Has anybody ever seen Malcolm In The Middle episode where Lois got a rebate coupon for a family portrait and took her family to have a picture taken?
She put them in nice clothes, all washed and made up, and while at the photo centre the boys of course started fighting with each other, messing up their hair and the clothing,
and finally Lois yelled I WANT TO HAVE A NICE FAMILY PICTURE ALL TOGETHER FOR THREE SECONDS, WITH SMILES --- NOW!!!!
Click, flash, they got their "happy family" picture taken in a blink of the eye, indeed all smiles looking happy and close together, and immediately after that the boys resumed their fights
This is what I think of "whole, happy family" of Duggars.
I'll bet if someone took them off camera, off the side and asked the children how they REALLY felt....
Some people here are 100% right. Bringing up the children is parent's responsibility. Expecting the older children to take care of the younger is NOT RIGHT.
IT is NOT a right way to teach children to be responsible and caring. It's borderline abuse. There are other ways to teach children be a good adults, and happy and productive childhood does not equal being lazy and unhelpful, but it's definitely NOT having to care for youngsters.
It's one thing to ask the child to ocassionally help with te younger one, another to permanently attach taking care of them all the time.
I personally would not want to be forced into taking care of little children in my youth- I would have plenty of time for that later with my own, until the end of my life, thank you very much.
Damn right, when is supposed to be MY TIME FOR being just a kid?
This time will never come back, ever.
If you as a parent are not able to take care of your children by YOURSELF, then don't make them!!!!
Fuzzy