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I enjoy a healthy balance of the two.
 
Cheri said:
There is always a way to learn from them, like for example, if a deaf person is mute and knows only ASL, You could communicate with a mute deaf person with ASL. If a person is hearing, You could be able to communicate by reading lips/spoken language or paper and pen if cannot be able to speak. With Deaf and blind, You could be able to use finger spelling on their palm hand to communicate also. It takes a lot of patience, if you have it. ;)
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Thats the whole answer.. I agreed with ya. I love to meet people from all kind of cultures with a very openmind and good attitude especially different kind of deaf cultures in this society that I can learn their traditions and deaf languages.

It s kinda struggle on both sides for me because it s too much audism 's negative view of our deafness or oral rules that turns me off. It seems that it s never ending.

Many thanks!
Sweetmind
 
jazzy said:
U said your best friend who has CI now is hearing? That is bull. He is still deaf.

I live in both worlds, I am very deaf and do not need CI to be alike them deaf people with CI. I have many friends who have CI, they are still same people as they were before CI. I married to hearing man for many years and have hearing children so I live in both world. I am more hearing than my deaf friends with CI.

I talk alike deaf to many customers everyday, some of them unds me, some of them don't unds me. At least I make connect with them and let them get know me. They need to be aware of deaf people instead of us hiding away from hearing world. They love me and talk postive about me. That is what we should do go out and meet them. Give them chance to get know us more.

It is sad when I read this about u attack your old friend who does not talk and using full ASL. So what I love them , they are fun to be with and many hearing people want to be with them also.
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Well first of all, thats my friend who consider himself hearing... But I can see what his point is.. Second of all... He wasn't born deaf unlike us... He went deaf when he was 5 years old... So his parents implanted him as soon as they found out.. So I consider him hearing because he can do the things we can't do... For expamle: Talking on the phone and cell phones,(no TTY) going to public schools without any help... He can beat it before we would even get where he is. He's going to be a nurse, I know that some of deafies can't since its complicated for them.. I can go on and on about this... I asked the people I know and see what they think about cochlear implants. They personally told me that if the Cochlear implants help him/her, then they consider them hearing.. So I have to agree with them....

My ex friend who was my neighbor, she got a cochlear implant and I asked her what she thinks of it, She has her up and downs with it, its because she doesn't feel like going to her speech therphy and thinks its a waste of time... But thats her lost!!!
 
i am in both worlds.. i grew up in both worlds.. so not matter to me as long as i can communicate with them and can undy them no plm.. fine with me.. i never hang around a person with ci before till recently now my sons father have ci.. and he is the same guy i have talked to and known long time.. so no big difference.. just that he got ci? :)

i like hearing world cuz i can dance and hear music and sing along with friends.. .then in deaf world.. talk to them and hang out iwth them etc.. so cant live without both worlds.. :)
 
SmileyGin said:
i am in both worlds.. i grew up in both worlds.. so not matter to me as long as i can communicate with them and can undy them no plm.. fine with me.. i never hang around a person with ci before till recently now my sons father have ci.. and he is the same guy i have talked to and known long time.. so no big difference.. just that he got ci? :)

i like hearing world cuz i can dance and hear music and sing along with friends.. .then in deaf world.. talk to them and hang out iwth them etc.. so cant live without both worlds.. :)
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I understand what your point is.... I def.. love to dance and hear music... There is a lot to do in the hearing world since Ive been raised in a hearing world.. I went to deaf school when I was little, I liked it because I played with my friends, draw and etc....
But after that I went to public school which I liked a lot... It was no problem for me....(of couse there were idiots there at times)
Since then I've always hang out with hearing people because there isn't very many deafies around here... I hang out with few of them but not all the time tho.. (this is me and it's my own words) they are always saying they want to stay home all the time, unless they need stuff for the house... Well okay, but that can be boring to me because I like action!! :)
One of my best friend who is in college, don't see him alot recently anyways because he is about 5 hours away from me, so we talk on the net whenever... Right now he got a girlfriend who is hearing and he loves her, but I don't know whats going on about that so I'll see whats new :) I hope they will be together for a long time...
So I perfer action and getting out to do stuff.... I might meet a deaf person who is the same with me one of these days but who knows..
 
All my friends are hearies. I wish i had more HOH/deaf friends.
 
RoyalMajesty said:
Well first of all, thats my friend who consider himself hearing... But I can see what his point is.. Second of all... He wasn't born deaf unlike us... He went deaf when he was 5 years old... So his parents implanted him as soon as they found out.. So I consider him hearing because he can do the things we can't do... For expamle: Talking on the phone and cell phones,(no TTY) going to public schools without any help... He can beat it before we would even get where he is. He's going to be a nurse, I know that some of deafies can't since its complicated for them.. I can go on and on about this... I asked the people I know and see what they think about cochlear implants. They personally told me that if the Cochlear implants help him/her, then they consider them hearing.. So I have to agree with them....

My ex friend who was my neighbor, she got a cochlear implant and I asked her what she thinks of it, She has her up and downs with it, its because she doesn't feel like going to her speech therphy and thinks its a waste of time... But thats her lost!!!
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I was not born deaf and I am not really deaf culturalist, never was interest in it. but I do know alot of CIers and they were not born deaf either and do very well with CI and they do not call themselves as hearings. I see them like me. I do not envy if they talk on the phone or hear beautiful thru ci but it is not same thing as hearing as far as I know of. I once was hearing so that is why I refuse to wear hearing aid when I was younger and knew CI won't do much for me as I wanted all of my hearing back. Either that or stay deaf which is fine with me but not half and half no thanks.

My friends called me hearing on forehead which it is true because of who I am even I went to deaf school most of my life then I went to mainstream and got married to hearing man.

Your friend may call himself hearing but for me he is same as me, still deaf whehter he talks well and hear well on phone. No big deal to me cuz I have alot HoH do same thing but not 100 percent alike hearing.
 
Breezy, do you live in an area with a small population of deaf people? And, if I can ask, how old are you?
 
jazzy said:
I was not born deaf and I am not really deaf culturalist, never was interest in it. but I do know alot of CIers and they were not born deaf either and do very well with CI and they do not call themselves as hearings. I see them like me. I do not envy if they talk on the phone or hear beautiful thru ci but it is not same thing as hearing as far as I know of. I once was hearing so that is why I refuse to wear hearing aid when I was younger and knew CI won't do much for me as I wanted all of my hearing back. Either that or stay deaf which is fine with me but not half and half no thanks.

My friends called me hearing on forehead which it is true because of who I am even I went to deaf school most of my life then I went to mainstream and got married to hearing man.

Your friend may call himself hearing but for me he is same as me, still deaf whehter he talks well and hear well on phone. No big deal to me cuz I have alot HoH do same thing but not 100 percent alike hearing.
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Well that you.. Not me or my friend.... I still have to agree with my best friend and family..
 
jazzy said:
I was not born deaf and I am not really deaf culturalist, never was interest in it. but I do know alot of CIers and they were not born deaf either and do very well with CI and they do not call themselves as hearings. I see them like me. I do not envy if they talk on the phone or hear beautiful thru ci but it is not same thing as hearing as far as I know of. I once was hearing so that is why I refuse to wear hearing aid when I was younger and knew CI won't do much for me as I wanted all of my hearing back. Either that or stay deaf which is fine with me but not half and half no thanks.

My friends called me hearing on forehead which it is true because of who I am even I went to deaf school most of my life then I went to mainstream and got married to hearing man.

Your friend may call himself hearing but for me he is same as me, still deaf whehter he talks well and hear well on phone. No big deal to me cuz I have alot HoH do same thing but not 100 percent alike hearing.
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Well if thats what you think then its all good... No agrue here.... Everyone has different minds.... :)
 
Tousi said:
Breezy, do you live in an area with a small population of deaf people? And, if I can ask, how old are you?
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I'm 20 and yeah i think the Deaf/HOH community is relatively small. However, come fall, i'm re-enrolling myself in the second part of an ASL class, so hopefully i'll meet more HOH/Deaf ppl and meet ppl who are interested in this area who will want to be friends.
 
Breezy, why would you think you'd meet more deaf or hoh folks by enrolling in an SAL class? Or did you mean that by enrolling, you'd find out ways to find out where the deaf folks are? At any rate, best to you!
 
I prefer both worlds. I don't like to focus on only one thing. I do find it easier to deal with the deaf world better than the hearing world in some ways, but I also find it easier to deal with the hearing world better than the deaf world in other ways.

In the hearing world, I feel safer with having my secrets kept secret. I can do something and no one cares. However, in the deaf world... if a deaf person sees you, everyone will find out about it the next day.

In the deaf world, I can communicate with others better.
 
Honestly I don't look at it that way, to me it doesn't really matter if my friends are hearing or deaf , I enjoy being around people of ALL kinds as long as they can truly communicate well with me and making me feel part of every conversations... :)
 
Anyway, jazzy I agree with you about how one who has a CI is not consider to be equal as a hearing person, It's a device that helps him hear better than he used to hear, and if he wants to call himself a hearing person, Let him, We all know that once a CI is turned off, the person becomes back to being deaf. End of discussion. ;)
 
I have friends from both world... it doesn't bother me as long we can communicate that is all the matters i does to consider myself lucky because i does have lots of good friends either deafie or hearie.. smile ... i am getting on very good to be well with all my workmates we all always having lots of laugh or go hang around with them from time to time .... in sept coming we all will going to the show called 'Puppetry of the PENIS. ' :lol: it should be having a laugh .. :naughty: i does to be look forward to go ..... the reasons i have friends who come from the both world and it is the way i brought up ...

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While I prefer the company of DHH friends, I do have quite a bit of hearing friends. The catch? Those hearing friends are fluent or skilled in ASL. I also have a couple of hearing friends, who do not know any ASL, through a mutual hobby, but that's all on the Internet via email or bulletin boards.

I'll sheepishly confess that I have zero hearing friends locally, those that do not have any ASL skills. A lot of it is my own fault, as I still feel uncomfortable around hearing people. Yet, I know it is important to broaden my interpersonal network, and will try to work at it in the near future.

Cest la vie, I suppose. ;)
 
Like Eyeth, I will have to confess I don't have any hearing friends locally even I meet a lot of hearing people daily (classmates, artists, et cetera).
Most of the times, those hearing people are interesting in learning a bit of ASL just to talk with me, but usually that kind of friendship never lasts. Who got time to learn ASL (unless you major in Deaf Studies/Interpretering/DeafCulture/DeafEducation/DeafWHATEVER)? I usually give them my AIM sn and we will chat but it eventually dies out.

I don't really meet any local hearies signers that I want to be friends with. Most of the times, they just want to talk with me just to practice their signing skills. I want to have a FRIENDSHIP, not being a tutor. So you can say that I am not putting in efforts to meet hearing people at all. And I don't see why not. I will have plenty of hearing peers in my career and everywhere so I will rather to put more efforts to meet Deaf people nation-wide to be friends with.
 
I think having both hearing and deaf....its the person you have to judge...you find all kinds in this world,,,bad and good...hearing ,deaf,,etc...so you cannt judge one group against the other...you have to weed out the bad ones....
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