If I have done that, I apologize. I have never believed that the deaf cannot speak for themselves. What I do believe is the vast majority of the hearing world simply doesn't listen when they do.
Real experts are aware of this, deaf or hearing. The fact that you acknowledge that this can happen, just makes me respect you even more.
Audists have a tendency to only listen to other hearing people, making you and Oceanbreeze more attractive to them on this board, than deaf people. It's noticable that audists at the same time, accuse you of speaking out on behalf of deaf people, instead of answering uncomfortable facts presented to them by you.