Dating and Dining on a FIRST Date, do you....

[Frisky Feline]

I have done that and it is a good idea. However, you'll find that most of your ASL community service classes are filled with non-single moms of deaf children and interpreters who are really just deaf groupies(nothing against that, but not for me).

I don't have a problem meeting people and I go on a lot of dates. I'm just pointing out some of the things I've encountered. It's been interesting what I have learned, but it is an uphill battle for deaf, single guys.

Re taking class in a different local where the local is new to you.

 

[VacationGuy234]

Re taking class in a different local where the local is new to you.

I'll think about that.

Thanks.

 

[Banjo]

Game is perhaps a strong word, but you can't deny you are in competition with other men, can you? Is it any different than going for a job? Would you limit yourself to just one company at a time in that case? (I know a guy who does this and has been out of work for 10 years)

I'm not advocating seeing multiple people, but until you get a serious relationship you don't know which will work out, just like a job interview.

I never saw anyone as competitors. If someone saw me as a competitor, that's his problem, not mine. Dating and being employed are two completely different concepts.

 

[Daredevel7]

I never saw anyone as competitors. If someone saw me as a competitor, that's his problem, not mine. Dating and being employed are two completely different concepts.

Maybe that's the issue. Seeing dating as "competition in a cutthroat world".

That would explain a lot of posts here.

 

[Beowulf]

I never saw anyone as competitors. If someone saw me as a competitor, that's his problem, not mine. Dating and being employed are two completely different concepts.

Maybe that's the issue. Seeing dating as "competition in a cutthroat world".

That would explain a lot of posts here.

Possessiveness is very obvious here. Tsk.

 

[VacationGuy234]

I never saw anyone as competitors. If someone saw me as a competitor, that's his problem, not mine. Dating and being employed are two completely different concepts.

Yes, but dating and job hunting are not. In both cases you have to keep your options open.

And, if you can get the dates it's not a problem, but if you can't it is.

 

[Beowulf]

Some years back I had a friend who bought the book "Dating for Dummies." He told me that the first thing the book said was that you need money to date, and he complained that since he was not rich, he wasted money buying the book, #&%#@. :roll:

 

[VacationGuy234]

Some years back I had a friend who bought the book "Dating for Dummies." He told me that the first thing the book said was that you need money to date, and he complained that since he was not rich, he wasted money buying the book. :roll:

Well, this depends on the women you pursue and the competition you have for those women. I wouldn't say it requires a lot of money, but it certainly does require some money.

It also depends on the age of the person trying to date. A teenager or college student isn't expected to have a home and good job as is required as an adult. At what age range you date makes a big difference in how you approach it.

 

[Daredevel7]

Almost, but you have the wording wrong. It's being real NOT mean OR submissive.

As an intelligent woman, I'm sure you can understand the difference.

For the past 4 pages, you've been trying to convince us that nice guys do not get women. So what's the opposite of nice? Mean. Also, it seems like you believe that nice and "real" are mutually exclusive.

Before I go on, can you tell me what is your idea of "real"?

Honestly, I think we just have different ideas of nice guys, that is all.

I sure as heck don't consider a guy crying over the bill as a "nice guy". I still don't understand why he is crying....

 

[Beowulf]

Well, this depends on the women you pursue and the competition you have for those women. I wouldn't say it requires a lot of money, but it certainly does require some money.

It also depends on the age of the person trying to date. A teenager or college student isn't expected to have a home and good job as is required as an adult. At what age range you date makes a big difference in how you approach it.

Competition? Dude, you need to get your head straight.

 

[VacationGuy234]

Maybe that's the issue. Seeing dating as "competition in a cutthroat world".

That would explain a lot of posts here.

OK, what would you call two guys trying to go out with you at the same time? How would you describe it?

 

[Banjo]

Yes, but dating and job hunting are not. In both cases you have to keep your options open.

And, if you can get the dates it's not a problem, but if you can't it is.

I still don't see other people as my competitors. Either you get the job or not. I never saw the need to compete with anyone. I do whatever I want to do with my life.

People who feel the need to compete with the others often have self-esteem issues. It's an inferiority complex. Big time.

 

[Beowulf]

OK, what would you call two guys trying to go out with you at the same time? How would you describe it?

Menage a trois?

 

[Jiro]

Oh, how about this, you take her to some place that serves food for which she has a food allergy and she's sick for a week. Did you figure all that out in a minute as well?

simple - I ask her and she will tell me.

Or, how about whether the place is even open at that time?

lol seriously?

And, in that time, you should be trying to figure out if she's a psycho as well, it's not all about her.

that's the whole point of dating.

 

[Banjo]

OK, what would you call two guys trying to go out with you at the same time? How would you describe it?

If you are dating two people at the same time, it shows that you are not taking the relationships seriously. Commitment isn't even in the picture.

 

[Frisky Feline]

simple - I ask her and she will tell me.


lol seriously?


that's the whole point of dating.

yeah. when my hub used to like me and the other hottie tall oral deaf long brunette hair and nice curve gal. I simply asked him if he is confused and like her then i can let him go.

so ASK is the best policy!

 

[Daredevel7]

OK, what would you call two guys trying to go out with you at the same time? How would you describe it?

It means that I'm apparently popular.

Seriously, people date to find their match. This is different from dating to find the best person they can get.

Edit: Although I personally would never date more than 1 person at a time, people date to get to know people better, some do it in an efficient way.

 

[Jiro]

Well, this depends on the women you pursue and the competition you have for those women. I wouldn't say it requires a lot of money, but it certainly does require some money.

It also depends on the age of the person trying to date. A teenager or college student isn't expected to have a home and good job as is required as an adult. At what age range you date makes a big difference in how you approach it.

wow.... you are really taking it way too seriously... what book are you learning it from? Tucker Max?????

 

[Frisky Feline]

If you are dating two people at the same time, it shows that you are not taking the relationships seriously. Commitment isn't even in the picture.

right but dating can happen at the two same time but being in relationship then It is definintely a big no no.

 

[howag]

yeah. when my hub used to like me and the other hottie tall oral deaf long brunette hair and nice curve gal. I simply asked him if he is confused and like her then i can let him go.

so ASK is the best policy!

Are you a tall hottie and a curvy gal all in one?