is is dis rude or disrespectful in the deaf culture?

daystarnite said:
Hey, cute username PatsCats. :)
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Thank you, daystarnite! My Username is quite simple...both my husband and I are named Pat, and we have two cats (and a dog, and some fish). I think I used to be on a Pet Forum that became inactive with the Username 2Pats2Cats :giggle:
 
PatsCats said:
Thank you, daystarnite! My Username is quite simple...both my husband and I are named Pat, and we have two cats (and a dog, and some fish). I think I used to be on a Pet Forum that became inactive with the Username 2Pats2Cats :giggle:
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Are the cats also named Pat?
 
yes, deaf are more aware of their surrounding- we have to be, but we also tend to be too focused on a lot of things too (like lipreading or watching out for something).

Other than that, She probably felt you weren't minding your business? I don't know for sure though. I wouldn't worry about it though as she probably thought about her action and regret it. If the guy wanted her to move, he should have come up with his own solution instead of yelling at her and depending on other people to get her attention (I mean what if no one was there but him? He'll have to get her attention somehow). I think she probably was embarrassed that he created too much attention that you noticed it too.

This happened to me the other day. This woman asked me to move, and I was looking at the labels on the food for allergies, and when I didn't hear her, She yelled at me that startled me and everyone around me. That was quite embarrassing. The woman in front of me thought the woman was yelling at her too (she was blocking just as much as I was). The woman said, "No you are ok, I was talking to her" in a loud voice. I did not like her attitude at all

If you need someone's attention, be subtle about it.

I just thought of someone, usually when someone wanted my attention, the person near me would give me a light tap on the arm (only if I'm reading or something) and point me to that person. They usually left the rest to me to figure how what the person wanted. It seem that I don't have a problem with this method.
 
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I sometimes do not like when people abbreviate words but I am part of a generation that does it quite often...however I do shorten things as well like cuz instead of because etc. oh well lol ...also as long as someone is polite in poking me and saying excuse me then yes ok..but some ppl are rude and shove u...jerks
 
Lighthouse77 said:
yes, deaf are more aware of their surrounding- we have to be, but we also tend to be too focused on a lot of things too (like lipreading or watching out for something).

Other than that, She probably felt you weren't minding your business? I don't know for sure though. I wouldn't worry about it though as she probably thought about her action and regret it. If the guy wanted her to move, he should have come up with his own solution instead of yelling at her and depending on other people to get her attention (I mean what if no one was there but him? He'll have to get her attention somehow). I think she probably was embarrassed that he created too much attention that you noticed it too.

This happened to me the other day. This woman asked me to move, and I was looking at the labels on the food for allergies, and when I didn't hear her, She yelled at me that startled me and everyone around me. That was quite embarrassing. The woman in front of me thought the woman was yelling at her too (she was blocking just as much as I was). The woman said, "No you are ok, I was talking to her" in a loud voice. I did not like her attitude at all

If you need someone's attention, be subtle about it.

I just thought of someone, usually when someone wanted my attention, the person near me would give me a light tap on the arm (only if I'm reading or something) and point me to that person. They usually left the rest to me to figure how what the person wanted. It seem that I don't have a problem with this method.
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im not too worried, like Botts said, she was probably tired, if i did embarrass her then gzzz im sorry, but no need for a death look lol

oh the delivery man wasnt yeliing at her, becuase that'll be really rude of him. he was carrying boxes n they looked pretty heavy, he had no hand and since she didnt hear him he tried to get her attention so i thought ill just tab her for him hehehe......
better next time i will just mind my own bussiness yeah?:giggle:
 
She may be hearing though, but if the person need someone's help very badly, the best method is just point her to the person who wanted her attention . she can figure out the rest.

I do think trying to figure out if she is hearing or deaf is somewhat like getting into other people's business. I am not sure how I would feel if someone signal me to move. I am not sure how you feel either if someone was thinking "oh she must be deaf... I should gesture to her to move" Again, Just do what works well for both hearing and deaf.. Point to that person who wanted their attention. (I had to do this a lot for hearing people. Sometimes my hearing family would be in deep thoughts and I had to give them a light tap and point them to someone that wanted their attention)

btw, What is a person doing carrying a heavy box everywhere in a workplace? shouldn't he have a dolly? I don't think the box is that heavy unless he is loading and unloading.
 
:lol: yeah guess ur right... its just a thing we ...well i do on impulse, hehheheheehe

yeah he was the delivery guy bringing the boxes into that back room which she was blocking the doorway

what's a dolly? a trolley/cart thingy? - yeah he did have one of thoses with more boxes to be boutght into the room...
 
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