Actually, I've read stuff in the past on disabled websites that indicate they think that deaf culturalists are snobby and high and mighty because they refuse to associate with "disabled" people, because they do not see themselves as truly "disabled" or "broken". They see those particular deaf people as hypocritical because many of them will claim disability welfare payments. I know some very highly successful disabled people who are high up in their organisations so perceiving yourself as "disabled" doesn't go hand in hand with believing you can't do anything.
However, having said that I'm sure they have their arguments. No matter what aspect of life you go into, there is always some sort of disagreement and debate. e.g. parenting = breast vs bottle, smacking vs no smacking. Religion vs atheism etc. Life would be boring if no one disagreed!
That's why I strongly feel that you should do what's best for you and your family and no one has the right to judge you. Just because one person had a particular experience growing up, it doesn't mean that everyone else will. I think we can all learn from peoples' experiences but that's as far as it goes.