Children and Speech

I do have a question, pespiwoman- Do you speak at all or just a little or none?
 
pepsiwoman said:
I had a meeting this past monday about my son. I want to know if anyone had this problem. o.k. My kids are grown now, but my son still lives with me and he will for the rest of his life, because he is slow(I was sick when i had him) When the kids were small i did everything just as good as a hearing mother would.The school had a problem with my speech because the kids was around me all the time and they became speech delay because of me, so the school wanted them to be around people with normal speech.I remember how bad it felt, but i did what was best for them. Well on Monday at the meeting the people that helps my son said he needs someone to teach him to talk better and they said anyone but me.So anyone at AD had to do the same?
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First of all the school has no right to insult you like that. I would demand an apology for their actions. Second, if they feel his speach is poor then they need to provide a speech therapist for him. Sounds to me like you have done everything you can as a mother and that's all you can do in life. Don't let ignorant people get you down.
 
Cheri said:
I do have a question, pespiwoman- Do you speak at all or just a little or none?
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Yes, I do speak but i have a bad speech problem.It`s very hard for people to understand me.
 
Schermy said:
First of all the school has no right to insult you like that. I would demand an apology for their actions. Second, if they feel his speach is poor then they need to provide a speech therapist for him. Sounds to me like you have done everything you can as a mother and that's all you can do in life. Don't let ignorant people get you down.
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Thank you.
 
I would force the school do a formal apology. All in person, written and notice in the paper. They have no right to make that statement. I would also bring that up to the local news personal.

Now, with my wife and I. Our oldest is in Kindergarten(German word that means kids and grade), the school says he has a delay, and most kids that they catch in the early grades can catch up by 2nd grade. I also know for the fact he was premie, he's going to learn at a slower rate till later in school. The school didn't put my wife down and knows if they did, they would be in trouble. Got to love being in the military system.

Son will have a speech delay and problems till he gets into the hearing world and uses his speech more then his sign.
 
pepsiwoman said:
Yes, I do speak but i have a bad speech problem.It`s very hard for people to understand me.
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Awww :hug:!!

They need to put in more hours of speech for your child, an hour of speech two times a month is not enough, no wonder why there's no improvement, I would ask for another meeting just between you and the speech specialist.
 
PepsiWoman

My two hearing sons had their delay speech at 3 years old. State Department Social Service almost removed my children from my home in 1980's. DSS think, I was neglecting my children due to their delay speech. My mother worked for Social Worker other state, she showed up at the court to tell the Judge to make social workers take ASL class. Judge ordered S.W. going to ASL class and learn about Deaf culture and language. S.W. gulped and understands why many CODA have their delay speech due to Deaf parents who can't speak well.

I won the case !! I really thanked my mother to stand and speak up for her grandsons. My younger son (21 years old) is a Case Manager to work with mental retarded clients. Other older son 922 years old) wants to become an interpreter program in Dallas, TX. They interact with other hearing children to pick up the language, T.V. radio, media, neighbors, school, etc...

It is so sad out there, many many hearing people look us down as Deaf parents who deal with our hearing children. They think, we are second class citizen Deaf parents. We need to educational many hearing people in this society to read many CODA books; it will help them understand better.

Yes, they are discriminated against many Deaf parents nowadays due to no exposure Deaf language and culture for those professionals. It is our job fighting and protecting our hearing children. Do not let them take our children away from us! Do not let them oppressive on us because we are Deaf parents. We raise our children healthy, hygiene, education and provide them a good food, warm, medical and home.

Hang in there !! Keep fight and speak up for your children !!!
 
pepsiwoman said:
Yes, I do speak but i have a bad speech problem.It`s very hard for people to understand me.
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Do you have a legal interpreter? My communication use sign language to my children. ASL is more propriety language for in my home and children. Speech is last choice; they will pick up their speech language quickly when they started full time school. I do not regret it. Marie Philips told me, why do I use voice while I sign to my children. Do not let them confuse with two languages, I realized Maire was correct.

She advice me to turn off my voice while I sign to my sons at their younger ages.
 
My son is in a school like setting, he is 22 and i have a team of people that work with me to help him. He has a service coordinator, nurse, skill specialist(day sevices) a psycholigst. the speech therapist was the one who said that .she seem to have a real problem with my speech and i going to try to work things out with them.
 
Cheri said:
Awww :hug:!!

They need to put in more hours of speech for your child, an hour of speech two times a month is not enough, no wonder why there's no improvement, I would ask for another meeting just between you and the speech specialist.
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Thank you Cheri.
 
Kalista said:
PepsiWoman

My two hearing sons had their delay speech at 3 years old. State Department Social Service almost removed my children from my home in 1980's. DSS think, I was neglecting my children due to their delay speech. My mother worked for Social Worker other state, she showed up at the court to tell the Judge to make social workers take ASL class. Judge ordered S.W. going to ASL class and learn about Deaf culture and language. S.W. gulped and understands why many CODA have their delay speech due to Deaf parents who can't speak well.

I won the case !! I really thanked my mother to stand and speak up for her grandsons. My younger son (21 years old) is a Case Manager to work with mental retarded clients. Other older son 922 years old) wants to become an interpreter program in Dallas, TX. They interact with other hearing children to pick up the language, T.V. radio, media, neighbors, school, etc...

It is so sad out there, many many hearing people look us down as Deaf parents who deal with our hearing children. They think, we are second class citizen Deaf parents. We need to educational many hearing people in this society to read many CODA books; it will help them understand better.

Yes, they are discriminated against many Deaf parents nowadays due to no exposure Deaf language and culture for those professionals. It is our job fighting and protecting our hearing children. Do not let them take our children away from us! Do not let them oppressive on us because we are Deaf parents. We raise our children healthy, hygiene, education and provide them a good food, warm, medical and home.

Hang in there !! Keep fight and speak up for your children !!!
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I am so glad you won. it is getting rought out in the hearing world and all we can do is keep fighting. thank you for sharing your story.I am happy that it`s working out for your family.
 
Handsome_Smiley said:
I would force the school do a formal apology. All in person, written and notice in the paper. They have no right to make that statement. I would also bring that up to the local news personal.

Now, with my wife and I. Our oldest is in Kindergarten(German word that means kids and grade), the school says he has a delay, and most kids that they catch in the early grades can catch up by 2nd grade. I also know for the fact he was premie, he's going to learn at a slower rate till later in school. The school didn't put my wife down and knows if they did, they would be in trouble. Got to love being in the military system.

Son will have a speech delay and problems till he gets into the hearing world and uses his speech more then his sign.
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I`am glad they didn`t put your wife down, I hope things will work out for your son. I got to thinking... maybe it`s just where we live.
 
Kalista said:
Do you have a legal interpreter? My communication use sign language to my children. ASL is more propriety language for in my home and children. Speech is last choice; they will pick up their speech language quickly when they started full time school. I do not regret it. Marie Philips told me, why do I use voice while I sign to my children. Do not let them confuse with two languages, I realized Maire was correct.

She advice me to turn off my voice while I sign to my sons at their younger ages.
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:jaw: I honestly do not know who is Marie, but I can not believe she said that. she is so wrong. It has nothing to do with confusing two language together, it's all about communication between parent and child. If we expect hearing parents to provide ALL tools for their deaf children then deaf parents should do the same thing as well too.
 
Angel said:
:jaw: I honestly do not know who is Marie, but I can not believe she said that. she is so wrong. It has nothing to do with confusing two language together, it's all about communication between parent and child. If we expect hearing parents to provide ALL tools for their deaf children then deaf parents should do the same thing as well too.
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http://www.alldeaf.com/our-world-our-culture/47908-where-marie-philip-now.html

Maire Philips know well person in this national. If you read about her background, you will understand better.

My older son has been struggle in his sign language because he depend on my voice (my speech was inaccurated). I realized, I should have turn off my voice, his visual ASL will pick up faster when you not use the voice.

I regret for using my voice at my son's earlier ages. They struggle to observation Deaf people's various level sign languages. Maire was correct to advice me before she passed away.
 
Pepsiwoman hon, I'm really sorry to see how the school mistreat you as a parents for the speech delay in your son, my oldest did took speech classes because he couldn't produced the vowel sounds correctly and fall behind in reading and his spelling was a struggle, ever since he took speech classes every thursdays, his read had jumped to the normal level, and he was able to read books faster than he ever did before, and he was able to spell out the word correctly also. I'm just glad the school offer to help my son's with his speech and language delay without putting me down as a deaf mother. What I think you need to do is push them to work with your son on helping him with his speech.
 
Kalista said:
PepsiWoman

My two hearing sons had their delay speech at 3 years old. State Department Social Service almost removed my children from my home in 1980's. DSS think, I was neglecting my children due to their delay speech. My mother worked for Social Worker other state, she showed up at the court to tell the Judge to make social workers take ASL class. Judge ordered S.W. going to ASL class and learn about Deaf culture and language. S.W. gulped and understands why many CODA have their delay speech due to Deaf parents who can't speak well.

I won the case !! I really thanked my mother to stand and speak up for her grandsons. My younger son (21 years old) is a Case Manager to work with mental retarded clients. Other older son 922 years old) wants to become an interpreter program in Dallas, TX. They interact with other hearing children to pick up the language, T.V. radio, media, neighbors, school, etc...

It is so sad out there, many many hearing people look us down as Deaf parents who deal with our hearing children. They think, we are second class citizen Deaf parents. We need to educational many hearing people in this society to read many CODA books; it will help them understand better.

Yes, they are discriminated against many Deaf parents nowadays due to no exposure Deaf language and culture for those professionals. It is our job fighting and protecting our hearing children. Do not let them take our children away from us! Do not let them oppressive on us because we are Deaf parents. We raise our children healthy, hygiene, education and provide them a good food, warm, medical and home.

Hang in there !! Keep fight and speak up for your children !!!
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You know, I find it very wrong indeed that DSS would even think about removing a hearing child of deaf parents simply because they have a speech delay from being in an all signing environment from birth, but when a hearing parent of a deaf child insists on an oral only environment and their child suffers language delays, not just speech delays, DSS would never consider removing that child from the home. In fact, they take the attittude that the hearing parent is doing what they believe to be best for the child. Just because a hearing child of a deaf parent isn't speaking doesn't mean that they haven't acquired language as sign. It is the language delays that cause the problem for children, not the speech delays. Arrggghhh!
 
As a parent, any school insults me or undermine my parenting skills because of their ignorance. They would wish they never crossed me.

Child protection services nowadays should know of the ADA laws and Deaf peoples rights and should have never interfered with it.. 1980's was a very paranoid era. Alot of ignorance about HIV, AIDS and other disabilities. It was such a dirty thing. Now with the ADA laws being enforced it should be getting better.
 
Angel said:
Pepsiwoman hon, I'm really sorry to see how the school mistreat you as a parents for the speech delay in your son, my oldest did took speech classes because he couldn't produced the vowel sounds correctly and fall behind in reading and his spelling was a struggle, ever since he took speech classes every thursdays, his read had jumped to the normal level, and he was able to read books faster than he ever did before, and he was able to spell out the word correctly also. I'm just glad the school offer to help my son's with his speech and language delay without putting me down as a deaf mother. What I think you need to do is push them to work with your son on helping him with his speech.
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Thank you Angel, I been doing alot of thinking about this for the last few days.
 
Angel said:
:jaw: I honestly do not know who is Marie, but I can not believe she said that. she is so wrong. It has nothing to do with confusing two language together, it's all about communication between parent and child. If we expect hearing parents to provide ALL tools for their deaf children then deaf parents should do the same thing as well too.
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ASL and English are separate languages and should not be used at the same time. It just confuses the children. Kalista is right..if u want to sign, turn your voice off. If u want to talk, stop signing. I use both with my children but never both languages at the same time.

I know many deaf people who dont have any oral skills so they cant provide spoken English for their hearing children but their hearing children are doing fine in school with spoken English. It is not a bad thing.
 
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