How do you know when...?(Question #2)

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...the opposite sex has totally tanked the first date?
 
I had one frozen yogurt date that turned into a nightmare. She broke down crying after talking about the burden of having high family expectations of her to become a medical doctor. I reached wayyyy to far and she already was stressed out...I tried to pull her out of the train of thought she had, but she kept going. Apparently, I made her uncomfortable when I hugged her and that was it. Other friends told me she was weird and somewhat understandable it turned out that way.
 
craigm26 said:
I had one frozen yogurt date that turned into a nightmare. She broke down crying after talking about the burden of having high family expectations of her to become a medical doctor. I reached wayyyy to far and she already was stressed out...I tried to pull her out of the train of thought she had, but she kept going. Apparently, I made her uncomfortable when I hugged her and that was it. Other friends told me she was weird and somewhat understandable it turned out that way.
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My advice: :io:
 
Txgolfer 1st date rule Number 1 would have come in handy here....

Rule number 1.....Always make sure the date location has a bathroom with windows.
 
TXgolfer said:
Txgolfer 1st date rule Number 1 would have come in handy here....

Rule number 1.....Always make sure the date location has a bathroom with windows.
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lol...wow...yeah..I could've just bolted in front of her eyes, but that's probably worse than giving her a hug???? lol...jeez.

shop didn't have a window unfortunately, but I'll definitely keep that rule in mind lol.
 
When they start talking about their ex's , its so annoying and rude than why ask me out in the first place if they are going to turn the date into a counseling session. I had a few guys spill what their ex's did to them. I sat there with a bored face and put me to me sleep. I told him , get over it!:lol: This was awhile back when I was in my twenties.
 
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:hmm: If they do not open the door for me. That first thing is a big one! I need a gentleman! :D Also, if they are letting their eyes wander too much and not looking upward enough.:lol:
 
quirkylibra said:
:hmm: If they do not open the door for me. That first thing is a big one! I need a gentleman! :D Also, if they are letting their eyes wander too much and not looking upward enough.:lol:
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You want them to look at ceiling or sky more often?? :hmm:
 
If the guy talks only about himself especially how he had many girlfriends or gets all the ladies. That screams "PIMP!" :lol:
 
craigm26 said:
I had one frozen yogurt date that turned into a nightmare. She broke down crying after talking about the burden of having high family expectations of her to become a medical doctor. I reached wayyyy to far and she already was stressed out...I tried to pull her out of the train of thought she had, but she kept going. Apparently, I made her uncomfortable when I hugged her and that was it. Other friends told me she was weird and somewhat understandable it turned out that way.
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Did this one not alert all your red flags prior to the date? :hmm: must be a sneaky one.


quirkylibra said:
Also, if they are letting their eyes wander too much and not looking upward enough.:lol:
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Are they shy or looking at you know what? How about what if you cover up or wear a jacket?
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Some guys get distracted way too much.. but if you put them to the ultimate test (ie Bikini bod) good luck getting one not to look!
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Secretblend said:
You want them to look at ceiling or sky more often?? :hmm:
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I would like them to look somewhere other than my breasts. :lol:
naisho said:
Did this one not alert all your red flags prior to the date? :hmm: must be a sneaky one


Are they shy or looking at you know what? How about what if you cover up or wear a jacket?
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Some guys get distracted way too much.. but if you put them to the ultimate test (ie Bikini bod) good luck getting one not to look!
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:lol: Some looking is okay.
 
Hah, I remember my very first date.. I was living in Great Lakes, IL and my date was a 25 year old corpsman named Casey. I was barely 18 and was clearly clueless on how to date. He ordered a vast array of food (including dessert), gave me a blank stare when the check arrived, and I had to pay for eeeeeverything. This pattern continued even when we went to the movies and he ordered practically everything from the snack bar, I had no idea dating would be so expensive =P Needless to say, I ended things quickly when I realized he was just helping himself to my savings account >_<

Oh.. I've had people tank even before the first date, imagine this as a text: "Hi, my favorite color is green. Can I flirt with you?"

O_O
 
quirkylibra said:
:hmm: If they do not open the door for me. That first thing is a big one! I need a gentleman! :D Also, if they are letting their eyes wander too much and not looking upward enough.:lol:
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It also depends on the attire, if a woman wears a revealing shirt.. well then, it is evident she wants eyes to travel to that region ;) For the female populace: Keep the girlies in the shirt if you want eye contact longer than 3 seconds lol
 
jinxedkitten said:
Hah, I remember my very first date.. I was living in Great Lakes, IL and my date was a 25 year old corpsman named Casey. I was barely 18 and was clearly clueless on how to date. He ordered a vast array of food (including dessert), gave me a blank stare when the check arrived, and I had to pay for eeeeeverything. This pattern continued even when we went to the movies and he ordered practically everything from the snack bar, I had no idea dating would be so expensive =P Needless to say, I ended things quickly when I realized he was just helping himself to my savings account >_<

Oh.. I've had people tank even before the first date, imagine this as a text: "Hi, my favorite color is green. Can I flirt with you?"

O_O
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:lol: luckily I've never had one that wanted me to pay all the time! That would blow it!
jinxedkitten said:
It also depends on the attire, if a woman wears a revealing shirt.. well then, it is evident she wants eyes to travel to that region ;) For the female populace: Keep the girlies in the shirt if you want eye contact longer than 3 seconds lol
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I've found that it doesn't matter what shirt I wear. The respectful ones attempt some eye contact...an atempt is enough for me. It's the ones who don't even try that ruin it for themselves! :giggle:
 
quirkylibra said:
:lol: luckily I've never had one that wanted me to pay all the time! That would blow it!

I've found that it doesn't matter what shirt I wear. The respectful ones attempt some eye contact...an atempt is enough for me. It's the ones who don't even try that ruin it for themselves! :giggle:
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Put a piece of lettuce in your teeth.......He will stare at that all night but won't say anything.... :lol:
 
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