Annoying ignorant hearing people stories

Lily7 said:
Oh man, I am so glad I found this thread. I feel a lot better about some of the experiences I've had.

I TOTALLY agree with the "Nevermind" stuff. OMG. Few things piss me off as much as someone saying something to me and then when I asked them to repeat it, they say "Nevermind" or shake their heads. RAGE RAGE RAGE.

I also saw someone else mention that when in a group of people, they get ignored if they say something as if they aren't even there. I get that a lot too! I don't understand why. Sometimes I wonder if they DO hear me talking but intentionally pretend not to just so they can get out of the extra effort it would take to communicate with me.

Glad you could relate. This happens to me every day just about. Which is why I keep to myself at work or at family gatherings, unless I am 100% sure I'll be acknowledged.

Welcome to AD by the way! :)
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Lily7 said:
Oh man, I am so glad I found this thread. I feel a lot better about some of the experiences I've had.

I TOTALLY agree with the "Nevermind" stuff. OMG. Few things piss me off as much as someone saying something to me and then when I asked them to repeat it, they say "Nevermind" or shake their heads. RAGE RAGE RAGE.

I am the same. :mad:

I also saw someone else mention that when in a group of people, they get ignored if they say something as if they aren't even there. I get that a lot too! I don't understand why. Sometimes I wonder if they DO hear me talking but intentionally pretend not to just so they can get out of the extra effort it would take to communicate with me.

I get that too. :pissed:

Some of my stories:

Back when I was a Christian (not anymore, long story, not going into it here) and got baptized, a fellow church member offered to interpret for me. This person really did not know sign language like they thought they did - I mean I am not fluent but I know enough to know they were really bad at it... anyway I appreciated the gesture so I said "sure" not wanting to embarrass them otherwise. I was the only deaf person in the whole church and no deaf person had ever attended before me, so I was understanding that they did not quite understand about all that, ya know?

So it's time for me to get dunked, and I go up to the baptismal pool behind the stage. The person who offered to sign is nowhere to be seen. I am hoping that she had forgotten and start to get relieved if so. I make my way into the water, and when I look out to the audience... she is on stage in front of the baptismal pool, with her back turned to me, "interpreting" the pastor's words to the audience.

Another story:

I had a hearing dog for a number of years. She has since passed away and I passed on a successor for the time being. Anyway, of course I get all the typical troubles involved with being partnered with a service dog, but one incident in particular stands out in my mind. I was at walmart, and had just walked in the door with my dog. The greeter waves me over frantically, which I half expected. I walk over to the greeter, ready to do my usual speech of "yes she is a service dog"... only the greeter asked me "are you blind?"... after I walked over because she WAVED me over. Really?!
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Ugh, well-meaning idiots! :roll: Funny stories, sorry that they are true.
 
Lily7 said:
..."yes she is a service dog"... only the greeter asked me "are you blind?"... after I walked over because she WAVED me over. Really?!
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Best way to deal with this is put on your sweetest, most patronizing face while looking RIGHT at her and say "Yes, yes I am." Then keep going.
 
When I went to Walmart today, I was practicing working with voice off and signing to my mother. I had someone come up and ask if I was blind. My response was are you lame? They were confused, obviously. So I explained, I was using ASL as I and d/Deaf, not braille or tactile sign for blindness.
 
KristinaB said:
When I went to Walmart today, I was practicing working with voice off and signing to my mother. I had someone come up and ask if I was blind. My response was are you lame? They were confused, obviously. So I explained, I was using ASL as I and d/Deaf, not braille or tactile sign for blindness.
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OMG! That just takes the cake.

I need to practice going voice off more. I find it's actually EASIER to communicate when I am voice off. I would have whipped out my phone and typed out:

ARE YOU BLIND?

Kind of points out how ridiculous their question is. LOL.
 
Even blind people get annoyed by ignorant people. Some blind hearing people have shared that people have asked them if they know sign language. Geez...
 
KristinaB said:
When I went to Walmart today, I was practicing working with voice off and signing to my mother. I had someone come up and ask if I was blind. My response was are you lame? They were confused, obviously. So I explained, I was using ASL as I and d/Deaf, not braille or tactile sign for blindness.
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What the heck??!!! :shock::roll:
 
:roll: I have a love/hate relationship with interpters... For example it really irritated me when I used to go to class(mainstream) .. during a teachers lecture if the Terps didn't sign clear on a word or structure of the lecture.. I'd quickly say what did u sign? :wave:
And instead of clarifying the terp would tell me to ask the teacher.. uuggghh so I'd raise my hand and tell the teacher "the terp didn't understand u, can u repeat pls" so that the teacher didn't think it was me who couldn't understand the teacher.. after many times my teacher got me a note taker lol :dizzy::deal:
 
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I had one recently..........a man asked me why I need those words (closed captioning) on the tv if I can't hear the tv...............Since he was a very much older man (@75-80) I chewed my tongue.

But my inclination was to say very sarcastically "I'm sorry I read those words so I understand what is being to said on the tv.............now what, jerk."
 
KristinaB said:
Had someone ask me the other day if I qualified for "ear transplants". What are those? Never heard of them. She did not know, but thought it was available.
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WOW that is absolutely most dumbest thing I ever heard, I am sure that person failed in human science. :rofl:
 
KristinaB said:
When I went to Walmart today, I was practicing working with voice off and signing to my mother. I had someone come up and ask if I was blind. My response was are you lame? They were confused, obviously. So I explained, I was using ASL as I and d/Deaf, not braille or tactile sign for blindness.
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i was cooking in my friend's kitchen yesterday, and her jack russell came in. he began to bother me, jumping at me and barking. i told him "GO TO YOUR BED NOW!" he obeyed and sat in his bed.

then my friend's boyfriend said "how the hell does he understand what she's saying when i don't?"

:roll:
 
Mintee said:
i was cooking in my friend's kitchen yesterday, and her jack russell came in. he began to bother me, jumping at me and barking. i told him "GO TO YOUR BED NOW!" he obeyed and sat in his bed.

then my friend's boyfriend said "how the hell does he understand what she's saying when i don't?"

:roll:
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Cute that the dog got it so quick, :giggle: but your friend's boyfriend didn't :roll:. This is what I would have told your friend's boyfriend had I been there.

(This is supposed to be very light-hearted versus lecturing or scolding)

"Most spoken English makes no sense to a dog until over time they are able to associate a set of "body language, gestures, and tones" that they do understand with a specific command that is used consistently over time. They are able to generalize so that anyone (people who pronunciate it differently for various reasons) who says that command would be getting the same message across. So the dog had the full message of body language, gestures, and tones and enough of the command to understand. Also, usually our commands to dogs (things they are supposed to understand versus us just talking to them like a baby or something) are simply, basic ones and our conversations with people (things they are supposed to understand versus us just talking aloud or to ourselves) can be very complex."
 
DeafRaptor said:
Cute that the dog got it so quick, :giggle: but your friend's boyfriend didn't :roll:. This is what I would have told your friend's boyfriend had I been there.

(This is supposed to be very light-hearted versus lecturing or scolding)

"Most spoken English makes no sense to a dog until over time they are able to associate a set of "body language, gestures, and tones" that they do understand with a specific command that is used consistently over time. They are able to generalize so that anyone (people who pronunciate it differently for various reasons) who says that command would be getting the same message across. So the dog had the full message of body language, gestures, and tones and enough of the command to understand. Also, usually our commands to dogs (things they are supposed to understand versus us just talking to them like a baby or something) are simply, basic ones and our conversations with people (things they are supposed to understand versus us just talking aloud or to ourselves) can be very complex."
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How would that work if he couldn't already understand a simple sentence?

I have that problem too with people who are not used to my speech.
 
Bottesini said:
How would that work if he couldn't already understand a simple sentence?

I have that problem too with people who are not used to my speech.
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:lol: I know that in her story she established that her friend's boyfriend has a hard time understanding her. When I said that I would have told him (enter paragraph here), I didn't mean if I was her, in her place, and had the same trouble with being understood by the friend's boyfriend. I was imagining literally myself there with her and, since most people don't have a lot of trouble understanding my "perfect" :roll: speech (oh the trouble that creates at times), I would have chimed in :D. If he has trouble understanding a simple sentence from anyone, then that is not necessarily her problem, but his. Hope that answers your question.
 
Hey everyone...got into a little spat with my hearing husband...so I need your opinion.

He says that the VP is not a phone.

I say it is a phone but a different way of using it.

He says that the telephone is a phone and VP is not.

I say that deaf people use it to call so yes, it is a phone.

Who is right?

Dont worry about letting me down if you disagree with me. Just be honest.
 
shel90 said:
Hey everyone...got into a little spat with my hearing husband...so I need your opinion.

He says that the VP is not a phone.

I say it is a phone but a different way of using it.

He says that the telephone is a phone and VP is not.

I say that deaf people use it to call so yes, it is a phone.

Who is right?

Dont worry about letting me down if you disagree with me. Just be honest.
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It's not a TELEPHONE in the STRICTEST sense of the word, if we're getting extremely technical about it. Dictionary.com defines it as: an apparatus, system, or process for transmission of sound or speech to a distant point, especially by an electric device.

A VP does not transmit speech or sound. At least mine didn't. lol.

I think that we just call it a VideoPHONE because that's what makes the most sense to us in our society, if we were to get technical we'd really call it a "Video Transmission Device" or something. But it's just easier to say VideoPhone, and it it serves the same purpose for communication as an actual telephone, just in a different way, so it's not a huge stretch, even if it's not strictly correct.

For example, TDD/TTY were not called telephones or type phones... they were called Teletype Devices. But we still called them "phones" just for the sake of it being easier and used it in the terminology of "I'll call you tonight".
 
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