Emotional Abuse..

Freaky Cat said:
im sorry if the link doesnt work.. if you looked closely.. i put the links here last year so obivously why the file is not found. I m sorry.
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Freaky Cat.. I just let you know these sites wont work.. :)
 
Buffalo said:
I have a question... Does that mean if your parents refuse to learn sign language, it is a form of emotional abuse ????
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Depend on your feeling.

Do you feel hurt when your parents refuse to learn sign language with you? If yes, it mean that your needs feel being neglect/deny is an emotional abuse.

If you don´t feel hurt by your parent´s denial then is not emotional abuse because you think what your parents did is fine with you.
 
XBGMER said:
Freaky Cat.. I just let you know these sites wont work.. :)
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yes thank you.. its old.. i figured it would not be there as i posted it there last year... so naturally it wouldnt be found ... sorry about that..


i have tendinitis and arthiritis in my right hand and right arm.. also carpal tunnel syndrome in both of my hands.. i still sign but can get stiff at times.. but not smooth as it was like in the past. oh well!
 
About a Emotional Abuse

If you know someone who's emotionally abusin' you without physically beatin' you up, but verbally abusin' you another way to say beatin' you up with words that are abusive, it will killed your health...

If a man or a woman is doin' this to you, it's better to runs, before it is too late.

Don't let someone killin' your health, get out of the abusive relationship, before it's too late!!!

You deserved to be Healthy and Alive!!!
 
Ive been down that road and I truly believe that at times I am seriously messed up because of what I went through physically, verbally, and emotionally as a teen. There are times I doubt myself and sometimes think Im just one big screw up after another. But then there are times that I pick myself, realize that I am past that - shove the memories back into a deep dark corner of my mind then get on with my life. It is better to move on than to wallow in the past in my opinion so that is how I deal with it, just move on from it as quickly as possible.
 
Dixie said:
Ive been down that road and I truly believe that at times I am seriously messed up because of what I went through physically, verbally, and emotionally as a teen. There are times I doubt myself and sometimes think Im just one big screw up after another. But then there are times that I pick myself, realize that I am past that - shove the memories back into a deep dark corner of my mind then get on with my life. It is better to move on than to wallow in the past in my opinion so that is how I deal with it, just move on from it as quickly as possible.
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I may be speaking out of turn here, Dixie, so if I offend you, please tell me and I will aplologize.

I admire your strength, and you are right that we must move on from experiences like that. But, as a counselor, I want to suggest something. Maybe if you stop shovingthe memories into a deep dark corner of your mind, and allow yourself to recognize how painful and unjust this treatment was, you will no longer feel self doubt and as if you are a screw up sometimes. Just allow yourself to remember, and then tell yourself, "Theproblem was his, I did nothing to deserve his abuse. It was unfair, and it hurt me. But I did the right thing by trying to love another person. It was his problem because he was unable to accept the love I tried to give. damn it, it was unfair, and it hurt, and I didn't deserve it. But it doesn't make me a bad person, and it doesn't mean that I did anything wrong!" Just tell yourself those positive things every time a memory pops up, or anytime you feel self doubt, and you will be surprised at the way those memories loose their power to affect you.
 
Dixie, I'm not a counselor, per se but I wanted to add something. Btw, Jillio has said some really good things.

I think what you also could do is walk up to that person or persons and tell them that you forgive them for all they have done or not done to you and walk away. Presto, instant transferrence!

You hang in there, girl....you've come a long way as it is!
 
Tousi said:
Dixie, I'm not a counselor, per se but I wanted to add something. Btw, Jillio has said some really good things.

I think what you also could do is walk up to that person or persons and tell them that you forgive them for all they have done or not done to you and walk away. Presto, instant transferrence!

You hang in there, girl....you've come a long way as it is!
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Excellent suggestion, Tousi. Forgiveness helps us more than the person we are forgiving. Likewise, not forgiving does us more harm that the person we don't forgive.
 
But often in these situations forgiveness is easier said than done. What do you say to someone that has cost you your home? Money that you had worked hard for and essentially left you and your children without a home and left only unpaid bills illegally put in your name?

Right now - even after four years - my skin still burns at the thought of my ex-husband. Will I ever forgive? I dont know. What would I say to him if I saw him again? I dont know. He has spread crazy lies about me and my daughter - he even went so far as to tell a former employer that we both share that me and my DD were killed by a drunk driver. This came to light when I went to pick up my W-2 forms from this person and his jaw just dropped straight to the floor when I walked in. I never want to deal with that again, so I just avoid serious commitments.
 
Dixie said:
But often in these situations forgiveness is easier said than done. What do you say to someone that has cost you your home? Money that you had worked hard for and essentially left you and your children without a home and left only unpaid bills illegally put in your name?

Right now - even after four years - my skin still burns at the thought of my ex-husband. Will I ever forgive? I dont know. What would I say to him if I saw him again? I dont know. He has spread crazy lies about me and my daughter - he even went so far as to tell a former employer that we both share that me and my DD were killed by a drunk driver. This came to light when I went to pick up my W-2 forms from this person and his jaw just dropped straight to the floor when I walked in. I never want to deal with that again, so I just avoid serious commitments.
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Those are material things, Dixie. They can be replaced. You still have your self respect. That's something he never had, and probably will never have. Trust me, you are better off than he is. You can gather up that self respect, and go about building another life for yourself and your kids; a happy one without fear of abuse. He might rebuild material possessions, but with out his self respect, they will not bring him happiness. Even with the material stuff, he is miserable and hateful. Even without it, you are a strong, self-respecting woman with hope.

If nothing else, how about feeling pity for him for his misery and his weakness in believing that making others miserable is going to alleviate his own misery. What he did was totally wrong...I agree with you on that. And you have every right to feel anger and indignation. But you can't hold onto it forever. If you try, you only let him continue to control your life. He's still got ahold of your thoughts and emotions. Don't let him continue to have that kind of power over you, Dixie. He's not worth it.
 
i feel so sorry for all of you who got emotional abuse from guys or whoever in your life and i am glad that they are out of your lives but scars by abuses don't go away easy
HUGS you all please let yourself knowledge that you all are alive of what you did like left the relationships or whatever it is smile

sometimes i feel that i was emotional abused because what i did but mostly i knew that i do nothing wrong and i let them go not worth being in the relationship for
 
Dixie, I feel you, girl but u know what? You can either say "I'm not going to let him run my life, no way in hell that's not going to happen" or you could say "I've lost and I'm sweeping it under the rug". You owe it to yourself to give a pat on the back and to say you're a survivor through this. Nobody deserves to be treated like this one way or other. Like Jillio said, You still have your self respect. That won't be striped away from you because you still are young and you have plenty of "fire" inside you to strive for the best.

I can relate into this because I've been down the road before. Emotional Abuse is something that has hit home for me. I've learned to be a better person from that because it taught me to be cautious and not only that, it has also taught me how strong I can be to get through anything. You can do the same thing. I know it's easier said than done but time does heal too. Give it time and you will feel better in the end. ;)
 
Thank You Freaky Cat

You wouldn't believe how awful that girl is from California, she knew I had diabetes, my man is the one who told her I had diabetes and she also told my man she is also diabetes too and she was verbally abusin' me so bad and she made my sugar went up to 400, some girl from the DeafChat, and it's a long story, she was very nasty to me, cuz she was messin' with my man and causin' alots of problems with me and him, she was horrible, never ever talk to her again for makin' my sugar over blown, forget her!

That girl was tryin' to get my man to break up with me, she gave him a bad tips about me, tryin' to destroy our relationship, she wanted him soo bad, I told my man she's not your true friend for tryin' to be in the meddle some between us which ain't right, she's not a true friend and I watch her talkin' to my man in AIM and she wanted to have my man's baby, sick muthafuka lady, she was useless up to no good...

My sugar went striaght up very high cuz of her tryin' to mess up my relationship with my man, it was very bad, too long to explain.
Freaky Cat said:
AMEN to that, Pepe! :)
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True friend would help someone out with their relationship, but she didn't care enough and tried to ruins our relationship!

My man is wrong to tell that lady of his problems with me, that lady didn't really care what kinds of a problems he has with me, all she cares about gettin' him to leave me, she's no friend to begin with, I asked him if she was a true friend she wouldn't even tried to get you to leave me and she did tried so hard to get him to leave me, some slut she is.
 
PePe LePew said:
You wouldn't believe how awful that girl is from California, she knew I had diabetes, my man is the one who told her I had diabetes and she also told my man she is also diabetes too and she was verbally abusin' me so bad and she made my sugar went up to 400, some girl from the DeafChat, and it's a long story, she was very nasty to me, cuz she was messin' with my man and causin' alots of problems with me and him, she was horrible, never ever talk to her again for makin' my sugar over blown, forget her!

That girl was tryin' to get my man to break up with me, she gave him a bad tips about me, tryin' to destroy our relationship, she wanted him soo bad, I told my man she's not your true friend for tryin' to be in the meddle some between us which ain't right, she's not a true friend and I watch her talkin' to my man in AIM and she wanted to have my man's baby, sick muthafuka lady, she was useless up to no good...

My sugar went striaght up very high cuz of her tryin' to mess up my relationship with my man, it was very bad, too long to explain.


True friend would help someone out with their relationship, but she didn't care enough and tried to ruins our relationship!

My man is wrong to tell that lady of his problems with me, that lady didn't really care what kinds of a problems he has with me, all she cares about gettin' him to leave me, she's no friend to begin with, I asked him if she was a true friend she wouldn't even tried to get you to leave me and she did tried so hard to get him to leave me, some slut she is.
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I am sorry to hear about this. Your man should have ignored her and be with you instead. Its wrong of him to tell your and his problems to that lady too? thats why now yall have plms. Ur man need to straight his act up and make his decision to stay true to you for good and bad times no matter what. just ignore her and let it go. One day that lady will get what coming to her so be patient.. Pray to God and tell him to take care of your problems. I hope in time this shall pass. Just dont give up! :hug:
 
PePe LePew said:
You wouldn't believe how awful that girl is from California, she knew I had diabetes, my man is the one who told her I had diabetes and she also told my man she is also diabetes too and she was verbally abusin' me so bad and she made my sugar went up to 400, some girl from the DeafChat, and it's a long story, she was very nasty to me, cuz she was messin' with my man and causin' alots of problems with me and him, she was horrible, never ever talk to her again for makin' my sugar over blown, forget her!

That girl was tryin' to get my man to break up with me, she gave him a bad tips about me, tryin' to destroy our relationship, she wanted him soo bad, I told my man she's not your true friend for tryin' to be in the meddle some between us which ain't right, she's not a true friend and I watch her talkin' to my man in AIM and she wanted to have my man's baby, sick muthafuka lady, she was useless up to no good...

My sugar went striaght up very high cuz of her tryin' to mess up my relationship with my man, it was very bad, too long to explain.


True friend would help someone out with their relationship, but she didn't care enough and tried to ruins our relationship!

My man is wrong to tell that lady of his problems with me, that lady didn't really care what kinds of a problems he has with me, all she cares about gettin' him to leave me, she's no friend to begin with, I asked him if she was a true friend she wouldn't even tried to get you to leave me and she did tried so hard to get him to leave me, some slut she is.
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OUCH!!! damn she is not no good just a troublemaker smh
hugs to you
my uncle is diabetic so i know smile
 
i agree with moonflower that the lady is a troublemaker.. sigh
 
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