jillio
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It can be a loss of expectations. Before a baby is born the parents think of who they will be, what they will do... You see them becoming a dancer, musician, scholar, athlete, whatever. You long to hear that first word.
Then, with a diagnosis of hearing loss, especially if you are not familiar with it, all of those images become 'what could have been'. You mourn the loss of the little ballerina you didn't have yet because you don't know that deaf kids can still dance even if they can't hear the music. You see your future change from tball and swim lessons to speech therapy and hearing aids because you haven't learned yet that they can do it all and more!
When my daughter was diagnosed, I was nearly inconsolable for a whole afternoon because I didn't think she'd ever be able to use an iPod. Silly, I know, but in the shock and uncertainty many parents are sent home with, it's not uncommon. It didn't help that she was only a month old and I hadn't slept properly in 2 months. Rather than continue to be angry, I hit the web and learned that there are accommodations for the deaf to use audio equipment.
Thank you for that honest sharing of feelings and experience, WeeBeastie. I commend you on the progress you have made, and can assure you that you are in a place that allows you to be the best help to your child that you possibly can be, and to make family life a safe and secure place.
Additionally, please ignore any ignorant comments that would suggest anything negative toward your parenting. Your work at getting in touch with and reconciling your honest feelings is nothing but a positive for you and your child.