Is It Appropriate To .....

[Angel]

Once again, Thanks everyone for your helpful advices, opinons, suggestions and the nice compliments as well too...I appreciate it

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Now you're talking about good manners or with respect?

Reba..

I DON'T have to read anything... a book is a book. this is reality and this is what PEOPLE stick up for.

Sorry to say.. I'm not misinformed...

What I meant nowadays.. people actually don't "read" the book of etiquettes. People already knew the tradition of etiquettes however, that has changed alot. This isn't about respect or good manners. Its just about how these people handle with gifts. again.. I don't have to read a thing. I see what I see. Its not about "thank you" "please" .. it has nothing to do with this thread by the way. Its about HOW TO SAY THE RIGHT THING ON AN INVITATION WITHOUT OFFENDING PEOPLE.

Sorry to say.. you did start this thread offending several members then other members got confuse because of your post you have created that was not necessary to be brought up. you could have simply say.. no its not appropriate because so and so. you didn't have to give links to say what's accurate and what's the proper way to do it right. Angel and RR knew what's appropriate but was asking in another question of how to put it in an invitation.. they're not stupid, you know. I'm telling you, reba, not I alone, but millions of people out there are more preferrable of getting money instead because they have reasons to collect money. Its none of anyone's business what they need the money for. honestly.. maybe except for you, people do prefer money. but the point is.. how to make it more appropriate on the invitation because that's what they were THINKING of doing.




Nobody understands what you're actually getting at because you made it the "rules" and made it sound like its fact. but you know... it may be facts but things change.

its not like I have no manners... I'm just simply speaking from the heart not by the book

Well Said!!!!

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Angel, I can understand how you feel.. I know it's really harmless and very simple to ask me question about "collect money for a honeymoon". I has no problem to give you an example to answer your question in general way instead of tell you that I know your wish is Hawaii...bblah blah..... I can't understand why ADers saw your question to me and make "drama"... It's immaturity.

Now I'm glad that you stood up yourself here to tell us how you feel... Now ADers accept what you are and apology....

Simple do what you really want to do... It's your wedding, not anyone else - it's you and Roadrunner who really want to make big day special...

Please don't let people put you down and make you feel bad... Remember, it's your wedding, not anyone else. If they complaint then don't go your wedding... then you will know that what person they are... This is a simple.

Prepare your own wedding, decision, wedding night etc...

If I made off topic posts in your thread then accept my apology please. Forgive me please


to everyone

 

[Mistyrose]

All im gonna say that i wish Angel and Roadrunner all the
happiness in the world in their forecoming marriage!!

 

[LakeTahoe]

I remembered I was invited to a wedding in Boston but can't remember when was that. Anyway, she put "no gifts please". But I am not sure about the money. It is a long post and I have to read a whole thing!

So I wish Angel and RR a best of luck with their wedding and a happy marriage! That's all count!

 

[Nuty]

Maybe Nutty and I should get married and have AD'ers send us money via Alex, go touring (honeymooning) in toxic New Joisey and then get divorced the follwoing week! No hate mail, please....time for this post too wind down as I think Angel has all the answers she needs.

Awww, I love you, Tousibaby!! *wink*

 

[Reba]

... Its about HOW TO SAY THE RIGHT THING ON AN INVITATION WITHOUT OFFENDING PEOPLE.

Exactly. That's what I've been trying to explain.

Sorry to say.. you did start this thread offending several members then other members got confuse because of your post you have created that was not necessary to be brought up. you could have simply say.. no its not appropriate because so and so.

I believe that's exactly what I did. Angel asked a specific question, and I gave a specific answer. She asked if it was appropriate, and I answered, no, it's not appropriate. That's seems clear cut to me.

you didn't have to give links to say what's accurate and what's the proper way to do it right.

I provided the links to show that my reply wasn't just my opinion; my reply was based on facts. The links supported my reply, so she could know that I wasn't just blowing smoke. What's wrong with facts?

Angel and RR knew what's appropriate but was asking in another question of how to put it in an invitation...

I guess I misunderstood. I thought Angel was sincerely asking a question, seeking information. I didn't realize that she was actually seeking affirmation of a decision that she had already made. If I had known that at the beginning, I wouldn't have posted anything. Once someone has made a decision there's no point in commenting on it.

...millions of people out there are more preferrable of getting money instead because they have reasons to collect money. Its none of anyone's business what they need the money for.

There's nothing wrong with preferring money or gift certificates, and I never asked what Angel wanted the money for. The question was, was it appropriate to make that request for money on the printed invitations. That's the question that I answered.

I don't mind if you don't agree with me; that's fine. Please, just don't make up things that I supposedly posted. People can look back at the thread and confirm what I said.

... but the point is.. how to make it more appropriate on the invitation ...

The point is, there is NO way to make that request "appropriate" on an invitation. If they want to include a request for money in the invitation that's their business. The etiquette police aren't going to stop them. But if they want to know is it "appropriate" then the honest answer is "no."

Nobody understands what you're actually getting at because you made it the "rules" and made it sound like its fact. but you know... it may be facts but things change.

Sorry, but it is a "fact", and just because people don't want to accept the facts doesn't change the facts. If it's raining today, that's a fact. I don't like it, I don't accept it, but guess what? I can't change that fact. I can do my best to live with it. I can get an umbrella and find a way to deal with the rain. But I can't change the fact that it's raining.

... I'm just simply speaking from the heart not by the book

That's why there are etiquette books and websites--to avoid all this "from the heart" flaming and bashing. Books and websites don't get emotionally involved or take every difference of opinion as a personal affront.

 

[SxySpicyGrrl]

Angel, I can understand how you feel.. I know it's really harmless and very simple to ask me question about "collect money for a honeymoon". I has no problem to give you an example to answer your question in general way instead of tell you that I know your wish is Hawaii...bblah blah..... I can't understand why ADers saw your question to me and make "drama"... It's immaturity.

Now I'm glad that you stood up yourself here to tell us how you feel... Now ADers accept what you are and apology....

Simple do what you really want to do... It's your wedding, not anyone else - it's you and Roadrunner who really want to make big day special...

Please don't let people put you down and make you feel bad... Remember, it's your wedding, not anyone else. If they complaint then don't go your wedding... then you will know that what person they are... This is a simple.

Prepare your own wedding, decision, wedding night etc...

If I made off topic posts in your thread then accept my apology please. Forgive me please


to everyone

I have to saying that I agreed with Liebling that is every true... it is your decision.

 

[FeistyChick]

Awww, I love you, Tousibaby!! *wink*

 

[Angel]

That's why there are etiquette books and websites--to avoid all this "from the heart" flaming and bashing. Books and websites don't get emotionally involved or take every difference of opinion as a personal affront.

I don't need etiquette books or websites telling me how I should do my own wedding or what I should put on my wedding invitation ....

Sorry, but it is a "fact", and just because people don't want to accept the facts doesn't change the facts

Whether it's a fact or not, everyone does their wedding the way they want it to be...


And another thing here is I asked a very specific question on page 1, and most of you kept talking about whether or not a guest should bring money or gifts to the wedding, when it has nothing to do with the question I asked....:roll:

 

[Maria]

I don't need etiquette books or websites telling me how I should do my own wedding or what I should put on my wedding invitation ....




Whether it's a fact or not, everyone does their wedding the way they want it to be...


And another thing here is I asked a very specific question on page 1, and most of you kept talking about whether or not a guest should bring money or gifts to the wedding, when it has nothing to do with the question I asked....:roll:

Maybe, you need to change to a different topic instead of the one you were askin'. Maybe, your question isn't the right to ask ? Hmmm....

 

[Angel]

Maybe, you need to change to a different topic instead of the one you were askin'. Maybe, your question isn't the right to ask ? Hmmm....

There is nothing wrong with the quesiton I asked, if you don't understand the question then ask me, I don't understand how hard it is to understand a very simple question..


edit: and btw I haven't seen ONE positive post coming from you, how interesting,

 

[Reba]

I don't need etiquette books or websites telling me how I should do my own wedding or what I should put on my wedding invitation ....

No, you don't. I'm just trying to explain the reason people use books and websites. It's so they can avoid the stress of conflicting viewpoints. If a person uses a book or wedding guide, there is NO flaming, NO bashing, NO hurt feelings. Life is simple and peaceful.

Whether it's a fact or not, everyone does their wedding the way they want it to be...

That's why there is so much confusion these days. Brides don't need all this extra stress.

And another thing here is I asked a very specific question on page 1, and most of you kept talking about whether or not a guest should bring money or gifts to the wedding, when it has nothing to do with the question I asked....:roll:

I'm sorry that it rolled that way. I'm very bad about responding to comments about my posts. I should just ignore what other people say to or about me or my posted information.

I'm sorry, and I won't make any more posts. :Oops:

 

[Angel]

Oh no no I didn't mean it that way Reba, I apologize , but Thank you

 

[FeistyChick]

No, you don't. I'm just trying to explain the reason people use books and websites. It's so they can AVOID the stress of conflicting viewpoints. If a person uses a book or wedding guide, there is NO flaming, NO bashing, NO hurt feelings. Life is simple and peaceful.


That's why there is so much confusion these days. Brides don't need all this extra stress.

angiepoo,

i don't know if you are upset with me or if i offended you in any way since you didn't reply to my post after you expressed your feelings. ..

but that is WHY i have been trying to kindly encourage you to get some ettiquette books TO AVOID STRESS/CONFUSION, FRUSTRATIONS, you name it! ... i promise you they are so helpful!!! -- of course you don't have to follow every little detail in the books... but at least get some insight on them... then you will "see" what reba and i have been trying to say-- THAT THE BOOKS ARE WORTHWHILE TO AVOID STRESS-- SIMPLE AS THAT! (i have mentioned that i suck at explaining things online/on paper! :P) the books can/or will AVOID MORE STRESS ...

it doesn't hurt to take a look at them... you got nothing to lose

lastly, i don't blame you for feeling frustrated cuz this thread keeps going off topic when it is just about a few things that you wanted answered.. sorry about that!

 

[Maria]

There is nothing wrong with the quesiton I asked, if you don't understand the question then ask me, I don't understand how hard it is to understand a very simple question..


edit: and btw I haven't seen ONE positive post coming from you, how interesting,

Huh ? How come you always think this way ? I am just suggestin' an idea like I said " maybe " along with the line. Every person sees different.

 

[Angel]

angiepoo,

i don't know if you are upset with me or if i offended you in any way since you didn't reply to my post after you expressed your feelings. ..

FC,

When I made that last post to expressed how I really felt, and I did end up in tears, so I'm not going to lie about that so that why I took a break away from this thread since this thread is too stressful to handle, there is no way I was trying to avoid you hon...

but that is WHY i have been trying to kindly encourage you to get some ettiquette books TO AVOID STRESS/CONFUSION, FRUSTRATIONS, you name it! ... i promise you they are so helpful!!! -- of course you don't have to follow every little detail in the books... but at least get some insight on them... then you will "see" what reba and i have been trying to say-- THAT THE BOOKS ARE WORTHWHILE TO AVOID STRESS-- SIMPLE AS THAT! (i have mentioned that i suck at explaining things online/on paper! :P) the books can/or will AVOID MORE STRESS ...

it doesn't hurt to take a look at them... you got nothing to lose

lastly, i don't blame you for feeling frustrated cuz this thread keeps going off topic when it is just about a few things that you wanted answered.. sorry about that!

I've already read yours and Reba's posts, and I do understand where you both coming from and everyone else as well too..Thanks

 

[Liebling:-)))]

I provided the links to show that my reply wasn't just my opinion; my reply was based on facts. The links supported my reply, so she could know that I wasn't just blowing smoke. What's wrong with facts?

Sorry, but it is a "fact", and just because people don't want to accept the facts doesn't change the facts. If it's raining today, that's a fact. I don't like it, I don't accept it, but guess what? I can't change that fact. I can do my best to live with it. I can get an umbrella and find a way to deal with the rain. But I can't change the fact that it's raining.

That's why there are etiquette books and websites--to avoid all this "from the heart" flaming and bashing. Books and websites don't get emotionally involved or take every difference of opinion as a personal affront.

You always talk about facts because the links says so but where is your feeling? I would like to remind you that there´re many different "facts" in websites accord different wedding traditions, that´s because they write their opinions. We don´t have to follow their advice but follow our heart and feeling. We are an adult and know what we doing and know our manner and respect.

This is one, I provided in my previous post support my reply in many posts against your posts and links.

Wedding Ideas | Wedding Gifts | Weddings

This link, I provide is not fact or what? I talk about modern wedding etiquette/tradtion in my posts is an exactly same as those link I found and provided here. You always said that this is an America custom... See this link, I provide is the same as Europe custom...

I follow my heart and feeling is important than worry what everyone think about my wedding preparation, stress etc.

 

[BearBeauty]

Angel's asked that the debate stop already, and I don't really see a point in continuing the argument.. Because while everyone has their own facts and opinions, nobody's ever going to agree, so I'd respect the different opinions and Agree to disagree.. sometimes that works best. Heck.. I may not agree with someone.. but I don't see a point to continue an argument when the orginator of a thread has asked that it stop. Just My opinion.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

BearBeauty, yeah you are right....

BearBeauty Liebling... ouucchhh