My experience growing up bilingual
You see that because you want to. It makes closed minded people feel better to sterotype than to listen.
My child has been given ASL everyday of her life, she attends a voice-off ASL church with a Deaf teacher, all her best friends are Deaf of Deaf, and we are very active in the Deaf community, BUT because I believe that learning spoken language is EQUAL in importance as ASL and written language (actually, scratch that, I believe reading and writing is actually number 1, but you get the point), I am an audist, oralist, genocidal abusive parent who hates the Deaf community and spits on their life experiences....yeah, sure, whatever...
Dear faire_jour,
i havent finished reading yet, so i may comment again in a second, but I believe Miss Kat can be fluent in both, but she may choose otherwise when she gets older.
I will use my family as an example, while we all grew up hearing i believe that it is applicable to a point.
My parents: English speakers, no french
My School:
-kindergarten through grade 3: all french. No english instruction. (I believe that at the end of grade 3 I was my most biligual.. just fyi)
-grade 4-6: half day french, half day english
-grade 7-8: certain subjects in each language
-high school: i was able to choose what subjects to take in what language. for example, grades 9 & 10 i took science and math in french, but chose to take chemistry, biology and physics in english in grades 11 & 12
Now lets compare my sister and I: both had the same schooling situation. In high school, my sister LOVED french and chose to continue to persue it. She has since graduated, done a 4-year undergrad in French, taught English overseas for 2 years, and is currently completing a 2-year masters in French (in France!). Is she bilingual? HECK YES! She is probably just as good in both languages. When she comes home from France it takes her a while to stop thinking in french, and when she returns to france she says it takes a while to get back into thinking in French.
Lets look at me: same schooling situation. Halfway through high school i started HATING having to take french. I only continued with it because i figured i'd put in 10 years already, i could do 2 more and be recognized as 'bilingual' by the government. Do i use my french? HECK NO. Do i intend on using my french? MAYBE to read if i absolutely HAVE to. Otherwise, nope.
Both of these outcomes from a home where my parents spoke no french. Did we have a GREAT school? yes.. we were lucky that such a good public school was around the corner. Did we ever speak french at home? Not really.. us kids would sometimes if we wanted to say nasty things about our parents. Did my parents end up learning some french? yep.. they picked it up as they helped us with our homework. Is my sister through-and-through bilingual? YES. Am I? maybe, depends on your definition of bilingual.
So what is my point in all this??? While it doesn't directly apply to ASL/english since one is visual and the other is auditory, i believe that she can be fluent in both, especially with a CI. My suggestion would be to put her in the ASL class, and work with her at home on her English. Get her playdates with both hearing and Deaf peers. It will be hard work, but it will be worth it until she is old enough to choose. She will be learning some English at school (reading/writing) so you can relate it to everything at home. Since you also sign, it may be beneficial to do a few days a week in ASL-only, to benefit the rest of the family. When she gets a bit older and has a more established repetoir of ASL and English, request the school board to let her do a half day (or half week?) in each a hearing and Deaf class, to allow her to build upon both languages and interact with both sets of peers.
These are just my ideas. You are free to disregard any of them as you wish. I did not grow up deaf/Deaf, so my views may be totally out of whack with everyone else here. I am simply telling you my views from growing up bilingual.
I hope this helps you,
*EQL*