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Yes I'm agree with rockdrummer's and Cheri's comment.
strict!Heath said:When I was younger , There were alots of my friends getting married. I found out it was much better to not visit married couples and to only come by invitation also if I needed to see a friend and she is married. I would just wait until she is with her husband that way prevent problems. I never go to a married couple's house then push the doorbell when I know her husband is not home to chat. I did this by accident and not on purpose but I got a beating from him anyway even though I was innocent. I never enter the house to chat with her. I will just stand on the porch then say I will come back later when her husband is home and leave , never enter the house when the husband is not present. I also think it is inappropriate for a married couple to be giving out e-mail addresses except to their families and work related jobs and only 1 or two friends. The rest of friends would have to meet at Deaf social club that way there are less problems. I learned this the hard way and Ever since I have not had anymore problems due to following this policy that I had to learn through hard experience. Things change alots when single friends find that their friends are getting married then they start a family and are very busy, focused with their kids and hardly have any more time for single friends. Contacting friends through e-mail when they are dating boyfriend/girlfriend or engagned or are married are not a good idea. Best for e-mails to be only for their families, work and maybe 1 or 2 friends. That is it. I find it a really good policy and much more safer for all concerned.
very true and good posting!Cheri said:Amen! I see nothing wrong with talking to someone outside of the marriage, if the marriage isn't working any more where there is no communication, there are times it just die out, Where can you go to get advice? a confide in a friend would do it, doesn't matter if a friend is a female or male, as long that friend can understands "you" while the wife or husband doesn't understand.
I believe that talking to someone from online, emailing, aims does not consider Adultery, it would consider Adultery if a spouse went out and had the affair.
GalaxyAngel said:adultery vs CHEATER!!!
"SEX/ORAL"
If you're in relationship as gf/bf seriouis... if you went another woman or man wha..ever unless you touch their bodies.. that called "AFFAIR as same CHEATER" Destory trust in the relationship will come worst.. as simalir marriage mutal.. but not "marriage" as conidser.
Common Law: Yes sort of marriage simlair actually can be called Affair but not sure sort of adultery... Perhaps can be break boundary due children seprate w/Mom or Dad side... Long haul battle and ain't fun as same marriage too.
Marriage: Yes that called "adultery" if you went another woman or man.. still count Adultery" Possible can save your marriage but depends person have very senstive want contuine divorce due you become adultery... their decison made "what the best interest for children's safety future may look up the FATHER OR MOTHER'S ROLE" Up to the court decision... Marriage can be easily sunk in the wreckage!
Your choice... decision and wise!
If you're single... want have sex someone who have marry man/woman.. but STILL you're part of responbile damage their marriage... can be pain your guts and eat up your somatch..."feeling insints" Your choice!
I agree with Gemtun here.Gemtun said:I call it as " crossing over boundary lines " ....it does not reek of adultery just yet but it clearly shows that both persons are crossing boundary lines and not respecting respective spouses' privacy or wishes, etc.
Crossing over boundary lines will lead to problems, whether it becomes adultery or just violation of privacy.
i can really say that I do aboustely agree with you on this one. Point taken!satyromaniac said:Not to sound horrible, but I'll explain shortly. You're all three wrong.
1) You're husband should not keep that he has been talking to your friend from you.
2) You're friend should not keep that she has been talking to your husband from you.
3) You should not not forbid them from talking, it will only aggrevate things, and it's their right as people to do. Would it be any different if he was talking to a male friend of yours?
Best course of action is to be more honest with each other. Don't try and control you're husband, end of the day he's his own person. And I am aware that there is a degree of ownership of each oter from marriage, but at the end of the day. If you can't trust each other, whats the point?
I would call it BALONEY! That is just a perfect excuse. He should always confide in his wife first and only, period. I dont buy it that he should be confiding in a female friend about their marriage problems. It should be between husband and wife, period or it will fail due to trust issues.
If he is genuinely concerned about his spouse, he could have suggested counseling. There is no point of getting a personal friend involved. It will only ruin trust issues, etc.
I want to challenge with you...
Supposed if your female friend is emailing your husband and they have been talking about issues...and your husband hasn't informed you about his conversation with female friend through emailing...later, you find out and read their emails....(or male friend emailing your wife)
Also, you keep telling your female friend to stop emailing your husband but she refused and keeps emailing your husband....
And...if you are having problem with your female friend...how do you feel when she forward your emails to your husband? like big mouth telling your husband on you? you tell her to stop it and she keeps doing it....
How do you feel about this?
Do you think that is called, "adultry"?
Do you think it is inappropriate for your husband not telling you about his emailing to female friend?
I personally believe it is inappropriate for me or any singles to chat or email to spouse's husbands...because it could lead into adultry! I am very careful whom I chat or email with...I dont fool around with married men!
Let's discuss about this...no bashing or putting anyone down...thanks!
Yes I think it is "adultry". He has aloud someone in to your bedroom in a differnet way. Not to be preachie,but bible Matthew 5:27,28 says that if you think it you have already committed adultry.
This woman is not your freind! She is foward the emails to drive a deeper wedge between you and your husband. A real freind would not think of doing a thing like that.
As for your husband, if you already have not done it, I would be talking to MISTER because what that is saying by what I have read, she is not the first.
Maybe you can find out what the problem is and try to fix it. What you hear will hurt but at least you will know what you are dealing with.
Hugs because I know this is painful.