Not know what name this...

My goodness. :eek3:

I'm really sorry to hear that. If you felt so slighted by your parents, it's much more understandable that you would turn to someone like Dallas.

How is your relationship with them and with your sister now? Sounds like your sister really looks after you, in a good way.
 
I never really feel slighted, they same my brothers, sisters. They just really not "into" whole be parents thing. Is what is I suppose! My sister pretty amazing, she my best friend. Our parents are around, just not huge part day to day life. Think they find us tiresome.
 
That breaks my heart to read that. I'm so sorry. Weren't you staying at your mom's place for a while?

My mom wouldn't even let me get my ears pierced until my 16th birthday. She didn't like the thought of "mutilating" myself like that!

This is the burden of the oldest girl; my sisters were allowed to do it much younger, and eventually Mom got her own ears pierced. It took us wearing her down a little.

On the scale of "over-protective" to "not all that interested," sounds like your mom comes up on the "not all that interested" side of things. I'm glad she's there for you to the extent she is, at least.
 
I was, but then she ask me leave so I move back home Dallas.

Is okay, beach girl, really. :)
 
Sunny,

Are you going to file a restraining order against him?
 
Sunshine said:
I was, but then she ask me leave so I move back home Dallas.

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Sunny, are you still at your mother's? If she asks you to leave again, do you have another place to go besides the place you shared with Dallas?

I realize you probably have a lot on your plate right now, but if you can, it might be a good idea to think of another place to live if necc.

A "plan B" -- I've always been a big fan of plan Bs.

Jazz
 
Sunshine said:
Even if all them say injury happen other way?
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Yep. It is not unusual for abused women to lie to medical personnel about the way an injury happened. It is very common, in fact. But you need those records to show a pattern of recurring injuries that just are not probable unless you are the biggest klutz on the earth.:P
 
Sunshine said:
Once upon time, Dallas very careful about where bruises. Never face, never visible. Plus, my parents sort of...oblivious me. I pretty much could come home once every six months r with tattoos all over my face, nobody care.
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Like I explained to you, they are always careful at first. Then the violence escalates and the stop being so careful and get very cocky about it. The abuser begins to think, "She will never turn me in, and she will lie to everyone to protect me. I can mark her up all I want to. She'll cover for me." One day they get very careless and strike too hard a blow that ends up with the abused woman being put in a casket.
 
Sunshine said:
Ah. Understand. That actually kind of embarrassing.
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You should never be embarrassed. There are millions of women who have ended up in the same place and have done the same things you have done.
 
Sunshine said:
No, I not my mom house now. I live my sister house.
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Glad to hear that. I hope you dont need it, but if possible, still have a plan B -- just in case.

Sometimes I think having a plan B makes it less likely that you will actually need to use it.
 
jillio said:
You should never be embarrassed. There are millions of women who have ended up in the same place and have done the same things you have done.
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More and more men too. This happens to all groups. Just not often talked about.
 
Cheetah said:
More and more men too. This happens to all groups. Just not often talked about.
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Absolutely. I conduct a psycho-educational group on domestic violence at the local hospital. One of the points I make is that men can be victims just as women can. It just doesn't get reported very often. I use several handouts with the group, and they all emphasize gender neutrality.
 
Sunshine, have you ever read the book, "The Gift of Fear," by Gavin de Becker? I highly recommend it to you.
 
jillio said:
Like I explained to you, they are always careful at first. Then the violence escalates and the stop being so careful and get very cocky about it. The abuser begins to think, "She will never turn me in, and she will lie to everyone to protect me. I can mark her up all I want to. She'll cover for me." One day they get very careless and strike too hard a blow that ends up with the abused woman being put in a casket.
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Well said, Jillio....when I was about Sunny's age, my nose was broken and my collar bone also. Luckily, my sister-in-law came over the next day, and persuaded me to "get out of there!"....paid for my bus fare back to my sister's house....I never looked back after that....he came to see me about 2 months later, begging me to take him back!...Fortunely, I was a lot "wiser" by then!

It's been said more than once....and worth repeating over and over..."once a man abuses and hits you...he will do it again and again"!

Sadly, my husband that abused me, never got any treatment at all, and went on to get married 4 more times...and abused each wife he married! He is now alone....

And after all that happened to me so long ago, made me lose a lot of trust in men.

Am hoping Sunny has "woke up!" and smelled the coffee....stay away from Dallas!...He's bad news.
 
Sunshine said:
Get one same day he arrest.
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Good idea, to go back in front of the Judge, and and ask for the Injunction/restraining order to be made "Permanent"....I did that and still have my copy, many years ago!.....
 
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