My daughter is being bullied! Help!

[Angel]

Well, your cyberfriend is very lucky that her neighbor has not called the police yet...

First of all I don't think Rebelgirl as a " cyber " friend as you put it, even through I haven't met her in person but I will and I think of her as a great friend of mine....


Second, She is being a mother, she has every right to protect her little girl who doesn't deserves to be bully around, just remember who came over her house first? who put her daugher in the middle of this? so instead of pointing it on Rebelgirl, look at it at both sides.....She may not handle it the right way, like for myself I didn't handle it the right way either, but sometimes we do things and say things that may get us in trouble, but one thing you have to understand what its like to be in the parent's position....then you will understand where she's coming from....

 

[JeepGirl]

Sheesh Rebelgirl, I told you that some parents would not listen and think their child is innocent, same thing happened to me with Markus my oldest son, What happened was he got punched in the stomach by two 6th graders when he was in 4th grade on the bus, Markus got off the bus in tears, and told me what had happened, Right away I phoned the school and the transportation, The principal said that they will take care of it the first thing in the morning and would want Markus to pointed out the two 6th graders. The following morning, Markus pointed out two students right after they all got off the bus, while the principal waited outside at the front of the school for bus number 4 to arrive, which that would be Markus's bus. Then the two other students were taken to the office and got suspended for 3 days and if they do it again they would not allow to ride the bus anymore, and would be required to have a parents or adult to drop them off and pick up from school. I was so thrill to hear how all this had turned out for the better,


Until then, one of the boys mother disagree with the punishment that her son was suspended for beating someone up, She came to school and wanted to set up a meeting with me, the principal, and her because she felt that her son was frame for something he did not do.

The meeting was set up, I believe two days later, The boy's mother, the principal, the bus driver, and I were at the meeting. The principal let the mother speak first, and she went on about how her son is so innocent that he would never hurt a fly, and felt that her son was frame because of his color of skin. I was like whoaaaaaaa!! If color of the skin was the issue, then Markus wouldn't be have friends who are black. The color of skin has nothing to do with anything! It's the action that her son did to my son.

So then, the bus driver spoke and said that she was the driver of the bus and that she had several witness who said who was hitting whom, and stated that Markus was very upset, She had to order two bully up front seats after dropping Markus off. It shut the mother up after-all, She had nothing else to say other than that her son is just being a boy. It sure shows to me that she doesn't care about her son's action, what he did was wrong. But, whatever :roll: I'm just glad that it was taken care of and he wasn't bothered anymore on the bus until Jordan came along. This year, Jordan was bullied by a female student who is in 6th grade. What's with the 6 graders??!! Are they acting like they are all big, strong and think they can beat up someone smaller than them?! :|

You did the right thing by calling the school and transportation. She probably assumed it was all racist to begin with.. but she gulped it wasn't about that at all. The driver knew what was going on. I'm glad the school did something about it. A 6th grader girl is bullying on Jordan now? I'm not sure what the big deal about 6th graders. In my hometown, we have K-5th for elementary, 6-8th for middle and 9-12th for high school.. I'm thinking when the 6th graders are in a "new school", I believe they feel they're grown ups no longer in elementary and think they have more power.

When I was in 6th grade I felt like I was a big girl and more grown up. I'm not sure if that's the issue about 6th grader or just happens to be a 6th grader. Hope the girl stops bullying Jordan. It really sucks! don't it?

 

[JeepGirl]

I think that would confuse child...
What happen if a sicko grab your kid and put that kid in the car?

Would you want your kid to fight, scratch, kick, scream, and run?

I think it is a bad idea to tell kids not to hit back.

My daughter knows the difference between bullying and kidnapping. this is a different issue here.

 

[JeepGirl]

Becarefully what you totally agree about verbal abuse. It is easily to break a law or file on lawsuit againsit a person for verbal abuse...

I don't see your point in this....

 

[JeepGirl]

Well, your cyberfriend is very lucky that her neighbor has not called the police yet...

first of all.. that rarely happens about the verbal abuse, very rarely! look it up and see what the percentage is for going to jail for verbal abuse.

I'm very lucky that she didn't call the cops on me?? no, its not about getting lucky.. didn't you read what I said about any of this? This is has nothing about verbal abuse. This is all about bullies! As far as me using verbal profanity.. that's nothing to me.

by the way.. I'm just a cyberfriend to anyone in here? No I doubt that's what I am. Most of them sees me as their friend not as a cyberfriend..

If you can't talk about bullies...instead of being negative, please do not post in here. Thank you!

P.S. Why don't you create your own thread about verbal abuse and we'll go from there?

 

[DeafMommy0407]

Thank you DGL and Butterflygirl! I'm gonna watch like a hawk to make sure my daughter is safe.

Ofc! Always do that. No matter where you are, you would be just watching them. "Spy" on them! haha. But yeah, be like a hawk to be sure that your daughter is safe. It would make you and her feel better.

You both still are in my prayers.

 

[JeepGirl]

Ofc! Always do that. No matter where you are, you would be just watching them. "Spy" on them! haha. But yeah, be like a hawk to be sure that your daughter is safe. It would make you and her feel better.

You both still are in my prayers.

Thank you, Hon!

Today seems to quiet down after the arguement. I hope it stays that way but wait and see.

my daughter asked the bus driver if she could sit in the front (she's scared) so she's now sitting in the front. But i'm a little disappointed though.. the bully can sit anywhere in the bus like she was never punished for it. I didn't say anything just yet. I'm just gonna wait to see if it worsen I'll do something about it.

 

[TweetyBird]

Thank you, Hon!

Today seems to quiet down after the arguement. I hope it stays that way but wait and see.

my daughter asked the bus driver if she could sit in the front (she's scared) so she's now sitting in the front. But i'm a little disappointed though.. the bully can sit anywhere in the bus like she was never punished for it. I didn't say anything just yet. I'm just gonna wait to see if it worsen I'll do something about it.

yea i hope everything will smooth... gee!

 

[Cheri]

You did the right thing by calling the school and transportation. She probably assumed it was all racist to begin with.. but she gulped it wasn't about that at all. The driver knew what was going on. I'm glad the school did something about it. A 6th grader girl is bullying on Jordan now? I'm not sure what the big deal about 6th graders. In my hometown, we have K-5th for elementary, 6-8th for middle and 9-12th for high school.. I'm thinking when the 6th graders are in a "new school", I believe they feel they're grown ups no longer in elementary and think they have more power.

When I was in 6th grade I felt like I was a big girl and more grown up. I'm not sure if that's the issue about 6th grader or just happens to be a 6th grader. Hope the girl stops bullying Jordan. It really sucks! don't it?

At my boys school grades are from K to 6th grade, I believe that they are going to change it next year and have all the K in one school, all the first graders in another school, list goes on. I think that was a totally stupid idea! Because some of the schools in my hometown on far east is where the bad kids go, I don't want the bad kids mixing up with the good kids. So, I am really not looking forward to the next school year, I am thinking of taking them to another school once We move this summer. Yeah, I was told by Markus and his friends that she loves to pick on Jordan cuz he is little and harmless. :roll: She better leave him alone or else I'll report her too. So far Markus had been standing up for Jordan by watching his back.

 

[JeepGirl]

At my boys school grades are from K to 6th grade, I believe that they are going to change it next year and have all the K in one school, all the first graders in another school, list goes on. I think that was a totally stupid idea! Because some of the schools in my hometown on far east is where the bad kids go, I don't want the bad kids mixing up with the good kids. So, I am really not looking forward to the next school year, I am thinking of taking them to another school once We move this summer. Yeah, I was told by Markus and his friends that she loves to pick on Jordan cuz he is little and harmless. :roll: She better leave him alone or else I'll report her too. So far Markus had been standing up for Jordan by watching his back.

Same as my daughter is little and harmless.. she's one of the smallest one in 3rd grade. grrr... I'm hoping this'll stop soon. today was quiet and hope it'll stay that way.

 

[RedheadGrrl]

I knew one guy in my whole life, he always picking on me for no reason. When I was in 10th grade, he was 9th grade. He liked my classmates and decided to picking on me and told them about me. I was like not my classmate that I was planning to graduate with. They all picked on me outside of the classrooms, in the classroom they don't because the boy wasn't in the class with us. I was so suffering and unhappy. I told my mother I wanted go to hearing school where my cousin went. She said to me "If you are going to hearing school, you will be flip back to 9th grade. Don't you want that?" I was sighed and accept to stay at deaf school to be more suffer from that boy. When the school was over, I felt so good and glad to be free. In sept, school began, I prayed in silent for no more picking by the boy I wanted to have a wonderful 11th grade year. Sure enuff, they answered my prayer. The boy was transferred to MSSD. I FELT so great and no more picking. My classmates never picked on me outside of the classroom. They were like forgotten abt "demand them from the boy or picking on me." They all were became my best friends.

Hey Rebel, I hope everything's okay with your daughter. Let us know what happening next.

 

[JeepGirl]

I knew one guy in my whole life, he always picking on me for no reason. When I was in 10th grade, he was 9th grade. He liked my classmates and decided to picking on me and told them about me. I was like not my classmate that I was planning to graduate with. They all picked on me outside of the classrooms, in the classroom they don't because the boy wasn't in the class with us. I was so suffering and unhappy. I told my mother I wanted go to hearing school where my cousin went. She said to me "If you are going to hearing school, you will be flip back to 9th grade. Don't you want that?" I was sighed and accept to stay at deaf school to be more suffer from that boy. When the school was over, I felt so good and glad to be free. In sept, school began, I prayed in silent for no more picking by the boy I wanted to have a wonderful 11th grade year. Sure enuff, they answered my prayer. The boy was transferred to MSSD. I FELT so great and no more picking. My classmates never picked on me outside of the classroom. They were like forgotten abt "demand them from the boy or picking on me." They all were became my best friends.

Hey Rebel, I hope everything's okay with your daughter. Let us know what happening next.

good thing he moved to MSSD.. but that's all over with now isn't it? have ya seen or heard from him since?

thank you.. everything seems to quiet down for now.

 

[DeafMommy0407]

Thank you, Hon!

Today seems to quiet down after the arguement. I hope it stays that way but wait and see.

my daughter asked the bus driver if she could sit in the front (she's scared) so she's now sitting in the front. But i'm a little disappointed though.. the bully can sit anywhere in the bus like she was never punished for it. I didn't say anything just yet. I'm just gonna wait to see if it worsen I'll do something about it.

Praying that it keeps that way. Just watch the bully and you are not blind to know what's going on. Just listen to your heart and your guts. Keep asking your daughter, "How was your day?" after school and she can tell you if it was good or bad. I ask my nephews everyday how was their day. If it was good, I just smile and great to hear that. If it was bad, I ask them to talk to me or if they wanted to wait to talk to their parents. I tell them everyday that I am here for them everyday for the rest of their lives if they need me anytime. They know that everyday.

So try that, you would never know that would help her alots to feel better to get it off her chest. I am sure that your daughter tells you everything, I am just letting you know that all. We were once young before, little girls a long time ago. Smile. Hope everything is good. Just have a good weekend and lay back and relax! haha.

 

[Mookie]

first of all.. that rarely happens about the verbal abuse, very rarely! look it up and see what the percentage is for going to jail for verbal abuse.

I'm very lucky that she didn't call the cops on me?? no, its not about getting lucky.. didn't you read what I said about any of this? This is has nothing about verbal abuse. This is all about bullies! As far as me using verbal profanity.. that's nothing to me.

by the way.. I'm just a cyberfriend to anyone in here? No I doubt that's what I am. Most of them sees me as their friend not as a cyberfriend..

If you can't talk about bullies...instead of being negative, please do not post in here. Thank you!

P.S. Why don't you create your own thread about verbal abuse and we'll go from there?

If I may not offer my advices, you may never learn so that you would keep constantly getting into farther trouble. I just help you and AD people. I have learnt lots about legal matters, ethics, and business law (pretty tough course) class. I also read police reports section in newspaper. Did you know that a giant father of kids punched ice hockey (lighted-weight) coach several years for having heat arguments over his son kicked out of the team? Of course, the giant father is still in jail for the unintentional murder charge.

RebelGirl, I still do not want to see that horrible happening to you or any good AD individual for breaking the law. Don’t you ever think of your daughter’s bright future? It was not very wise for you to go out alone and knock on the door since it would get into ugly messy. You should have asked your friendly neighbor or your boyfriend to witness at the door of your neighbor in order to avoid any accidental situation. No matter what words you already spoke to the bully kid’s mother since she may easily lie to police for filing the police report on you.

Cyberfriend is no bigger different than being real friends. There is nothing wrong with it. You are my truly cyberfriend no matter what that I never met you in real person. Can you be my cyberfriend, or are you really being a mean bully to me?

In a middle school, a boy pushed me for no reason so I pushed him very farther. My classmates were so shocked to me that I can easily push him farther about 15 feet. Naturally, I got punished for a two days after school, and he got three full days detention for pushing me first place. I just found out later that he did not have parents and lives at the home for boys in rural. I presumed that some classmates teased him that I as deaf kid still live with my parents under warm roof. That is probably why he was enviously and angrily. I could never totally blame him. He already asked me for forgiveness.

Are you having a bad beef with me or I counted 15 people who never shared their bully experiences on your thread?

 

[Heath]

Hey let's cool it here. For those who have not been bullied ... be thankful you never have been bullied. I was bullied in school and still do from time to time with very dangerous adult bullies, which can turn really deadly very fast if I don't handle it the right way. I keep my cool and watch what their hands are doing at all times. Always watch what is in those hands, man !!!!!

 

[RedheadGrrl]

good thing he moved to MSSD.. but that's all over with now isn't it? have ya seen or heard from him since?

thank you.. everything seems to quiet down for now.

No, but I spoke to his deaf brother once a while. I heard the rumors that he was in the jail, other rumors that he is not in the jail. BUT as for me, I do not need to know abt him.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

I´m glad to hear about this, Rebelgirl... It´s great to know that Principal do something...

I can´t beleive about a bully´s mother´s behavior toward you... Oh dear... All what I wish is for you and bully´s mother resolve together how to help the children... but mother refused to see it... *sigh*

 

[Audiofuzzy]

Where do you think bullies learn their behaviour? form their parents that's where. No wonder going to bully parents more often than not yield no improvement.

You did the right thing going to the principal, Rebelgirl. Demand that something is to be done about the bully and consider removing your daughter to a better school if the situation persist.

Fuzzy

 

[JeepGirl]

If I may not offer my advices, you may never learn so that you would keep constantly getting into farther trouble. I just help you and AD people. I have learnt lots about legal matters, ethics, and business law (pretty tough course) class. I also read police reports section in newspaper. Did you know that a giant father of kids punched ice hockey (lighted-weight) coach several years for having heat arguments over his son kicked out of the team? Of course, the giant father is still in jail for the unintentional murder charge.

RebelGirl, I still do not want to see that horrible happening to you or any good AD individual for breaking the law. Don’t you ever think of your daughter’s bright future? It was not very wise for you to go out alone and knock on the door since it would get into ugly messy. You should have asked your friendly neighbor or your boyfriend to witness at the door of your neighbor in order to avoid any accidental situation. No matter what words you already spoke to the bully kid’s mother since she may easily lie to police for filing the police report on you.

Cyberfriend is no bigger different than being real friends. There is nothing wrong with it. You are my truly cyberfriend no matter what that I never met you in real person. Can you be my cyberfriend, or are you really being a mean bully to me?

In a middle school, a boy pushed me for no reason so I pushed him very farther. My classmates were so shocked to me that I can easily push him farther about 15 feet. Naturally, I got punished for a two days after school, and he got three full days detention for pushing me first place. I just found out later that he did not have parents and lives at the home for boys in rural. I presumed that some classmates teased him that I as deaf kid still live with my parents under warm roof. That is probably why he was enviously and angrily. I could never totally blame him. He already asked me for forgiveness.

Are you having a bad beef with me or I counted 15 people who never shared their bully experiences on your thread?

I always think about my daughter's future but I can't predict the future of what might happen to my kid. I just hope for the best and will work out. I'll make sure she goes to the bright side by showing positive things in life instead of going to the dark side. We all had our dark sides so of course, my kid is gonna have one and can fix the mistake by not letting it happen again.

I do know that alot of parents can be or are over-reacting in some situation and leads to breaking the law. I'm very aware of this could happen to me or to anyone. I'm just not the type to hurt anyone physically, verbally maybe. I'm not saying it was the right thing to do by verbally abusing to that woman but I was pretty upset about the situation and she was using profanity too. You are right, I should have had someone by my side to listen and watch what we said and have done so. I've thought about her calling the cops and easily lie about the situation and had no witness for me. That was a mistake for myself for going alone. Next time, I'll know.. this was a first.

as you were saying about cyberfriend.. I actually thought you were being a smart ass from the way you sounded. Sorry about that.

I was having a bad beef with ya that day, I guess I felt you were being negative about some of our posts, only I was asking for suggestions and needed supporters. You have every right to speak what you think and what you thought was the best thing to do about handling a bully and parents.

I apologize.

 

[JeepGirl]

Where do you think bullies learn their behaviour? form their parents that's where. No wonder going to bully parents more often than not yield no improvement.

You did the right thing going to the principal, Rebelgirl. Demand that something is to be done about the bully and consider removing your daughter to a better school if the situation persist.

Fuzzy

That's right.. they learn from the parents.. and peer pressure.

I'm actually gonna keep her in that school til school's over and we're hoping to move.. not because of the bully.. because of the community we live in. its a great community here but its like "Desperate Housewives" here. All the damn gossiping and rumors going around here. Everybody knows who's who in this community. Never again to live like that!