jillo!
rick, you do not realize that your daughter's mainstream educational experiance (especially for a first generation implantee) was EXTREMELY atypical. She wasn't in resource room , and she didn't even have any SOCIAL problems! Even for a hoh kid or the kind of AG Bell member where they are a shoo-in for Harvard/another Name Brand School, that is pretty good. Were you aware that social issues are a HUGE HUGE bugaboo for mainstreamed and oral kids? So much that quite a bit of the Clarke School Mainstream conference is devoted to that particular issue! I am NOT saying that your experiance was easy. I know how difficult it is to fight with a school district that knows NOTHING about accomondations for dhh kids.
But, b/c your daughter THRIVED with those accomondations, (and b/c you've only been exposed other sucesses via AG Bell) you have NO CLUE of other more intense accomondations for other dhh kids. Even many hoh (the most mainstreamed) kids have FAR more difficulty in the mainstream then your daughter ever did!