Lillys dad
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I took my wife and daughter to Deaf Nation today. I wanted to go so we could start to get involved in the deaf culture. We have very little exposure other than Central Institute for the deaf and the families we have met there.
I have been told by several people on this board and others that it is very important to expose my daughter (and my wife and I) to the deaf culture, afterall, my daughter is deaf.
So if it is so important for her to be exposed to this community, then why do so many people give us/her the cold shoulder when I try to do this?
I have never felt so unwanted in my life. Along those lines, I have never seen so many people look at a child with such disgust, just because she has a C.I.
Then they look at my wife and I like we chopped off her arms.
I spent several years patrolling in a very violent anti police area where the majority of its residents would rather shoot me than talk to me (litterally). Yet I have never felt so looked down upon, and looked at with pure disgust.
The only positive note, I spent a couple of hours there and I did run into a couple of people that I know. I also met a very nice married couple and had a very nice conversation with them. They are both deaf. She has a C.I. and he is undergoing the testing to get a bilatteral ci. They were very vocal in theri support of my daughter being implanted. They even told me to ignore anyone that says anything to the contrary.
As said above, I was told (and feel) that it is important to expose my daughter to the deaf culture. When I do, I get looked down upon, and shunned. A parents job is to raise a child in the manner they see best right?
So why then should I continue to expose her to a community that shuns her and rejects her based soley on a medical procedure she had that makes it possible for her to hear as a "hearie".Afterall, isnt that what I'm called?
I raise my daughter in a manner that promotes her having an open mind. I see first hand the effects of stereotyping, bias, and prejudice every day at work. Why would I support and encourage her to be active in a cultre that openly supports these things?
I have been told by several people on this board and others that it is very important to expose my daughter (and my wife and I) to the deaf culture, afterall, my daughter is deaf.
So if it is so important for her to be exposed to this community, then why do so many people give us/her the cold shoulder when I try to do this?
I have never felt so unwanted in my life. Along those lines, I have never seen so many people look at a child with such disgust, just because she has a C.I.
Then they look at my wife and I like we chopped off her arms.
I spent several years patrolling in a very violent anti police area where the majority of its residents would rather shoot me than talk to me (litterally). Yet I have never felt so looked down upon, and looked at with pure disgust.
The only positive note, I spent a couple of hours there and I did run into a couple of people that I know. I also met a very nice married couple and had a very nice conversation with them. They are both deaf. She has a C.I. and he is undergoing the testing to get a bilatteral ci. They were very vocal in theri support of my daughter being implanted. They even told me to ignore anyone that says anything to the contrary.
As said above, I was told (and feel) that it is important to expose my daughter to the deaf culture. When I do, I get looked down upon, and shunned. A parents job is to raise a child in the manner they see best right?
So why then should I continue to expose her to a community that shuns her and rejects her based soley on a medical procedure she had that makes it possible for her to hear as a "hearie".Afterall, isnt that what I'm called?
I raise my daughter in a manner that promotes her having an open mind. I see first hand the effects of stereotyping, bias, and prejudice every day at work. Why would I support and encourage her to be active in a cultre that openly supports these things?
