Had To Give Up My Seat For A Deaf Person...

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TyrannicQUAKE

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Hey all,

I'm not deaf but really wanted someone to help me understand something. I got frustrated today, and I want to understand, as lack of understanding is what often causes frustrations.

So I'm writing this on the train. The train is rammed, as usual.

Five minutes after setting off a woman came up to me, and said whilst signing, 'move I need that seat'. I looked at her with a look that must have shown how confused I was.

She the said ' that's my seat, I'm deaf and you need to move.'

It was apparent she was deaf, so with my brain finally catching up, I was about to move then she said again 'move I need to sit'.

So i did move and didn't say a word, I am currently stood two foot away bemused.

Ignoring her rudeness, why do deaf people need the seat, obviously for someone who has never experienced it, it would seem that she could stand just as well as anyone else.

So please help me understand.
 
Oh I googled first and couldn't find anything. Which is why I am asking here. So hopefully not stepping on anyone's toes. I have a disabled mother and I have always wished people would just ask rather than assume. :)
 
By chance is there allocated seating on your train? A lot of trains have seats that are numbered and can be pre-booked, so maybe you literally were sitting in her allocated seat?

As for her rudeness, there's no excuse. She could've been polite about it but chose to be a douche. I'm deaf and I stand on trains all the time, so I have no idea why she thought her deafness entitled her to sit instead of other people. So, unless she has some sort of ailment that prevents her from standing then you had every right to refuse to move for her.

You paid for your ticket just like her.
 
How old was the woman and was she able to stand on her own OK? I never heard of such thing ! I am hoh and never ask anyone to give up their seat
for me. I had given my seat to older people while on the subway . I wouldn't had gotten up unless the woman was really old or
looked like she was having trouble standing for a long time.
 
Nah deffo not, reserved seating. I double checked :). But I get this train all the time and you can't reserve.

It was deffo the deafness she used as the reason to sit. So I was just wondering if there was something I didn't know as she was waking fine.

So I'm not a mug for being frustrated then? :).
 
She was standing fine. She is in hiking gear and had was standing whilst the train was moving without needing to hold onto anything. I skill I myself do not have.

:) thanks for being kind guys I was worried I was being a jerk and just didn't know it
 
TyrannicQUAKE said:
Nah deffo not, reserved seating. I double checked :). But I get this train all the time and you can't reserve.

It was deffo the deafness she used as the reason to sit. So I was just wondering if there was something I didn't know as she was waking fine.

So I'm not a mug for being frustrated then? :).
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Either way she shouldn't have been so rude about it. Manners cost nothing :dunno2:
 
I don't think Deafness is the sole reason, just because shes Deaf isn't sufficient to take reserved seat for disabled. If that person happen to be Deaf and had bad back and couldn't tell you why which is a possibility. There are some people that its hardly noticeable but can't stand too long. I am one of them, I can't stand for too long, otherwise my spine will kill me and I can't talk normally.
 
diehardbiker said:
I don't think Deafness is the sole reason, just because shes Deaf isn't sufficient to take reserved seat for disabled. If that person happen to be Deaf and had bad back and couldn't tell you why which is a possibility. There are some people that its hardly noticeable but can't stand too long. I am one of them, I can't stand for too long, otherwise my spine will kill me and I can't talk normally.
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But she specifically said because she was deaf. She communicated incredibly well even if incredibly rude :). I have no issue with giving my seat up for someone who needs it. I just wanted to make sure I was missing something that made it hard for deaf people to stand. Say if it affected balance etc.
 
TyrannicQUAKE said:
But she specifically said because she was deaf. She communicated incredibly well even if incredibly rude :). I have no issue with giving my seat up for someone who needs it. I just wanted to make sure I was missing something that made it hard for deaf people to stand. Say if it affected balance etc.
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I agreed that just because Deaf isn't sufficient to take up reserved seats. Had to have physical disabilities like missing limbs, bad spine, etc

Not all Deafies are like that, so don't assume the rest would do same thing. There are always bad ones, just like every race, disability, etc,. even perfect whites like Donald Trump can be anal too.
 
ah I had to deal with rude people pushing me to move without asking first lol but I don't mind.. but I knew they don't want to share seat that's for sure.. but if it's crowded in light rail I will stand for a while that doesn't bother me but I use cane so.. sometimes I can't walk good I use cane.. go figures lol
 
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diehardbiker said:
I agreed that just because Deaf isn't sufficient to take up reserved seats. Had to have physical disabilities like missing limbs, bad spine, etc

Not all Deafies are like that, so don't assume the rest would do same thing. There are always bad ones, just like every race, disability, etc,. even perfect whites like Donald Trump can be anal too.
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Yeah deffo and I am not I just wanted to check that it wasn't just something I didn't understand. Aresholes are aresholes regardless of sex, race, disability, etc
 
Take the high road. I usually do. Well not always but once in a blue moon. :D
 
Yesterday I saw a chick struggling to split apart two shopping carts at Home Depot. I jumped in to help because she was fairly hot. See. The high road. :D
 
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