Bullying

[somedeafdudefromPNW]

Wirelessly posted

If you think it's directed at you, you might want to think about why you interpret it that way.

Got underlying issues going on?

I'm sure I have underlying issues ... don't we all?

I didn't know if it was directed at me, which is why I asked.

Well, that statement is more from personal experience.

I can be quite a bitter person.

 

[Grummer]

theres another kind of bullying i dont like that we all have seen quite often, and we're seeing more of it in the internet, in the today's world. That is armchair bullying, taking forms as psycho-analysing, or mind-fucking, or debate-winning, or displaying of superiority of knowledge without remorse for other people's feelings Sometimes 'high' education is used to brand other people as inferior, they are often seen as know-it-alls.

 

[kokonut]

kokonut, yes some people may have changed.......but others....Some Mean Girls and sociopathic assholes really haven't changed at all.
Granted with those types of people you can pick up the vibe that they are very condesending/high and mighty/superfical.

Yes, in the present but if this is something that happened many moons ago then there is no telling if they have changed for the better today. If people accidentally ran across their old former bully would they take the opportunity to learn whether they have changed or not? Suppose a former victim looks up and suddenly saw his former bully from 30 years ago and saw that he is now a pastor. What then?

 

[sallylou]

Don't make excuses for bullies. Even if the events are in the past, a bully needs to take responsibility for his/her behavior (even if the target does not demand it). That's called mature behavior.

 

[Bottesini]

Yes, in the present but if this is something that happened many moons ago then there is no telling if they have changed for the better today. If people accidentally ran across their old former bully would they take the opportunity to learn whether they have changed or not? Suppose a former victim looks up and suddenly saw his former bully from 30 years ago and saw that he is now a pastor. What then?

I know that I would feel hostility and fear.

And I would try to avoid being noticed by the former bully.

 

[kokonut]

Don't make excuses for bullies. Even if the events are in the past, a bully needs to take responsibility for his/her behavior (even if the target does not demand it). That's called mature behavior.

Where am I making excuses for bullies? I already included a link about a former bully who apologized for her actions in the past and she felt remorseful about it. People can and do change for the better. Not all but they do change.

 

[dorothybaez]

I was bullied all through elementary school, and my life outside of home was a literal living hell.

I was very careful when my children were growing up to make sure that they were neither victims nor bullies.

If I saw one of my former tormentors today, I would not even acknowledge their existence. They may have changed, and that would be great. But I do not want to have coffee with them, "friend" them on facebook, etc.

 

[kokonut]

I was bullied all through elementary school, and my life outside of home was a literal living hell.

I was very careful when my children were growing up to make sure that they were neither victims nor bullies.

If I saw one of my former tormentors today, I would not even acknowledge their existence. They may have changed, and that would be great. But I do not want to have coffee with them, "friend" them on facebook, etc.

Suppose the person came up to and apologized and acknowledged he/she was wrong in doing that and wanted your forgiveness?

 

[VamPyroX]

Yes, we know it is a serious problem but my question is..why is it finally taken seriously now? Why not back then? I was bullied to the point where I got so sick in my stomach every morning about going to school in middle school.

What happened to make the authorities take it more seriously? More suicides, more media exposure, the Internet, or Columbine?

Your thoughts?

When I was young, the schools' solution to bullying was to suspend both the bully and the victim. So, that's why a lot of victims didn't report the bullying. Even I was bullied, but when I went to the principal to report it... he said that I would be suspended even though I didn't do anything.

My brother was suspended from school too because some kid decided to jump him and beat the crap out of him. He was sitting at lunch minding his own business and some kid pulled him out of the chair and pushed him to the floor, then jumping on him and punching him while he couldn't move. Yet, the school suspended both of them for 3 days. My dad argued with the school and the school finally agreed to drop the suspension.

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