Bullying

whatdidyousay! said:
Kids were not hanging themselves in their bedroom when I was a kids! And we did not have the internet were you could be bullied 24/7 and have horrible thing posted about you! Kids can't get away from being bullied today! And a person can only take so much bullying before they snap and kill themself or the person bullying them! ,
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When I was a freshman in high school, my former junior high got held hostage by an 8th grader female with a loaded gun. She had been bullied and rejected by the kids until she lost it. That was back in 1986.
 
She had been bullied and rejected by the kids until she lost it.
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And while I do not condone this, I can totally see where she was coming from.
And((((((( Botte))))) You, I and shel went through hell as kids.... I do think that after graduation from elementary school, school placement options (besides the utopia of Neighborhood school) NEED to be presented for kids with various and sundry disabilties.
Jr high and high school are horrible, and there is NO reason whatsoever why any kid should have to go though that hell.
I think too now that it's now happening to the "right" kids. The big news this year was that a white suburban girl killed herself (shel you're talking about the case in MA right?)
There seems to be an attitude that bullying doesn't matter if it's targeted towards the poor kids or the disabled kids or whatever.
 
whatdidyousay! said:
Kids were not hanging themselves in their bedroom when I was a kids! And we did not have the internet were you could be bullied 24/7 and have horrible thing posted about you! Kids can't get away from being bullied today! And a person can only take so much bullying before they snap and kill themself or the person bullying them! ,
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Did kids not hang themselves or did we just not hear about it? Just throwing it out there as something to consider. What used to be dealt with much more secretively gets dealt with more openly these days and so I have to wonder if that's what made it seem like suicide and divorce didn't used to happen as often as they do now.
 
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Exactly, CJB.

I means in 1920s, the stock market updates take a day to be reported in the newspaper.

In 2000s? Only takes half a second.

Things have changed a lot in 90 years.
 
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and also to Beowulf:wave:

I think it's a combination of extreme media access/availability as well as the ability to do obvious severe physical harm now w/current technology in a lot of places, that makes it seem like bullying got worse or changed extremely. And maybe current society in countries like U.S. has changed perception of what bullying means.
 
UK is more open with bullying now too. Media, TV, magazine, internet, is wasn't there as much as before. More training for teachers about bully than before and even UK Government talked about it lot lot more than before. Before there was no talk of bully as far I know.

I was bullied whole of my school life. When I went to Deaf high school, I still had to go mainstream for PE and Art, I was still bullied there. My only escape was my Deaf school. There even was group of boys from mainstream came up to our school playground (Deaf kids mainstream are allowed to play in our playground it it rarely happens since we don't have mainstream friends) to fight against us. They hated us. All the girls ran back into school except me cos they didn't want to get hurt. The boys stayed outside to fight against them. Teachers was in staff room and the playground staff wasn't around. I was torn between running inside with the girls and stay outside with boys to make sure they won't get hurt from mainstream boys. It went mad, mainstream boys even try punch me even though I am girl, had to punch him back hard to stop them hurting me, suddenly all Deaf boys jumped to mainstream boys to get them away from me and finally the teaching staff came out and all mainstream boys ran away the sight of the staff.
 
Glenn said:
What is your context?

I don't see why it's necessary to be involved with a person who formerly bullied me.
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Just because one used to be a bully in the past doesn't mean he or she is currently a bully today. People do change. That's the problem with people is that they think all bullies stay the same today. They may still be true in many cases but then again that bully could have changed for the better.

Another Day On the Planet - Bullying: A Confession
 
Banjo said:
Same here. We all have a life, we have to move on at some point.
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Sure. You can either confront it or run away. It's your choice should there be an opportunity if you happen to meet your past bully by happenstance.
 
souggy said:
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Imagine all the time we could put to good use if we didn't waste them on holding onto grudges.
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Sometimes it's not about holding grudges. It can be about facing your past and resolving it whether it's because you have fears, grudges, apprehension over certain issues, uncertainties you want to deal with, or even to seek friendship and forgive the person. You make it what you want.
 
kokonut said:
Just because one used to be a bully in the past doesn't mean he or she is currently a bully today. People do change. That's the problem with people is that they think all bullies stay the same today. They may still be true in many cases but then again that bully could have changed for the better.

Another Day On the Planet - Bullying: A Confession
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What do I care if he changed? He was a jerk once in the past. What he is today doesn't matter. I have enough friends and don't feel compelled to make good with someone who wasn't a good person at one point.
 
souggy said:
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Imagine all the time we could put to good use if we didn't waste them on holding onto grudges.
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Was that directed to me?

I have no idea where some people are now. All that stuff happened 25 years ago.
 
kokonut said:
Sometimes it's not about holding grudges. It can be about facing your past and resolving it whether it's because you have fears, grudges, apprehension over certain issues, uncertainties you want to deal with, or even to seek friendship and forgive the person. You make it what you want.
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Nah, not for me. None of those folks are anywhere near me. Not even in the same state.
 
One of the girls who used to bully me is now on my FB friends' list and we chat every now and then. She gives me a lot of positive comments and I do the same for her but underneath, I really want to ask her why did she make my life living hell throughout junior high. Then, I decided it wasnt worth it and just move on. I have forgiven all of the bullies but havent forgiven the adults who told me that I was overreacting or to ignore them.
 
Glenn said:
Was that directed to me?

I have no idea where some people are now. All that stuff happened 25 years ago.
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If you think it's directed at you, you might want to think about why you interpret it that way.

Got underlying issues going on?
 
kokonut, yes some people may have changed.......but others....Some Mean Girls and sociopathic assholes really haven't changed at all.
Granted with those types of people you can pick up the vibe that they are very condesending/high and mighty/superfical.
 
souggy said:
If you think it's directed at you, you might want to think about why you interpret it that way.

Got underlying issues going on?
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:lol: I'm sure I have underlying issues ... don't we all?

I didn't know if it was directed at me, which is why I asked.
 
Glenn said:
What do I care if he changed? He was a jerk once in the past. What he is today doesn't matter. I have enough friends and don't feel compelled to make good with someone who wasn't a good person at one point.
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I wasn't talking about you but in general. Each person does it differently on how they deal with their past bully(ies).
 
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