However, then there are those "so-called" friends that think that others are obessed and when called out, they do not understand why those others turn on them with anger - it's because they're so self-absorbed in their own "righteous fevour" that they think others are being obessed with them, the past, other people, whatever...that they cannot see the forest for the trees.
IMSHO, it is a big friggin shame when you think you're friends with someone, and that person turns on you, thinking that you been telling other people about you, when it is actually the people they're fighting with or snubbing, or whatever they're doing, that are doing the talking.
I know - I've heard plenty of s*** about other people and even about the people doing the s***ting themselves on those they're talking about.
And yes, I've been called plenty of names - obessed, obessive, stuck in the past, homewrecker, etc., etc., and guess what? I've become like a duck, I just let those dribble down my back, wiggle my tailfeathers to shake those insults off, and walk off quacking.
Why? 'Cuz, I got good friends that know the truth. They're the ones that asks for both sides to the story, weigh in both sides, keep their mouths shut, and are able to keep their friendships on both sides intact. I got secrets that other people have told me that would make your hair turn white, or your bald heads pale beyond comparison.
Being a good friend is accepting the fact that no friendship is perfect, and may not last forever, so you treasure each and every friend you have - you talk openly and honestly to your friends, you share secrets, confident in the knowledge that they will keep those secrets close to their hearts, never telling anyone else your secrets.
You also cherish every true friend you have, you treat them as your equals, you may vent out in anger and they accept it because they know you're not angry at them, you just need to release some pressure off yourself, and you accept theirs in return.
Most of all, you know your true friends, because they do not gossip about you, and you do not gossip about them, you will warn them if you hear something and they, in turn, will warn you likewise.
When you tell someone that you ain't their friend, it becomes evident...you were never their true friend in the first place, you used them to your advantage, and when it was all done and over, you threw them away like an used klennex.
You want a true blue friend - be a true blue friend yourself to them, also.
Tit for tat.
And by the way, in my f***ing opinion, if you backstab someone just because you think they refuse to see the truth in themselves, you are someone that no one will want for a friend.
You do not do that to someone, because in the first place, they will return the favor on your reputation, and make you look worse than they do - and you're back in the penalty box.
Backstabbing someone will cause you to lose some true blue friends - and others to stay even further away from you.
I asked her to sit down and work out but she keep avoid to face problems. That's mean she knows she was wrong and feel guilty.
