i am wondering.....how much importat is woman beauty for all men?

Usually I go for personality than looks. Looks can be somewhat important to me, as long as she just dress and look proper, being fairly healthy, strong and absolutely independent. The kind of girls who lies, cheats, taking advantage of people, lazy, etc...obviously turn me off. I've dated a girl who is abit bigger than me but of course she wasn't THAT overweight but she does try hard to lose some weight even thou I never told her to. Just be yourself, is the key. Certainly I love women with a body that looks very attracting, but sometimes I like some chubby or older girls for some reason but I guess thats just me. A girl with a sweet personality is twice more beautiful than her looks.
 
Looks play a part, especially in the early stages, but there's too much emphasis on this nowadays. And some very beautiful women become very arrogant as things get handed on a plate to them and they fail to learn manners & respect for others, qualities needed to make a relationship last.
 
My oldest son (20), is very good looking and all the girls "swoon" over him....but for the last 2 years, his girlfriend is very "chubby"...

What makes her "so special"?....P-E-R-S-O-N-A-L-I-T-Y !!!!!!

Her smile and her laughter...she's a joy to be around!
 
Lets be honest, nobody looks at someone across the room and says, "that person has a great personality", right? To say physical attraction does not matter is just not true because that is all you get in the beginning, nobody can spot a good personality.
 
VacationGuy234 said:
Lets be honest, nobody looks at someone across the room and says, "that person has a great personality", right? To say physical attraction does not matter is just not true because that is all you get in the beginning, nobody can spot a good personality.
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'Course not!....A group of friends get together...and meet other friends...introductions go around.....

That's how my son met "Chelsea"....

If you're scanning the room to see if someone looks physically attractive to you, then you're missing the whole point.That person may be a "hottie" to you, but after getting to know her and her personality, you might not think so....Even some guys, after getting to know a girl, who at first, there was no physical attraction...(such as a "good friend")...found out later that the girl was a "gem"!....

Many guys marry their "best friends"....someone they get along with well...same interests and things in common....physical attraction is "over played"!...Who knows?...The "hottie" you might pick for a mate...after a few years and maybe a pregnancy behind her, becomes chubby or even fat....and remembering that the reason you picked her in the beginning was because she was a "hottie"...(physical attraction)....it doesn't last....
 
VacationGuy234 said:
Lets be honest, nobody looks at someone across the room and says, "that person has a great personality", right? To say physical attraction does not matter is just not true because that is all you get in the beginning, nobody can spot a good personality.
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Physical attraction does work at the begining. It is more lust than thinking, "that is going to be my soul mate". You can not keep a relationship just based on looks. Personality and common interest will keep a relationship.

People who observe and can spot a good personality. Being around others and meeting them is learning about the person and becoming attracted to them.
 
When I first met her, she was 174 lbs. So, today, she now 121 lbs and hottie. Since in the past she have been very depressed after her painful divorce and that what she gained all the weight. When she met me, I gave her positive outlook and her happeness grew. With all my gym equipments I have here, I became her "Mr Jillian Michaels" workout partner. She know that it's unhealthy to be overweight and of course being over 50s. Then 2 years ago, she finally hit 121 lbs, and it was her joyest moment that she haven't had that weight for over 30 years. So, regardless if she's chubby or not, but awareness of health is very important, so sometime I can view some people who is overweight, or very obese are lazy, Uncare about her self image and health. But there are reason that causes by obese weight is medical issues because of medicine that can cause gaining weight, but the majority of people just simply lazy.
 
The topic is, "how much important is women beauty for all men", I understand that you wouldn't want someone without a personality, but that is not the question being asked and you couldn't tell a personality when you that when you first meet someone. If they know someone you know, it really is a different situation, but you still need to be attracted to that person.

I agree, that person needs to have more than just beauty, but you can't replace looks with a good personality, you have to have attraction too.

I have dated women just because they were nice and found it's not the right thing to do. You're not doing that person any justice and it will only get people hurt, you need the whole package for it to last.
 
VacationGuy234 said:
The topic is, "how much important is women beauty for all men", I understand that you wouldn't want someone without a personality, but that is not the question being asked and you couldn't tell a personality when you that when you first meet someone. If they know someone you know, it really is a different situation, but you still need to be attracted to that person.

I agree, that person needs to have more than just beauty, but you can't replace looks with a good personality, you have to have attraction too.

I have dated women just because they were nice and found it's not the right thing to do. You're not doing that person any justice and it will only get people hurt, you need the whole package for it to last.
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Well, good luck in ur quest for the woman who has "everything"!...
 
VacationGuy234 said:
The topic is, "how much important is women beauty for all men", I understand that you wouldn't want someone without a personality, but that is not the question being asked and you couldn't tell a personality when you that when you first meet someone. If they know someone you know, it really is a different situation, but you still need to be attracted to that person.

I agree, that person needs to have more than just beauty, but you can't replace looks with a good personality, you have to have attraction too.

I have dated women just because they were nice and found it's not the right thing to do. You're not doing that person any justice and it will only get people hurt, you need the whole package for it to last.
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Yes, I understand that it got to have attraction, but you know attraction always changed, going from beautiful thin woman to overly obese woman. Your attraction will fade, or sometime your feeling disgusting of how she look now? You know... mentally, mindmate hardly changed.
 
SneakerNet said:
Yes, I understand that it got to have attraction, but you know attraction always changed, going from beautiful thin woman to overly obese woman. Your attraction will fade, or sometime your feeling disgusting of how she look now? You know... mentally, mindmate hardly changed.
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I agree, you are going to change over time. And, I don't think any guys believes his girlfriend/wife needs to look like a supermodel(although they would like it). I think most guys are reasonable when it comes to beauty.
 
Physical attraction is important. But so is personality. A woman who is a snob and is mean to people becomes very unattractive to me very fast. To me, "perfect" would be a woman who is cute and has a great personality.
 
It's true that appearance is all you can go on in the beginning of when you meet someone new,but as soon as you get to know them then they can become attractive or unattractive very quickly.
 
MyNameIsNO said:
yes i know i did say "why you are still with me if you not satisficatory with how i am looking?"

@ banjo well his size kind of small but i say nothing. bec size not matter to me and sexs intercouse is not important.

i noticed deafs men less judgement on women look than does hearing men. wow.
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Good for you! No one should made you feel bad about how you look. What did your boyfriend say when you asked that?
 
howag said:
It's true that appearance is all you can go on in the beginning of when you meet someone new,but as soon as you get to know them then they can become attractive or unattractive very quickly.
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I'm not so sure I agree with this. If you only talk to the "good looking" gals. How will you ever know the rest of them? When I am in a group, once I settle down, I like to talk with everyone. You never know what people will say or do. It's like an adventure game!
 
Cheetah said:
I'm not so sure I agree with this. If you only talk to the "good looking" gals. How will you ever know the rest of them? When I am in a group, once I settle down, I like to talk with everyone. You never know what people will say or do. It's like an adventure game!
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The above is a big reason I value Cheetah as a friend!
 
thank for honest answering and good answer. yes i agreeing with cheetah. when i meeting group of men i not bias and picking only hottie men. it not matter bec i want learning about ALL of them no matter hot, ugly or average. i want learn their personality first
 
Cheetah said:
I'm not so sure I agree with this. If you only talk to the "good looking" gals. How will you ever know the rest of them? When I am in a group, once I settle down, I like to talk with everyone. You never know what people will say or do. It's like an adventure game!
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Yeah, it's not so much a case of singling out the good looking girls and obviously you wouldn't do this in a group cos it would be better to speak to everyone. But when you enter a bar/club and are deciding who to talk to, looks tend to sway decisions as you don't yet know anything else about the person.
 
MyNameIsNO said:
thank you for your answer simonj. i am not obese but i am 140 pounds and 5 feet 5. boyfriend say i need look like adriana lima RME!!!!!!!!!!
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Tell him when he starts to look like Brad Pitt, he will have something to talk about.
 
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