Learning to Let Go

Maybe you would find someone to sublease the unit. Find someone to replace you. YOur ex boy friend does not have to know. Find someone to sublease your part of lease, then move on your own. Be free!!

I really don't think Landlord can just take your name off lease.
 
I think the Landlord would be sympathic to Lady, if she would go in and have a heart to heart talk with him/her....I've gotten out of my lease before.

There is no way in high heaven that I could live in the condition(s) that Lady is living in!...No matter if it meant breaking the lease, I would get out for my own mental health.
 
Yep because I'm really starting to see its getting worse and worse on me.

Oh btw, this lady friend of his? the reason hes making a nice dinner for her is because she was having a rough issue with another guy and was pretty heart broken about it....

Ok I may sound a tad bit spiteful about this but, lame excuse. I know hes trying to win her. He wont even admit it to himself. He's trying to show her hes Mr. Nice Guy to save the day, but shes smart enough to know his words are poison. Problem is, she keeps leading him on.

But its not my problem :) I strongly believe in karma and it will bite him hard in his a**.
 
Might I recommend you read the book "He's Just Not That Into You" by Greg Behrendt

I was recommended to read this book by my GP - who I went to see about depression.
I've let guys jerk me about etc and since reading this book I'm now a stronger and more stable person.

I'm serious, this book changed my life and how I view men and relationships... I actually feel more in control :)
It's so empowering!

It was a real eye opener - thats for sure

But my thoughts are with you, you'll get through this :)
 
ladysolitary85 said:
Thank you, I'll definitely look into that book. :)
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I can honestly say it will be the best investment ever :)

My friend borrowed it after she broke up with her boyfriend - she says it's her bible lol

i think the best thing about it, it's written by a man and it's funny... I actually LOL'd reading it
 
Awesome holidays... ever had the worst holiday? this one is mine.

So I have had only 4 hrs of sleep, worked the 5am shift and got home at 3. I wanted to go to my family to visit but they said since the ex was cooking I should stay here.... He just made dinner, let me make my plate, didn't even make his plate and just packed everything as quick as he could and said he was eating at the friend's house.

So here I am, eating alone.

Pretty torn up, got a glass of white merlot to mellow out my night.
 
1. That was rude of your family.
2. Glad he left.
3. I'm sorry. Text me if you need to talk. Hugs.
 
That was *SO* rude of your family to let him come there and cook like they are long time buddies.

I have North Amercian text plan. PM me so we can email or text. This BS what you are dealing with!!
 
Some says you can’t be friends with your ex but come to think of it those is just happening if both parties has bitterness or the break up was caused by something unforgivable. On the contrary this might work to the two of you since the moment you asked him he doesn’t know what to answer. If and only if you got another chance always remember that a relationship is not only love it’s more on the trust. This will be your weapon to fight all the hindrance that may come in your way. Cheer up life is beautiful.
 
I am "friends" with my ex. I see her from time to time. We do lunch once a year. :giggle:
 
^^^Wow, really? The last time I saw my ex was when we were splitting our belongings. Honestly, he wasn't a bad guy - but I was happy to move on without having to see/interact with him again.
 
^^^^^^ Not strange for me either. Even have ex-husband live at house when out of town at Conferences.
 
I'm not friends with any of my exes, except maybe on Facebook, but not in person.

I move on completely... I'm much healthier that way.

I guess if kids are involved, then civility between parents would be necessary (depending on the circumstances) but i dunno, I'm not in that position :D
 
So with a lot of thinking, realistically I can't move out yet. I've still got a hearing aid payment, I can't save up enough money to move out between rent and that. So, mentally it puts me in a very rough spot.

However, I have a plan.... if I can keep my cool by the time tax season roles around, I should be getting a bit to help me move out. By then the lease will be up anyways. I need this time to be debt free while I have the chance to do so.

I've told my mom about it, no respond. I think shes in denial and wants me to try and do CPR on a relationship thats already dead. I've also announced it offically on fb that I'm single again (its been a month, I figured its time) and as high schoolish as that sounds, its a huge relief for me to be more open about it. I've held in a lot of feelings, bad habit I have.

So, ladies (and gents) I need help in a few factors:
1. Getting over my jealousy when hes visiting his lady friend
2. Learning to fully letting go.
3. Learning to focus only on myself.
4. Learning to be independent.
 
Kalima01 said:
I'm not friends with any of my exes, except maybe on Facebook, but not in person.

I move on completely... I'm much healthier that way.
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I guess if kids are involved, then civility between parents would be necessary (depending on the circumstances) but i dunno, I'm not in that position :D
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So you are more healthy?:shock:
 
ladysolitary85 said:
So, ladies (and gents) I need help in a few factors:
1. Getting over my jealousy when hes visiting his lady friend
2. Learning to fully letting go.
3. Learning to focus only on myself.
4. Learning to be independent.
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1. He's a creep. You're smart enough to be free of him, she'll be a cast off soon.
2. Time.
3. Ok to focus on others... helping others good healing medicine. You see how fortunate you really are!
4. Time and experience. Can't be there right away.
 
Perhaps if you have someone else who you can chat with, and hang out with ?? to make you forget him and focus on your life until you get out of this apartment there.
 
ladysolitary85 said:
So, ladies (and gents) I need help in a few factors:
1. Getting over my jealousy when hes visiting his lady friend
2. Learning to fully letting go.
3. Learning to focus only on myself.
4. Learning to be independent.
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1.
Have dinner nights with friends, have them over and make dinner and cocktails (get them to donate $5 or something so you can make a huge feast!)

Start focusing on you... Go pamper yourself - get your hair done (did?), get your nails done, get a spray tan, get a new piercing (if you wanted one).

Take yourself to the movies, go watch a movie that YOU've always wanted to see!!
I find going to the movies by myself to be the most LIBERATING thing!
I feel confident and I enjoy the movie more :)

Sign up for a dance/pottery/craft/singing/whatever you've always wanted to try class or volunteer to help the needy or what not. Even try something you might not normally think to do like pole dancing, belly dancing or burlesque classes (bring out that foxy lady!)

2.
That will come with time especially if you do the above!! You'll be too busy to wallow in relationship past.

3.
Again back to point 1.
You need to find what makes you, you. The person without the relationship. That will make you happy.

4.
Take charge of your life.
Only 2 things in life are certain: taxes and death - everything else you CAN control.
Start doing things on your own. Things like signing up for a dance class by yourself is a huge liberating thing! Learn to not rely on friends or anyone to do things with you - you need to step out of your comfort zone and LIVE GIRL!!!
 
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