People that think it's OK to Yell or bang on your door

[whatdidyousay!]

I have a neighbor that feels he has the rights to pounds on my door if I do not answer it fast enough for him. He pounds on my door so hard I am worried he will damage the door jamb as it old wood . My neighbor feel
because I am HOH it is OK pounds on my door as long as he want to!
He came to my door a couple of days ago and rang my doorbell 2 times really fast and a second later he start pounding on my door with his two fists yelling " I know you're in there!" I told him to wait a minute but the jerk was making so much noise he could not hear me. He wanted me to move my car so the parking spaces could be plowed out , the guy is a renter ,I own my condo, and ours cars where only to be moved when the driveway was done and it was not in this case. I let my neighbor moved my car and when upstairs a few hours later to thanks him for moving my car and asked him not to bang on my door so loud anymore. He got pissed off and said he would not do me anymore favors , and NOT to talk to him and his wife anymore! I did NOT ask him to move my car he volunteered to move my car. I can't believe my my neighbor is so angry at me for asking him to not pounds on my door anymore, he has done this before but I said nothing . I am sick of people that think they have the rights to yell at a person that HOH or deaf or to pounds on their door . I saw the wife today when I was in my car and I waved to her and she did not wave back likeshe used to do. I hated being on bad terms with my neighbors and I hate it more when I did NOTHING wrong.

 

[Jiro]

better go over to his place and have a talk.

 

[dereksbicycles]

Have a hidden camera. Catch your neighbor in action.

 

[TXgolfer]

I have a neighbor that feels he has the rights to pounds on my door if I do not answer it fast enough for him. He pounds on my door so hard I am worried he will damage the door jamb as it old wood . My neighbor feel
because I am HOH it is OK pounds on my door as long as he want to!
He came to my door a couple of days ago and rang my doorbell 2 times really fast and a second later he start pounding on my door with his two fists yelling " I know you're in there!" I told him to wait a minute but the jerk was making so much noise he could not hear me. He wanted me to move my car so the parking spaces could be plowed out , the guy is a renter ,I own my condo, and ours cars where only to be moved when the driveway was done and it was not in this case. I let my neighbor moved my car and when upstairs a few hours later to thanks him for moving my car and asked him not to bang on my door so loud anymore. He got pissed off and said he would not do me anymore favors , and NOT to talk to him and his wife anymore! I did NOT ask him to move my car he volunteered to move my car. I can't believe my my neighbor is so angry at me for asking him to not pounds on my door anymore, he has done this before but I said nothing . I am sick of people that think they have the rights to yell at a person that HOH or deaf or to pounds on their door . I saw the wife today when I was in my car and I waved to her and she did not wave back likeshe used to do. I hated being on bad terms with my neighbors and I hate it more when I did NOTHING wrong.

If you hate being on bad terms with your neighbors, ask yourself if it was really necessary to complain about knocking on the door.....especially after he had just done you a favor. The problem is, deaf people complain about hearing people not making accommodations, in this guys mind he is making an accommodation by knocking harder. Unless the neighbor is coming over 40 times a day it is hard to see why this would be such an irritation.

 

[TXgolfer]

Have a hidden camera. Catch your neighbor in action.

What?

 

[whatdidyousay!]

better go over to his place and have a talk.

Yeah I agree but I am not sure what to say as the guy seems to have a fragile ego. I thought of bring something as a peace offering but I think he is diabetic . I really want to nip this in the bud before it drag on too long.
He seen to hate having people disagreeing with him. I told him once I almost fell on some ice on the steps and he said he saw no ice on the steps last night and I was talking about the in morning . He said there was no ice and that is it. So how do you talk to a guy that has to be right about everything? I know there was ice as I amost got hurt.

 

[Jiro]

Yeah I agree but I am not sure what to say as the guy seems to have a fragile ego. I thought of bring something as a peace offering but I think he is diabetic . I really want to nip this in the bud before it drag on too long.
He seen to hate having people disagreeing with him. I told him once I almost fell on some ice on the steps and he said he saw no ice on the steps last night and I was talking about the in morning . He said there was no ice and that is it. So how do you talk to a guy that has to be right about everything? I know there was ice as I amost got hurt.

maybe talk to his wife instead?

 

[rockin'robin]

Maybe the neighbor didn't know of any other way to get ur attention?....I'm not HOH, I'm profound deaf...so my doggie or even my boys (who can hear) lets me know someone is at the door or the boys answer it....

If your doorbell has a light...then perhaps ur neighbor didn't know it?...HOH to hearing people means "you can hear some...but have to yell or pound on something to get attention"....

I would have just noted to my neighbor that there was no need to "yell or pound" on the door as you have a door bell light and ur doggie alerts you when someone is at the door....and laugh about it...have a sense of humor....because I feel ur neighbor just didn't know...

Go over to ur neighbors condo...pound on the door...and ring the door bell...and yell...."I know you're in there!".......I'm sure ur neighbor will understand after that.

 

[dereksbicycles]

I just read more of the story. Maybe if the car was turbocharged, the neighbor will continue to do favor. I'm guessing that the car is not turbocharged so I don't blame neighbor for not wanting to move it again.

 

[whatdidyousay!]

If you hate being on bad terms with your neighbors, ask yourself if it was really necessary to complain about knocking on the door.....especially after he had just done you a favor. The problem is, deaf people complain about hearing people not making accommodations, in this guys mind he is making an accommodation by knocking harder. Unless the neighbor is coming over 40 times a day it is hard to see why this would be such an irritation.

I said the wood in my door jamb is very old. My condo was build in the
70's and the wood has never been replace , and I am NOT allowed have a new door jamb put in. The condo association does this . He was not knocking on my door he was POUNDING on my door and there is a huge difference .And he said was going to be coming back to let me know when it was OK to move my car back into my space and I did not want him pounding on my door again. I still feel that is my door and I have a right to not have someone pounding on it no matter often or little it happen. He gave me no time to get my door , he wanted me to answer is faster , I was trying to tell him I needed more time to get to my door and he got pissed off. The guy is totally
unreaonable , he know I have to use a cane as my balance is poor.

 

[whatdidyousay!]

I just read more of the story. Maybe if the car was turbocharged, the neighbor will continue to do favor. I'm guessing that the car is not turbocharged so I don't blame neighbor for not wanting to move it again.

Wow you have a one track mind. I would not let my neighbor move my car again . He was in my car for only a few seconds and he moved my rearveiw mirror, put my driver set almost all the way down and pushed my seat all the way back and the guy is no taller than me. I know it only take a second to fixed this but I thought it was odd that he had to readjust my car like that just to move it a few feet.

 

[Babyblue]

Wirelessly posted

better go over to his place and have a talk.

Yeah I agree but I am not sure what to say as the guy seems to have a fragile ego. I thought of bring something as a peace offering but I think he is diabetic . I really want to nip this in the bud before it drag on too long.
He seen to hate having people disagreeing with him. I told him once I almost fell on some ice on the steps and he said he saw no ice on the steps last night and I was talking about the in morning . He said there was no ice and that is it. So how do you talk to a guy that has to be right about everything? I know there was ice as I amost got hurt.

Don't let that intimidate you. Tell him that your door is fragile and he doesn't have to beat it down to get your attention.

 

[VacationGuy234]

NEVER, let anyone move your car.

A few ground rules:
Coworkers are not your friends.
Neighbors are not your friends.
People you ride the subway with are not your friends.

Be nice and civil to all your acquaintances, but that's about it.

 

[Jiro]

NEVER, let anyone move your car.

A few ground rules:
Coworkers are not your friends.
Neighbors are not your friends.
People you ride the subway with are not your friends.

Be nice and civil to all your acquaintances, but that's about it.

that's sad.

 

[VacationGuy234]

It's reality. You cannot be friends with someone who is not friends with you. It's delusional. Friendship is a two way street.

The guy doesn't want him talking to him or his wife anymore. Obviously, he's not a friend.

 

[Jiro]

It's reality. You cannot be friends with someone who is not friends with you. It's delusional. Friendship is a two way street.

so.... how do you make friend then? everybody starts off as a stranger at first.

The guy doesn't want him talking to him or his wife anymore. Obviously, he's not a friend.

she never said he's her friend. just a neighbor.

 

[Tousi]

If you hate being on bad terms with your neighbors, ask yourself if it was really necessary to complain about knocking on the door.....especially after he had just done you a favor. The problem is, deaf people complain about hearing people not making accommodations, in this guys mind he is making an accommodation by knocking harder. Unless the neighbor is coming over 40 times a day it is hard to see why this would be such an irritation.

Yeah, oh, the irony!

 

[VacationGuy234]

so.... how do you make friend then? everybody starts off as a stranger at first.


she never said he's her friend. just a neighbor.

By being nice and civil to your acquaintances. Friendships are made by two people.

Exactly my point, don't expect a friendship response and you won't get mad about it.

 

[radioman]

you are handling this all wrong. You need to write a detailed letter telling what happened. You have concerns about the property and you wish not to be responsible for the door jamb and you would like it to last as long as possible. If you are right about "moving the car after its been plowed" then you need to document what day and what time the neighbor wanted to move your car and state that it was not plowed yet and you reviewed your condo lease terms. Explain at the end you would like a resolution and you want a cease and desist notice served to your neighbor NOT to bang on the door, and NOT to move other people cars just because its going to be plowed soon. You also need to restate what was exactly written for your condo rules about plowing. Tell the condo assoication that you will need a personal inspection of your door to address your concerns of old wood and how you observed the moulding was moving from pounding on the door . I would also state that if your neighbor insists this is how he gets your attention, then very calmly tell the condo assiocation that you will need a door flasher due to ADA law and your neighbor wants a way to get your attention. Dont say you need one. Don't get one yourself unless you have a letter in your hand saying you have permission to install a door flasher equipment and it has information on how it can be installed.

As a landlord myself - this is exactly what you need to do and it does work.

 

[Jiro]

By being nice and civil to your acquaintances. Friendships are made by two people.

Exactly my point, don't expect a friendship response and you won't get mad about it.

O_o

I think that's a weird advice. maybe you should try visiting south and experience a Southern hospitality.