over and over.

I also feel like this is getting to be a Kumbiyah/Dr. Phil moment. :shock:
 
Dixie said:
:Oops: I'm almost ashamed to say it was very likely my fault. Maybe I felt these people were getting too close to me, so I pushed them away subconsciously. Does that make any sense? I'm willing to admit my own faults. If there's a personality flaw I have, I hope to have it pointed out so as to not repeat the same mistakes over and over.

I also feel like this is getting to be a Kumbiyah/Dr. Phil moment. :shock:
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Sure it makes sense. Many people will push others away like this.
 
jillio said:
Reasons for monogamy are, as I stated before, social creations. They have very little to do with the natural state of man.
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In present times, I would add viruses, especially HIV to the reason why man should be monogamous.
 
They can go and have sex with people as many as they pleasure like general animals would. They can do whatever they want, because their actions are still their choices.

Personally, I won't call that action as a real love if it is not for serious relationships, IMHO.
 
KarissaMann05 said:
They can go and have sex with people as many as they pleasure like general animals would. They can do whatever they want, because their actions are still their choices.

Personally, I won't call that action as a real love if it is not for serious relationships, IMHO.
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Sometimes I regret flaunting my sense of propriety. :P
 
IMHO, polygamist relationships creates jealousy and that creates chaos, and it creates a really messed up reality, then it creates an even more messed up mindset.
 
am i wrong did someone says polygamy is a survival technique or it requires it?
 
Dixie said:
IMHO, polygamist relationships creates jealousy and that creates chaos, and it creates a really messed up reality, then it creates an even more messed up mindset.
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only in suburbs.
 
jillio said:
It is still a socially created survival technique.
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Then it is socially created surivival technique when men insisted on polygyny. It was the only way a man could know that the child is his. He would want to have many children as many had died in childhood. All that had nothing to do with man's nature?

Polyandry is also socially created survival technique when men outnumbered women.
 
Dixie said:
IMHO, polygamist relationships creates jealousy and that creates chaos, and it creates a really messed up reality, then it creates an even more messed up mindset.
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I'm no expert on this, but it depends on the culture of those involved. I can see how it can "cause" chaos in the USA, since so many Americans are already screwed up in the head and already prone to jealousy or what have you, and polygamy would merely show them. The thing is, among my friends who have no jealous bone in their bodies are the least likely to engage in polygamy. The trust between them and their partners is absolute, yet they remain loyal to each other.
 
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