Learning to Let Go

Kalima your awesome I just want to hug you and everyone here. :)
 
Good luck, LadyS! Remember, only the strong woman can make it on her own. The weak ones go from man to man looking for what they need.
 
ladysolitary85 said:
Kalima your awesome I just want to hug you and everyone here. :)
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Nawwwwwwwwwwwww shucks :Oops: I wanna hug you too :hug:

I've had so many issues for such a long time with guys and I can tell you I'm in the best place possible.
I'm genuinely happy on my own - yes I would like a man in my life but I'm doing just fine without him.

The books by Greg Behrandt:
  • He's Just Not That Into You
  • It's Just A Date
  • It's Called A Breakup Because It's Broken
have seriously helped... It's kinda self help but more common sense... Rather then flattering you, they tell you exactly how it is.
Half the time you're kicking yourself because deep down you knew it but wouldn't admit it to yourself.

If you just focus on you, then soon Mr Ex Douche Bag will be a giggle of a memory - cos you're AWESOME

Go, now and BASK in your AWESOMENESS :) :rockon:
 
One of my friends nicknamed my ex the "aphid" because he said he sucked the life out of me. Looking back, that's funny. One day this will be a distant memory and you'll be on to bigger and better things.
 
Thanks for the book references, once I get myself a Nook or Kindle I'm going to start reading up :).

I'm just trying to take it a day at a time. He went out to see x-mas lights in the streets with his gal pal the other night and I came home with all my stuff on top of my futon. I was so angry and shaking. I texted him asking him for an explaination because to me that was a "get out now" gesture. He apologized and said that he didn't mean to make it look like that, just he needed his space in his room... blah blah blah.

Meanwhile his gal pal is trying to tell me how I don't need to know where he goes, I shouldn't be jealous their just friends and I need to learn to let it go. Not entirely sure if she is genuinely looking out for my best interest or if shes playing psychologist and I'm her project for her benefit.

Ommmm.... mellow.... *takes a deep breathe*
 
ladysolitary85 said:
Thanks for the book references, once I get myself a Nook or Kindle I'm going to start reading up :).

I'm just trying to take it a day at a time. He went out to see x-mas lights in the streets with his gal pal the other night and I came home with all my stuff on top of my futon. I was so angry and shaking. I texted him asking him for an explaination because to me that was a "get out now" gesture. He apologized and said that he didn't mean to make it look like that, just he needed his space in his room... blah blah blah.

Meanwhile his gal pal is trying to tell me how I don't need to know where he goes, I shouldn't be jealous their just friends and I need to learn to let it go. Not entirely sure if she is genuinely looking out for my best interest or if shes playing psychologist and I'm her project for her benefit.

Ommmm.... mellow.... *takes a deep breathe*
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Set boundaries whilst living together... He doesn't touch your things without permission and vice versa...

I'd sit him down and explain that you would've been happy to move your belongings out of the room, if he asked - not just dumped it all...

Respect.

I know it will be hard but if you rise above it and treat his things with respect - you will know you're the better person...

As for his gal pal, meh, I'd just be civil to her - if she tries the BFF shit then tell her you're not interested
 
pick up a book 'The language of Letting Go" By Melody Beattie , good book its used for daily but you can go back forth to which ever suits your 'time' but for me, (used the book ages ago), i started of going with the book for 6 months then moved around about..but often times i did go back on the 'date' in the journel type book. its good, its inexpensive too, go worth looking into it, helps that long term "keep on track and learning to let go'
 
ladysolitary85 said:
Thanks for the book references, once I get myself a Nook or Kindle I'm going to start reading up :).

I'm just trying to take it a day at a time. He went out to see x-mas lights in the streets with his gal pal the other night and I came home with all my stuff on top of my futon. I was so angry and shaking. I texted him asking him for an explaination because to me that was a "get out now" gesture. He apologized and said that he didn't mean to make it look like that, just he needed his space in his room... blah blah blah.

Meanwhile his gal pal is trying to tell me how I don't need to know where he goes, I shouldn't be jealous their just friends and I need to learn to let it go. Not entirely sure if she is genuinely looking out for my best interest or if shes playing psychologist and I'm her project for her benefit.

Ommmm.... mellow.... *takes a deep breathe*
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*sigh* what happend to good ole fashioned paper books? :P
 
wow and talk about karma kicking his ass.... his school loan is kicking in because hes ignored it. Now the collection company is trying to garnish his wages.
 
Kalima01 said:
Makes me cry :'(

I looooooooooooove books and refuse to go ebook! I like the feel and smell of a book :)
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Sometimes it's easier to grab a quick book when you don't have to physically go to a library. :hmm:
 
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