Betrayed By Friends?....

Been there done there but only from online and never again i just chat with some people from online . i does have best friend in real life for 34 years ... also good friends too either .. smile .. i does to understand what you all speaking here ... just let it go and move on ... yet know it does to be hurt to feel when find out like that ... :smile: :wave:
 
GalaxyAngel said:
Yea, I do certinally respect you which your wishes prefer not release how much you've felt that way.. reason you doesn't want ot post here..That okay!

Keep in Touch w/me.. *wink* :hug:~Take care! :ily:
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thanks :ily: :hug: :D
 
DeafMonkey, I am not aware of what's been happening with you that's bad, but I'm sorry it happened to you. :cry: I enjoyed reading your posts in the past. Whenever you feel ready to post again, please feel free to do so. Hugs!!!
 
I felt the same way...like a couple of persons use my name for nuthin but bad things happened...like one person told them that I will help him deport 'em to Mexico..he even told them I work for LE department...WTF??! I don't work in the law enforcement department... Even if I have a job in LE, I will still NOT gonna help some low-life ppl like him in deporting them to another country even tho, he also doesn't has an INS card. Duh to him. I won't do it for him, jeez, it's HIS problem, not mine. If he has a problem with them, then he should stop gossipin' or backstabbin' em around like a fool who happens to get hurt soon.

I don't trust anyone anymore if they use my name and they would talk about me behind my back everything negative. Like I said earlier ago, I would just bring a giant jar of lollipops if they DON'T act like mature adults.. lollipops given to them like they're immature babies who do not grow up and mature. I would take the teacher's of AFOC idea of having a jar of lollipops. Grrr! But of course, we can still be kids at heart like going to Disneyland and other fun amusement parks. It's the rumors and the lies those have to be thrown in the trash...<sigh>

Even my kids' dad believes too much from other ppls' false rumors and lies and I lost several of my friends because of the inept and false rumors that my friends would do something they didn't do and he believes his friends...ARGH! :mad: So I start to not to trust him little by little..it went down and going into the watering drain slowly.

So, what I did? Once he said that I can no longer let my friends visit me, I decided to tell him that he CANNOT invite his friends over here EITHER! He got pissed off and said I "support" my friends but I stand firm as I can as NOT to let his friends come over until he apologizes to my friends first.
 
Have been there.

I totally agree with DD all the way.

That's why I do not have a best friend for a while.
 
yeah .. when i was 13 or so .. that what caused me to me anti social and hate people for a while. The circle of friends that betrayed me gossiped ,and told lies about me. Now i have really good friends that are truly amazing:P except for their ex boyfriends hah.
 
ella said:
yeah .. when i was 13 or so .. that what caused me to me anti social and hate people for a while. The circle of friends that betrayed me gossiped ,and told lies about me. Now i have really good friends that are truly amazing:P except for their ex boyfriends hah.
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That's sounds like two-faced friends to me.....


Friends that are two-faced are the ones with the problem....They obviously feel so insecure themselves that slagging off someone who they feel is weaker than them makes them feel like they have some sort of power or control etc.... maybe they're just jealous of you, otherwise, if they had a problem with you then they could have said it in your face or asked you if it was true what the others had said about you...You don't need friends who are going to be two-faced, go and get some new friends who does care about you and wouldn't backstabbed you in any way.....

There's are " true " friends out there that you can trust, but you haven't look for them yet..


Hang in there girl, I know what you're going thru, most of us have our shared of these problems too ourselves, we just have to be careful on who we really trust otherwise it will be hard to make new friends.....:hug:
 
Also I forgot to add that friends who are two-faced feels the need to belong to a certain group of friends, so they'll change their likes and dislikes and virtually everything about themselves just to fit in.....If anyone noticed... :-/
 
DeafMonkey said:
I am not sure what is anti social ? anyone can explian thanks :)
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Antisocial Personality Disorder: A personality disorder involving deceitfulness, imulsivity, callous disregard for the safety or welfare of tothers, and a total lock of remorse for actions that harm others.

* Deceitfulness - a willingness to lie anytime, to anyone, or anything.

* Lack of remorse; if such persons hurt others or do harm, it doesn't phase them.

*Failure to conform to social norms - rules and regulations are not for these individuals, and they needlessly disobey.

I think I know who is an antisocial person from the Western PA...
 
I think antisocial in that context just means she didn't want to socialize with other groups.

I, too, had my share of betrayal by friends. It took me a long time to recover from it. I don't want to let that ruin my chances of gaining some real nice friends who aren't like that at all, altho I do admit I am not the most trusting sort and I tend to have a mask in place. I don't get affectionate easily, and am surprised that some people can manage to do that effortlessly.
 
:( I have recently been backstabbed by a friend whom I had been friends with for years. This person slandered (lied) my name to another person, which cause this person to be caught in the middle, and bring this gossip to a person who I have become good friends with, saying that I have been saying terrible things about my good friend. Luckily, the person I am good friends with, came to me, and told me this ridiculous story, and luckily we were able to straighten it out. Now, this person that has started the whole thing, I know is not a person who can be trusted, because this person has hurt others recently, and in the past. I would have hated to lose this good friend, because of some silly, immature and jealous person who cannot get past themselves. So, I have decided to block this person, because I don't want anymore problems with this person, especially to have people think that I would hurt others through rumors and gossip, which I would never do, because I wouldn't want it done to me, so why would I do it to anyone else. We respect the ones that respect us, we stay true to the one who are true to us, and above all, honesty is the number one ingredient in a good friendship.

I hope that all of you who have posted in this wonderful thread ^Angel^ has created, will overcome your hurt, and be able to move on and trust again!!!

:grouphug: to all of you!!!
 
CODAchild said:
We respect the ones that respect us, we stay true to the one who are true to us, and above all, honesty is the number one ingredient in a good friendship.

I hope that all of you who have posted in this wonderful thread ^Angel^ has created, will overcome your hurt, and be able to move on and trust again!!!

:grouphug: to all of you!!!
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well spoken, CODAchild.... very well spoken. couldnt have said it better myself. thank you.

i also wanna add that "true" friends don't expect u to bend your rules for them... and that they respect u... as you do them. friends tell each other the truth... tempered with kindness and integrity... at least that's my idea of a two way friendship! it is never one sided.. never.
 
Best thing to do is forgive and forget, and you will have ton of friends.

Do what Jesus would do, turn the other cheek.

Stop holding grudge and let out your anger and forgive that person and be that person friend again.
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
Stop holding grudge and let out your anger and forgive that person and be that person friend again.
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Of course it's easy to forgive a friend who two-faced and lie to others about you, yet it won't be the same anymore, once a person lie, spread rumors, etc isn't a friend you rather to be with.....

Once someone lies and keep on lying means the trust is no longer there, so why would they want to become friends with them again? if you can not trust that them anymore....


If you want to be friends with someone who does nothing but hurt you, then go ahead but don't expect them to never do it again, when it happened more than just once....
 
CODAchild said:
:( I have recently been backstabbed by a friend whom I had been friends with for years. This person slandered (lied) my name to another person, which cause this person to be caught in the middle, and bring this gossip to a person who I have become good friends with, saying that I have been saying terrible things about my good friend. Luckily, the person I am good friends with, came to me, and told me this ridiculous story, and luckily we were able to straighten it out. Now, this person that has started the whole thing, I know is not a person who can be trusted, because this person has hurt others recently, and in the past. I would have hated to lose this good friend, because of some silly, immature and jealous person who cannot get past themselves. So, I have decided to block this person, because I don't want anymore problems with this person, especially to have people think that I would hurt others through rumors and gossip, which I would never do, because I wouldn't want it done to me, so why would I do it to anyone else. We respect the ones that respect us, we stay true to the one who are true to us, and above all, honesty is the number one ingredient in a good friendship.

I hope that all of you who have posted in this wonderful thread ^Angel^ has created, will overcome your hurt, and be able to move on and trust again!!!

:grouphug: to all of you!!!
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Well said CODAChild :hug: :ily:
 
Liza said:
i also wanna add that "true" friends don't expect u to bend your rules for them...
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Can you please explain a little bit more of what you meant above...so that way some of us can understand what you mean by that....

Thanks!
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
Best thing to do is forgive and forget, and you will have ton of friends. Do what Jesus would do, turn the other cheek. Stop holding grudge and let out your anger and forgive that person and be that person friend again.
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Miss P -

I do indeed forgive people for their actions against me - however, being friends again...thats a different matter entirely.

Because once you find out what they did, you know they will do it again and again. Even when they say they won't do it again, you know in your heart they will still continue doing it again.

Friends? I think not. Acquaintances? Maybe, maybe not. People you know? More than likely you will say that from then on.

ON the other hand, it's easy to say you will forgive and forget.

It's hard to forgive when you've been really hurt, insulted big time or backstabbed by someone you thought was a friend of yours.

You do eventually forgive that person, but being able to forget...no way you can do that. Some people sees it as holding a grudge, holding on to the past, being obessive...it doesn't work that way.

You know you were hurt by that particular person, and you know that you won't be able to forget it.

They want to say you're holding on to the past, holding grudges, being obessive...let them say it. Your true-blue friends will see your true self, and know that it's not true. In many cases, it is those people that hurt you that have the problem themselves. It builds up and up in their minds, they add more and more to their story, and eventually they start believing what they've created as the absolute truth, and there is nothing you can say or do that will dispel that from their minds.

You just learn to shrug it off and move on - you have a better group of friends whose mind-sets are similiar to yours and you know they are dependable and able to see the black and red for what it's worth.

Forgive? Eventually...yes.

Forget? Not in a chance.

Best thing for you, Miss P, is to thank the good Lord for the good friends you do have and to help you forgive those who would trespass against you.
 
Miss*Pinocchio said:
Best thing to do is forgive and forget, and you will have ton of friends.
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Im sorry, Miss P...I forgot to add this...

I'd rather have the few GOOD friends I have now, those that I trust and confide in, that I do love and cherish, both in real life and online, than tons of friends that may or may not be really my friends in the first place.

I hope you do understand what I'm trying to tell you.
 
Well said there DreamieDeaf, you said it better than I could :lol:.... :kiss:
 
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