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Nika said:
I totally understand. I have so many people tell me my problems are "too much for them" when I spend most of my living hours trying to help them with their problems. Luckily not everyone is like this but there are definitely those out there that are.
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People who want you to hear their problems but do not want to hear yours = Are not your friend and are probably incapable of friendship.
 
I have a lot of friends who don't mind hearing about the C I got on my test or the difficult time I had at the doctor, but they don't want to hear about heavier things.
 
Berry said:
People who want you to hear their problems but do not want to hear yours = Are not your friend and are probably incapable of friendship.
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exactly. those are the people i consider aquaintences rather than friends. if someone refuses to listen to my problems after i've listened to theirs, then i treat them like an aquaintence.
 
LuciaDisturbed said:
People who I have spent a LOT of time listening to their problems and stuff, and then when I have a problem and go to them and they don't return the favor, that really makes me mad, especially when they just brush me off like that. Now I've learned not to bother going to anyone to talk about my problems, because no one really cares. I am the one who does all the caring and listening to their problems, and then the same people turn around and brushes me off when I am the one who needs someone to care about me. That's really not fair, is it? Friendship is a two way street, ya know.
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this ticks me off as well. sometimes i get SO tired of listening to other people's problems that i simply start to act disinterested -- especially if they treat me the same way. i'm not your psychologist. if you need to talk to someone so badly, go and get some professional help. having said that, don't get me wrong. i'm always happen to listen to other people's issues, concerns, etc. but not if they're unwilling to do the same for me. i've been treated this way so often (where people have ignored my problems) that i've learned to depend on myself for my own mental health. weekly therapy helps too.
 
I had to really think what makes me mad not of a pet peeve that I get annoyed by cuz I have a lot of those.

Not much makes me mad but I know I have been mad before and I realized that was whenever hearing people look down on deaf people or deaf children who have no oral skills and disgregard ASL.
 
Professional help isn't always an option for people. Sometimes they can't afford it, sometimes their family does not understand their need for it, etc. And yet these people need a shoulder to lean on too.
 
People that expect you to bend over backward for them but aren't willing to bend even a little for you.
 
Nika said:
Professional help isn't always an option for people. Sometimes they can't afford it, sometimes their family does not understand their need for it, etc. And yet these people need a shoulder to lean on too.
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if someone can't afford professional help, there are always free clinics, universities and social service agencies that can provide therapy.
 
Nika said:
People that expect you to bend over backward for them but aren't willing to bend even a little for you.
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For me, that doesnt make me mad cuz they are the ones who have to live with being assholes. I know that I can feel good about myself for bending over backwards for them.
 
Nika said:
People that try to tell you how you feel, or how you should feel.[/QUO


Yea, I get ticked off on that one..but I cant be an hypocrate cuz sometimes I do that without realizing so I try to be aware of it.
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Hear Again said:
if someone can't afford professional help, there are always free clinics, universities and social service agencies that can provide therapy.
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What about other limitations? Such as because of an abusive situation?
 
Nika said:
What about other limitations? Such as because of an abusive situation?
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if a person is in an abusive situation and seeks therapy, the therapist is obligated to report that abuse to the authorities. my therapist told me that if the 2 people responsible for my traumas had not been deceased, he would have had to report them.
 
How much the law system fails when it comes to reporting abusive situations.
 
Hear Again said:
if a person is in an abusive situation and seeks therapy, the therapist is obligated to report that abuse to the authorities. my therapist told me that if the 2 people responsible for my traumas had not been deceased, he would have had to report them.
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I'm talking about abusive situations that keep you from getting therapy to start with.
 
also, if a person is in an abusive situation, they can receive temporary housing at a safe house while they decide to press charges against their abuser and can receive therapy from other social service agencies, a local university or a free mental health clinic. there's no excuse not to seek therapy. if one needs it, they will find a way to get it.
 
Nika said:
I'm talking about abusive situations that keep you from getting therapy to start with.
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i don't understand what you mean. are you talking about people who have been abused who refuse to see a therapist or are you talking about people who are abused who are prevented from seeking therapy by their abuser? in both of these cases, the authorities or a safe house can be contacted for further help.
 
Hear Again said:
also, if a person is in an abusive situation, they can receive temporary housing at a safe house while they decide to press charges against their abuser and can receive therapy from other social service agencies, a local university or a free mental health clinic. there's no excuse not to seek therapy. if one needs it, they will find a way to get it.
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Hm... I'm not so sure about that Hear Again. Children's needs are often not met because housing officials won't listen to them. Also many abusive situations involve holding someone at emotional gunpoint which means that the abuse victim is too afraid for many legitimate reasons to seek out help. That is why so many abusive situations go unreported.
 
Nika said:
Hm... I'm not so sure about that Hear Again. Children's needs are often not met because housing officials won't listen to them. Also many abusive situations involve holding someone at emotional gunpoint which means that the abuse victim is too afraid for many legitimate reasons to seek out help. That is why so many abusive situations go unreported.
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with the increased knowledge about mental illness and abuse nowadays, more and more people are able to identify cases of abuse where children are concerned. teachers are also trained to note signs of possible abuse. it's not like it was 20 years ago where little was known about sexual, physical, emotional abuse and mental illness.

as for someone being afraid to get help, that's their choice, but eventually they must come to the realization that the only way to get out of their abusive situation is to seek help -- not remain in a relationship with their abuser.
 
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