Poll of the deaf and HOH...

Do You Have a Negative View of Most Hearies in Our Society?

  • Yes

    Votes: 3 9.4%
  • No

    Votes: 23 71.9%
  • Uncertain

    Votes: 6 18.8%

  • Total voters
    32
  • Poll closed .

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Please comment on your vote if you wish.
 
Not really since I was hearing and have only been deaf (total 100%) since 03/08. I have to rely on the hearing more since I still don't know enough sign and no one here in this God forsaken town know ASL anyway.
 
My negative views are more of the attitudes of the audists hold not of hearing people in general. I have a hearing hubby and hearing friends. All I ask of them is to respect my deaf needs and not tell me that I need to do this or that to improve myself. So I voted no..
 
Say what you will but I answered yes. Although there are always exceptions to the rule, but most hearies have an intensely negative reaction whenever I say that I'm HOH as if I'm some kind of cripple everybody should avoid and feel sorry for. This is an incredibly rude and shallow reaction that shows they can't accept someone who isn't perfect in some very insignificant way.
 
I don't have a negative view of most hearies, but there are a few notable exceptions...

I think that, like any other group that has it's unique characteristics, Deaf will have those people that don't "get it" and maybe never will. I'd like to think it's out of ignorance and not senseless bigotry. My response is to try and educate.
 
I also voted uncertain. Certainly not with my own family, but I have experienced being picked on and made fun of too often in public by smart aleck strangers that I am pretty mistrustful.
 
I also voted uncertain. Certainly not with my own family, but I have experienced being picked on and made fun of too often in public by smart aleck strangers that I am pretty mistrustful.

I also vote uncertain, I have the same problems as Bottesini except my family gave me a hard time.
 
I think to go into detail, the following is probably an ideal representation of how to judge one..

A) Age: For HOH @ public schools, age tends to play a very large factor, It is hard to fit in. As you get older and are in college, or further progressing at a post-balaccurate, seems like it gets accepted a bit more.

B) Ethincity & Culture: A person's nationality teaches them how to respect (or disrespect) others. This is passed down by the family

C) Psychological Self-mentality: How the non-deaf people perceive their personality to be. This is how they define their personality as they grow up. Are they punishers, bullies, or are they silent gawking gossipy behind-your-back people, or are they people who have other things to worry about, or are they real laid back persons?

I think these are three major conditions that I can think of that defines how we then evaluate other citizens.

I've seen plenty people who were good at two of these traits, but short in another. We all know we are annoyed by those that fail in all three conditions.
 
I never had any problems with hearing people... But, what I find interesting, is that I recently studied at a school with younger students, and I was never treated differently by the students (or teachers). Nobody made fun of me or said stupid remarks, etc...

Yet, I work with older people in my department in a hospital that also associates with aged care. Sometimes I feel I am working in a hostile environment... It seems to me that young people are better understanding from my perspective.

Anyway, overall, I have no issues with hearings. There are good and bad people in both worlds.
 
I sometimes wonder if people without disabilities (of any kind) are hostile to those who have disabilities because they don't want to be reminded that it could happen to them.

On the other hand, it seems that some people lack empathy and compassion. Fortunately, there are tolerant people out there-otherwise, having any kind of disability would be absolute hell.
 
I don't have a negative view of most hearies, but there are a few notable exceptions...

I think that, like any other group that has it's unique characteristics, Deaf will have those people that don't "get it" and maybe never will. I'd like to think it's out of ignorance and not senseless bigotry. My response is to try and educate.

i couldn't agree more, doc. i don't have a problem with hearing people. in fact, i've found that (even back in my hearing aid days) when i calmly and politely explain how they can best communicate with me, they are more than willing to do so. of course, that's not to say i haven't met ignorant or rude people along the way, but in my case, they have been far and few between. the only complaint i really have against those who are sighted-hearing is their claim that i'm amazing because of the things i do. i always like to tell them, "i don't do amazing things. i do normal things differently."
 
Hmm, This is an interesting thread.

I don't have any negative views on hearing people.

Sure, I've may encountered several situations where it gets frustrating with hearing people but that does not make me think any less of them. Yeah, It can be annoying sometimes when they don't get it but that doesn't make it any different than it should be because there are always some good/bad hearing people out there just as much as there are good/bad deaf people out there too.
 
the only complaint i really have against those who are sighted-hearing is their claim that i'm amazing because of the things i do. i always like to tell them, "i don't do amazing things. i do normal things differently."

Amen, and well said. Some people think I'm an "inspiration" and "so brave" because I'm a deaf quadriplegic. Somedays you get tired of the "burden" of inspiring, and just want to be an average person getting through life the best you can.
 
Amen, and well said. Some people think I'm an "inspiration" and "so brave" because I'm a deaf quadriplegic. Somedays you get tired of the "burden" of inspiring, and just want to be an average person getting through life the best you can.

yes, as a child, I was so "special", so "brave" and an "inpiration" and I was told that other deaf children should look up to me. All because I can speak well for someone with profound deafness? I wish I had said "Kiss my ass!"
 


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