In real life the Deaf community has been nothing but welcoming, encouraging and helpful. They have accepted my daughter from the moment we entered this journey with hearing loss.
The people here have been the exact opposite; judgemental, fault-finding, and exclusionary. They have wanted her to be a part of their community, and they have invited us (my husband and I) in as well. THEY identify her as Deaf, and I am proud of that. Whenever I am introduced to another Deaf person, they say "she is hearing BUT, " and then they list all the things we do with my daughter. When the bi-bi school set up their advisory commitee, I was asked to be a part of the board. They respect my opinion, even though people here don't.
I am tired of being called names. I am tired of being attacked. I find it sad that oral parents on CICircle are more accepting of my daughter and ASL than the people here are.
I am so glad that my family didn't run into people like YOU when we first discovered my daughter's hearing loss. I had never understood when other hearing parents relayed these shocking experiences with the Deaf community, stories of distain and judgement, but I do now. I had always thought that the parents had taken people the wrong way, maybe they had just run into someone on a bad day, or maybe there were just a few, very few, bad seeds out there....guess I was wrong. I guess my experience with a loving, accepting community is actually the minority.
Good luck.