One night stand

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sallylou said:
Society forces women into the whore/madonna system. Women are neither whores nor madonnas. We're people. And we like sex.

We NEED it...it's biological. It's nature. And men...bam bam thank you ma'ams might get you off...but if the ladies are not satisfied, you're nothing but vibrators with dead batteries.
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rockin'robin said:
Sunny...is it correct that you had a "one night stand" while being "committed" to Dallas?...(Correct me if I'm wrong, and an apology)....

But anyhow,did it make you "feel better" or feeling you "got even"?....And ur "begging" Dallas for forgiveness and ur "sorry"?...Made you feel worse afterwards?

If you think a "one night stand" is fine (with a stranger), even a "friend"...(which in my opinion is a very good way to lose a friendship)...then why are you begging Dallas for "forgiveness and saying you are sorry"??
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Dallas and I broke up before the one night stand (my mom would be so proud know a whole thread devoted discussing my sex life lol). Don't feel I got eve, as was my intent, because cheating isn't what he did me. So it was different. Sober Sunny see this!!! After, I realize I forgive him what he did...so I hope he forgive me too. Not look good yet though :(

And I do think one night stand okay, in general. In this case, I was wrong do it though.
 
jillio said:
The way I understand it, one night stand just means impulsive sex with a person for that one time with no intention of it going any further. Doesn't matter whether you know the person or not. You can have a one night stand with someone you know.
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And usually it seem like good idea at the time but in the morning not so much. :giggle:
 
Tousi said:
That was mentioned because, at some point along the way here, the OP turned pouty at some of the opinions proffered. Dunno how old she is but what was she expecting????
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The OP is a young lady who, like many of us at her age, thought about doing something, did it, and likely regret later. Not pouty at all. Feeling like being judged as though she is only lady on planet to do one night stand.

I won't sit here to judge. I've done the exact same thing when young. Feel stupid later. Poor judgment. But, I also learn and I know she will, too.
 
shel90 said:
I am SO happy I got a chance to be a" slut" after my divorce. Got that off my chest so I will not have any regrets looking back. I actually did have fun. :giggle:
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I hear ya Shel. Well, I don't, but... :giggle:

I was virgin bride for first marriage and I make up for it when we divorce. :cool2:
 
posts from hell said:
for very few, theres issues. But for the rest of them - awesome.
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^^^^^^ This!

I have pillow friend for years, on and off. We knew the boundaries. That there was no *relationship* but we trust each other and knew it was 'safe' to be intimate to each other. Unfortunately, after 5 year, on and off, he fall in love and I say, "NO!" :shock:
 
rebeccalj said:
The OP is a young lady who, like many of us at her age, thought about doing something, did it, and likely regret later. Not pouty at all. Feeling like being judged as though she is only lady on planet to do one night stand.

I won't sit here to judge. I've done the exact same thing when young. Feel stupid later. Poor judgment. But, I also learn and I know she will, too.
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The pout is about asking for opinions and then complaining when she gets them.

If one doesn't want to get critical opinions, one shouldn't ask for opinions on the matter.

Does anyone at AD really expect to get all affirmative opinions to any of the questions asked? AD isn't made up of "yes men" who are of only one opinion.
 
sunny_signs said:
Dallas and I broke up before the one night stand (my mom would be so proud know a whole thread devoted discussing my sex life lol). Don't feel I got eve, as was my intent, because cheating isn't what he did me. So it was different. Sober Sunny see this!!! After, I realize I forgive him what he did...so I hope he forgive me too. Not look good yet though :(

And I do think one night stand okay, in general. In this case, I was wrong do it though.
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No worries, we all make mistakes! It's good that you perhaps "learned" from that mistake....And I agree, having a "one night stand" to "get even" with a partner, most times, will backfire in ur face....A lot of people do this to get even with a partner that has cheated on them but feel even worse after it.

When a partner cheats...it's very hard to get back the trust you had before....Suspicion always rears its ugly head!....and I believe (but not sure if it's a fact), that men have a harder time forgiving a partner for cheating (sex with another man)....

Having a fight with ur partner...going out and getting drunk...and having a "one night stand" doesn't solve the problem, most times it makes it worse and you wake up feeling guilty.

Here's hoping you can regain ur b/f's trust (Dallas)...and forgiviness...and take it easy on the alcohol, girl!
 
Reba said:
The pout is about asking for opinions and then complaining when she gets them.

If one doesn't want to get critical opinions, one shouldn't ask for opinions on the matter.

Does anyone at AD really expect to get all affirmative opinions to any of the questions asked? AD isn't made up of "yes men" who are of only one opinion.
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Just too fresh. She post asking question about something she think of doing. Then she go through with it. OP start out with question then turn to reality. She already feel bad enough then read what she feel are judgment to her character. I know Sunny Sign offline and she is not like words posted here.

She is no slut or promiscuous or ho. Just a young lady who was hurting and think feel better to get back at boyfriend after break up. Not the first young lady to do something like this. Won't be the last.

I think she show incredible maturity to, in this very thread, already write about what she learn. That she take responsibility for her behaviour and understand why she do what she do. I know 40 and 50 somethings who cannot, or will not, do that. Very proud of her that she learn from experience. Many do not.
 
rockin'robin said:
No worries, we all make mistakes! It's good that you perhaps "learned" from that mistake....And I agree, having a "one night stand" to "get even" with a partner, most times, will backfire in ur face....A lot of people do this to get even with a partner that has cheated on them but feel even worse after it.

When a partner cheats...it's very hard to get back the trust you had before....Suspicion always rears its ugly head!....and I believe (but not sure if it's a fact), that men have a harder time forgiving a partner for cheating (sex with another man)....

Having a fight with ur partner...going out and getting drunk...and having a "one night stand" doesn't solve the problem, most times it makes it worse and you wake up feeling guilty.

Here's hoping you can regain ur b/f's trust (Dallas)...and forgiviness...and take it easy on the alcohol, girl!
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Men have, according to stats, harder time forgiving than women do. What I read is that women 'expect' men to look around. Men think women do not.

Besides, they were broken up. She do not cheat. She grown woman who can make choice for herself.
 
Reba said:
The pout is about asking for opinions and then complaining when she gets them.

If one doesn't want to get critical opinions, one shouldn't ask for opinions on the matter.

Does anyone at AD really expect to get all affirmative opinions to any of the questions asked? AD isn't made up of "yes men" who are of only one opinion.
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Huge difference in opinions which say: "this bad idea" or "one night stands never end well" and in opinions which say: "one night stand make you slut/promiscuous". I am fine with differing opinions, I am not fine with character assassinations based on differing opinions. Okay if you don't agree, feel free say so, I did ask...but absolutely no reason start name calling.
 
rebeccalj said:
Just too fresh. She post asking question about something she think of doing. Then she go through with it. OP start out with question then turn to reality. She already feel bad enough then read what she feel are judgment to her character. I know Sunny Sign offline and she is not like words posted here.

She is no slut or promiscuous or ho. Just a young lady who was hurting and think feel better to get back at boyfriend after break up. Not the first young lady to do something like this. Won't be the last.

I think she show incredible maturity to, in this very thread, already write about what she learn. That she take responsibility for her behaviour and understand why she do what she do. I know 40 and 50 somethings who cannot, or will not, do that. Very proud of her that she learn from experience. Many do not.
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You will make me cry!!!!! :ty: :kiss:
 
rebeccalj said:
Just too fresh. She post asking question about something she think of doing. Then she go through with it. OP start out with question then turn to reality. She already feel bad enough then read what she feel are judgment to her character. I know Sunny Sign offline and she is not like words posted here.

She is no slut or promiscuous or ho.
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Just for the record, I never called her any names.
 
sunny_signs said:
Huge difference in opinions which say: "this bad idea" or "one night stands never end well" and in opinions which say: "one night stand make you slut/promiscuous".
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That, I never said about you.

I am fine with differing opinions, I am not fine with character assassinations based on differing opinions. Okay if you don't agree, feel free say so, I did ask...but absolutely no reason start name calling.
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Which is why I don't use name calling.
 
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