Do we have a challenge ahead of us to avoid becoming Hearing?

It was bad timing at the bakery - it was crowded at lunchtime and I was in a hurry. But had it been less hectic, I would have explained to the 5 year old what it was. She's not the first young kid to be curious and I'm usually very open and friendly about explaining things to them. But yeah, next time the parent doesn't tell their child to mind their manners, I will speak up.
 
sallylou said:
My therapist once told me that her work deals with the results of not having emotional needs met in childhood. That's why I was there! :hmm:
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This is so, so true.

In connection with having emotional needs met: My husband and I just returned from a trip to my hometown to attend my nephew's wedding. It was great to see my family, including sisters and their husbands, step-brothers and their wives, nieces, nephews, and my 92-year-old uncle and his wife. We are a pretty close, yet very diverse, bunch, all told.

Driving back, my husband said "I hope you realize how lucky you are to have a family like that, and to grow up the way you did."

And he is so right. My parents demonstrated they loved us kids every single day. My husband's parents - they loved him, of course, but they had that British "stiff upper lip" thing going and were not as demonstrative about it.

Loving your kids and showing them that, every single day, is just about the most important thing you will ever do in this life. The benefits endure for generations, quite literally.
 
BecLak said:
I agree with you on this, the positive approach is the best way, it would still have that 'ripple effect'. I wasn't meaning the negative approach, just taking the opportunity to bring awareness. :ty: for clarifying that. When I say - walk off, I was meaning that generally people do not accept an interruption. Short and sweet was what I was aiming at. :D
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Gotcha, no worries. Just wanted to clarify how it might look to an outsider.

DeafCaroline said:
It was bad timing at the bakery - it was crowded at lunchtime and I was in a hurry. But had it been less hectic, I would have explained to the 5 year old what it was. She's not the first young kid to be curious and I'm usually very open and friendly about explaining things to them. But yeah, next time the parent doesn't tell their child to mind their manners, I will speak up.
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Yeah, you come across online at least as pretty friendly, lol.
 
Trying to keep up.

Mild, moderate, sometimes severe usually called HOH.
Profound always called deaf.
Severe sometimes called deaf.
Wear CI always called deaf cos they are in profound range.

That how I see people use it where I am.

Then you get BSL users in Deaf Community call themselves Deaf.
 
Speedy hawk,

What about those with profound hearing loss who communicate by primarily through speaking and listening?
 
kokonut said:
Speedy hawk,

What about those with profound hearing loss who communicate by primarily through speaking and listening?
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Cover in the first paragraph and separate from BSL users. :doh:
 
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Some of us have progressive hearing loss and our status is in flux. Labels don't convey the process.
 
So what do you suggest instead of labels? What do I call a person with a profound hearing loss? Or a person with mild to moderate hearing loss? What is the proper term for them?
 
I recommend that we not try to label people. Treat each other as people. I don't need to catergorize someone else to define myself.
 
I completely agree with you. 100%.

I should have framed my question differently. Let's say, in the future, I am addressing problems that people with hearing loss face. Do I have to keep addressing them as "people with varying hearing levels" in order to sidestep the label issues? Or is there a "safe word" in order to avoid offending anyone?

Get what I'm saying?
 
DeafCaroline said:
I completely agree with you. 100%.

I should have framed my question differently. Let's say, in the future, I am addressing problems that people with hearing loss face. Do I have to keep addressing them as "people with varying hearing levels" in order to sidestep the label issues? Or is there a "safe word" in order to avoid offending anyone?

Get what I'm saying?
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I thought the combined "deaf and/or hard of hearing" was the recommended term for those who you're unsure of how they personally label themselves? That's what we were told at St. Rita's, at least.
 
I'm trying to think of a situation in which I would address a whole category of people, aside from discussions here.

If you meet someone and want to know their hearing status, you could just ask, "Are you hearing?" and the person can call herself whatever she wants.
 
Beowulf said:
Auditorily challenged?
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Hahaha! A NUN once corrected me when I said I was deaf by saying "you mean auditorally challenged?' while making a tsk tsk sound like I was offending my own people or something. I was like "really? I mean really?"
 
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