Emotional Abuse..

I completely agree with Jillio and Jolie; do not give that person that kind of power over you, Dixie, most especially now that he's physically absent.....and once you do that, you will most probably will cease to harbor the idea that ALL guys are like this.
 
PePe LePew said:
My man is wrong to tell that lady of his problems with me, that lady didn't really care what kinds of a problems he has with me, all she cares about gettin' him to leave me, she's no friend to begin with, I asked him if she was a true friend she wouldn't even tried to get you to leave me and she did tried so hard to get him to leave me, some slut she is.
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Yes your man is wrong to be sharing personal information with a woman. That is called an emotional affair.

You cannot blame it all on that woman - your man is to be blamed too. Have you told him to quit talking to her? It takes TWO to tango.
 
Freaky Cat said:
I am sorry to hear about this. Your man should have ignored her and be with you instead. Its wrong of him to tell your and his problems to that lady too? thats why now yall have plms. Ur man need to straight his act up and make his decision to stay true to you for good and bad times no matter what. just ignore her and let it go. One day that lady will get what coming to her so be patient.. Pray to God and tell him to take care of your problems. I hope in time this shall pass. Just dont give up! :hug:
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Amen
 
Dixie said:
He has spread crazy lies about me and my daughter - he even went so far as to tell a former employer that we both share that me and my DD were killed by a drunk driver. This came to light when I went to pick up my W-2 forms from this person and his jaw just dropped straight to the floor when I walked in. I never want to deal with that again, so I just avoid serious commitments.
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At least your ex-boss knows now that your ex lies.
 
PePe LePew said:
My man is wrong to tell that lady of his problems with me, that lady didn't really care what kinds of a problems he has with me, all she cares about gettin' him to leave me, she's no friend to begin with, I asked him if she was a true friend she wouldn't even tried to get you to leave me and she did tried so hard to get him to leave me, some slut she is.
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Flashback to my ex! He told his sister-in-law about our disagreement and even brought her over to have her telling me that I am wrong. This shocked me. This ex is staying ex forever. Like Dixie, I don't want any commitment with a man.
 
jillio said:
Well, they are all kind of connected because verbal abuse can cause negative emotions. But technically speaking, emotional abuse would be like withholding affection or rejecting someone all the time, while verbal abuse is sayingthings that make the other person feel bad about themselves. What you posted though, would fall intothe category of both because he says something that makes you feel bad, like you are responsible because you didn't hear.(Verbal abuse) Then refuses to repeat what was said, so he is denying you communication (emotional abuse).
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Yeah, you are right...it makes sense...'
its both then......oh golly.
Ok thanks...
 
Well - not all guys are like my ex who was a real piece of work :rolleyes: But every guy Ive dated since then have been jerks. L---- was demanding sex and kept forcing me to drink to an alocoholic state where I felt like I could not function with out it. Ive been dried out from that for 6 months now that I sobered up and cut loose from him.

then the last guy was just mentally missing pieces. He'd want to play around and do dirty things, but I had to tread lightly around him as he would get offended at the littlest thing and I had to keep the kiddie gloves on 90% of the time. So after a month of dating him I said it's over, I cant keep the kiddie gloves on forever.

So anyway Im sort of looking for someone to date but not seriously. Ive just about decided that perhaps I need to ask for a blind date from friends that think they know a guy thats a good match - certaintly have trouble picking guys on my own, :lol:
 
Dixie said:
Well - not all guys are like my ex who was a real piece of work :rolleyes: But every guy Ive dated since then have been jerks. L---- was demanding sex and kept forcing me to drink to an alocoholic state where I felt like I could not function with out it. Ive been dried out from that for 6 months now that I sobered up and cut loose from him.

then the last guy was just mentally missing pieces. He'd want to play around and do dirty things, but I had to tread lightly around him as he would get offended at the littlest thing and I had to keep the kiddie gloves on 90% of the time. So after a month of dating him I said it's over, I cant keep the kiddie gloves on forever.

So anyway Im sort of looking for someone to date but not seriously. Ive just about decided that perhaps I need to ask for a blind date from friends that think they know a guy thats a good match - certaintly have trouble picking guys on my own, :lol:
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I hope I don't offend, Dixie, becasue that truly is not my intent......but, perhaps there are some issues that you need to deal with in yourself that causes you to be repeatedly attracted (albeit, unconsciously) to this particular type of man.
 
Emotional and Verbal Abuse can go both ways in a relationship in marriage, between kids and adults etc even between friends too.. with accurate conuslering , getting help people will improve and change.. unless by will power and relaize thier mistakes.. ...sadly there are some people refusing get help and repeat and sow thier mistakes again and again.

Also i wanna add something.. also there is some people using False hopes on others and leading them to believe and having emtional pains/Confusing abt life ...
 
dartmouth said:
verbal abuse is feminist hogwash
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while i have no love for radical feminists, i disagree. i had been verbally, emotionally and psychologically abused by my ex-girlfriend. at that time i thought it was part of a relationship but it wasn't.
 
jillio said:
Judging from that comment, I would say you are most likely an abuser, or one who is being abused and unable to come to terms with your situation.
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baah! i got no situation, never did, never will
 
dartmouth said:
verbal abuse is feminist hogwash
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Yea really? So, it is not verbal abuse when my ex hubby had put me down for many years that it totally alienated me and made me believe that everything was my fault and he was right at all times? That it made me think so negatively about myself and drive me to become a very negative person only to have him put me down even more for being negative all the time? That's not verbal abuse? Then what is that?

In my view, that is verbal abuse and nobody should have to go through that.
 
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