Deafness is the Part of Who You Are

Deafness is the Part of Who Are You.

  • Strongly Agreed

    Votes: 21 47.7%

  • Agreed

    Votes: 15 34.1%

  • Neutral

    Votes: 5 11.4%

  • Disagreed

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Strongly Disagreed

    Votes: 2 4.5%

  • Yes and No - How so and why?

    Votes: 1 2.3%
  • Total voters
    44
web730 said:
Not surprised here... your attitude affects you so.

But sure enough, that is your honest answer. :cool:
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You seem to have a problem with what I say, and why is that?
 
Angel said:
You seem to have a problem with what I say, and why is that?
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Not my problem, actually... it's you not accepting deafness as a whole yourself that affects your attitude toward yourself and for other deafies. It ain't so good, but I do understand that it's not for everybody, however.

It just gets much easier to accept deafness than not to.

Just please don't let my comments bother you otherwise, winks.
 
web730 said:
Not my problem, actually... it's you not accepting deafness as a whole yourself that affects your attitude toward yourself and for other deafies. It ain't so good, but I do understand that it's not for everybody, however.

It just gets much easier to accept deafness than not to.

Just please don't let my comments bother you otherwise, winks.
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Ouch, If that is the way you wish to interpret it, then fine but I never said I did not accept my deafness.

to me, being deaf isn't something I should be proud of nor does it means I would be ashamed of it either. I learned to live with it no matter how hard it was growing up not being able to understand things that go on around me, misunderstood a lot of people and sitting around during family gathering watching my family laughing, chatting etc leaving my sister and I fully out of it, not being able to hear my children's laughters etc Now things doesn't bother me as much as it used to be, I learned that deafness is part of who I am, and I'm enjoying my life as being the person I am today.

Anyways we all have opinions of this issue. I have mine and you have yours. :)
 
Jolie77 said:
I have been deaf since birth. It is who I am. It is my identity. I am proud to be a deaf person (this is in no way to put others down). What I am saying is, I am not ashamed to be a deaf person. I'm not like one of the deaf militants that over-exceeds the "pride" of being deaf by putting others down to a radical point.

Being deaf is all I have only known to be. So, no, I don't hate the deafness. The only thing I hate about it is when there are a lot of divided groups that tries to shun one another out of the picture.
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Nice to have such a positive self-image of yourself. Kudos to you!
 
Angel said:
Ouch, If that is the way you wish to interpret it, then fine but I never said I did not accept my deafness.

to me, being deaf isn't something I should be proud of nor does it means I would be ashamed of it either. I learned to live with it no matter how hard it was growing up not being able to understand things that go on around me, misunderstood a lot of people and sitting around during family gathering watching my family laughing, chatting etc leaving my sister and I fully out of it, not being able to hear my children's laughters etc Now things doesn't bother me as much as it used to be, I learned that deafness is part of who I am, and I'm enjoying my life as being the person I am today.

Anyways we all have opinions of this issue. I have mine and you have yours. :)
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I'm with you Angel. I feel more weird than anything to say that I'm proud of being deaf. Isn't that kinda like saying "I'm proud to have brown hair"? It's something I was born with, not worked hard for. I'm proud of my life and being deaf is definitely a part of who I am.
 
Daredevel7 said:
I'm with you Angel. I feel more weird than anything to say that I'm proud of being deaf. Isn't that kinda like saying "I'm proud to have brown hair"? It's something I was born with, not worked hard for. I'm proud of my life and being deaf is definitely a part of who I am.
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Some people are proud to be blondes! :giggle:
 
Daredevel7 said:
I'm with you Angel. I feel more weird than anything to say that I'm proud of being deaf. Isn't that kinda like saying "I'm proud to have brown hair"? It's something I was born with, not worked hard for. I'm proud of my life and being deaf is definitely a part of who I am.
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Exactly, that's how I feel too. Thank you for being understanding, I really appreciate it. :)
 
shel90 said:
Nice to have such a positive self-image of yourself. Kudos to you!
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Thank You. :)

While I try to maintain a positive self-image, It is in no way to say we are better than other. I think in a sense, whether we can accept our deafness by liking it or not, there is always a path where we can take it in stride, so to speak.
 
I don't understand what it is to be happy to be deaf? There are advantages/disadvantages of being deaf. I've never met a hearing person who claims to be so happy to hear. I've met some who hate the noises they hear. ;)

I'm not happy to be deaf, but I do accept my deafness, it's a part of me and I live to make the most of it. ;)
 
I voted: Agree.

I accept my deafness and positive it at long time ago.

I am happy and satisfy what I am and what I can acheive anything...

Yes I know there;re cons/pros about deafness but I positive it as the same as hearing said there;re cons/pros about hearing as well.




 
I voted nothing.


Deafness has nothing to do with who we are. It's the experience in life and sex that defines who we are.


What we do shows who we are.
 
I'm apology for my ignorant. I didn't read your thread for a while. Remember I told you on PM. I will explain to you. I accepted to be deafness. It never change anything. Yes, I wish I would hear a music and any sound environment. I have to accept who I am. But I am happy to know ASL instead oral.

KarissaMann05 said:
If you are not happy with your deafness and are not so proud of it, but you accept who you are. That is mean you are ashamed of yourself because you are not happy with your own deafness and you did say you wish you want to be normal like a hearing person. To me, you do have a low self-esteem because you don't accept a happiness if you have a deafness.

Take a look from the first post -



Unless you feel happy/love that deafness is part of who you are while you don't have any pride about it. That is wonderful. :)
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Growing up, I was ashamed of my deafness and would try to 'hide' it as my parents saw that as a defect. As you all know I am deaf/hoh and I grew up in a completely oral environment.

After I grew up and got out into the world a bit I realized that being deaf is nothing to be ashamed of. In fact it has probably enabled me in certain ways. I probably won't become rich or famous because of it, but I feel like I have a different understanding of what it means to communicate. The only regret I have it that it took me close to 23 years to realize this and to learn that being deaf isnt everything I am, it doesnt make me nothing, it is simply a part of me like the rest of my body parts.
 
Well, I was mainstreamed, although my mother wanted me to attend the deaf school in Faribault, MN., but dad said, "no, costs money." Funny thing, years later, I told my dad that the state would have paid the entire bill, including transportation and all he would have provided is spending money during the week.

When I was growing up and after I received hearing aids at age 11, I had my hair past my earlobes because I didn't want my hearing aids showing. I learned in 8th grade that they did and the kids didn't treat me any differently.

In September of this year, I had my speech tested to see if I needed more therapy, as I had it a couple years ago at another university. The test came back and said I didn't need it, which is nice because, when I graduate in May 2009, I'll be, hopefully, working in the television news media as a reporter. My speech is very clear, but my asl is poor. No one in my town (Fargo, ND., and Moorhead, MN) that's deaf will talk to me with the exception of one family who has a deaf girl. I have a hearing dog and none of the deafs like that, which I believe is their problem, not mine.

When I become a tv news reporter, people will find out that I have hearing aids and, hopefully, the deaf people there will see that and maybe say hi to me. I don't expect it. If they want to shun someone for doing what they love to do and being deaf is a part of it and they don't like it, that's not my problem to feel bad about that. Do I accept myself for being deaf? Yes, I do. I also accept other deaf people. If they want to be friends with me, as many here are, that's great and I reciprocate. But, there are those that are very hostile toward me. I don't have the time of day for them and will never chase them down, begging them to be friends, because they're stuck in their own little world.

I refuse to be sucked into their beliefs.
 
i used to wanna be a hearing person but then i figured out and realized that i rather to be deaf period cuz if i become hearing, i wud freak out and overwhelemed and wud be so scare by those noises that i am not familiar with so i rather to be deaf and very happy to be deaf and even my son is hearing, i still accpect it, i dont wanna change myself to be hearing, no way...i only want hearing aids for my son's sake so i can hear his cry and important sounds from him
 
I voted strongly disagree
Because I don't believe that deafness define any part of who you are its only physical part of you, only who you truly are in the inside define who you are. Like I am Amy, that's who I am.
It doesn't mean I don't accept my deafness or against deaf community or anything like that.
its just not something to be accepted its just something to live with its like saying I don't accept my feet size really I don't care about it I just live with it.
And there is people that's fine with it and don't care about their deafness, wear hearing aids and/or CI it doesn't mean anything toward their deafness. Its just devices, its like what kind shoes you wear some prefer to wear sandals some prefer to wear high heel shoes, some prefer to go barefoot. its not physical part or an definition of who you are or how you feel about yourself.
 
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