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whatdidyousay! said:
WTF! Your parents want you to pay them $400 per month when you're not working and have children to care for ? I think that sucks ! You can get emergency public assistance and maybe housing too b/c you're a single mother .
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You are correct.

DeafNerdMommy, I'm very sorry that you got fired. If you cannot find a job so you could try to contact local VR.
http://www.oregon.gov/DHS/Offices/Pages/Vocational-Rehabilitation.aspx

Like WDYS said, you can get emergency public assistance and you could try go to Social Security office to ask them for more options (like SSI or SSDI) until you can find a job.
 
Well at least you guys have a temporary place to stay! Not the best, but at least it's a bit more stable then being out on the streets!
 
DeafNerdMommy said:
I did make a deal with my parents that if I moved back in i would have to pay rent but I think this should be an exception. I am applying to jobs like crazy. I like I have done 120 job apps so fingers crossed
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Yeah if you were working you should pay some rent but when you're out of a job I feel you should be given some time to get back on feet.
 
I would take up Authentic's offer....it is a job. Screw your ex hubby and his friends. Do what you and YOUR children need. A job was practically handed to you and an opportunity for a stable life opened up. Take it.

If not, what about going to college or taking classes to gain more marketable skills? I dont know why you got fired but if you dont have the college education nor the additional training from a voc school, it will be very very difficult to land a job, let alone a good paying job. The reality is that this job market is competitive and you need to be able to market yourself to beat out other competitors.

Again, someone offered you an opportunity..what's holding you back? Ex hubby and his family for fear of gossip or drama? Screw them...California is a big state.
 
shel90 said:
I would take up Authentic's offer....it is a job. Screw your ex hubby and his friends. Do what you and YOUR children need. A job was practically handed to you and an opportunity for a stable life opened up. Take it.

If not, what about going to college or taking classes to gain more marketable skills? I dont know why you got fired but if you dont have the college education nor the additional training from a voc school, it will be very very difficult to land a job, let alone a good paying job. The reality is that this job market is competitive and you need to be able to market yourself to beat out other competitors.

Again, someone offered you an opportunity..what's holding you back? Ex hubby and his family for fear of gossip or drama? Screw them...California is a big state.
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If I was 40 years younger I would take up Authentic offer , I miss California.
 
whatdidyousay! said:
If I was 40 years younger I would take up Authentic offer , I miss California.
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If I was in her shoes, I would take it. I left my job at the deaf school to work at the public school where pay was better and I made that sacrifice of giving up being in the Deaf world at work where ASL is used to be in a world where communication and information is restricted because I needed to make more money to pay off bills so my family can have the lifestyle we are enjoying now. Nobody grows and becomes successful if stuck in their comfort zone all of their lives. Take RISKS! Grab the opportunity!
 
Where are you guys gettin EX husband? Another thread? Because in this thread she says husband . Plus she said his mother, who lives nearby, was dying, which is probably why they don't want to move to CA at this time. I got the impression they would consider the move if it wasn't for his dying mother.
 
shel90 said:
If I was in her shoes, I would take it. I left my job at the deaf school to work at the public school where pay was better and I made that sacrifice of giving up being in the Deaf world at work where ASL is used to be in a world where communication and information is restricted because I needed to make more money to pay off bills so my family can have the lifestyle we are enjoying now. Nobody grows and becomes successful if stuck in their comfort zone all of their lives. Take RISKS! Grab the opportunity!
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Oh wow, I wish that I could force state of Maryland to pay you more.

You deserved to get huge pay raise, also you invested in BA/BS and master degree, but state legislators don't.
 
shel90 said:
If I was in her shoes, I would take it. I left my job at the deaf school to work at the public school where pay was better and I made that sacrifice of giving up being in the Deaf world at work where ASL is used to be in a world where communication and information is restricted because I needed to make more money to pay off bills so my family can have the lifestyle we are enjoying now. Nobody grows and becomes successful if stuck in their comfort zone all of their lives. Take RISKS! Grab the opportunity!
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I will be 70 yo in Dec. so this is something I will have to let slip by but if I was younger I would be packing my bags by now !

When you get to be my age you really don't have a comfort zone with the aches and pains you start to get ! LOL !
 
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LoveBlue said:
Where are you guys gettin EX husband? Another thread? Because in this thread she says husband . Plus she said his mother, who lives nearby, was dying, which is probably why they don't want to move to CA at this time. I got the impression they would consider the move if it wasn't for his dying mother.
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My mistake....I stand corrected.
 
So sorry to read of your troubles. Fingers crossed that something opens up for you.
 
LoveBlue said:
Where are you guys gettin EX husband? Another thread? Because in this thread she says husband . Plus she said his mother, who lives nearby, was dying, which is probably why they don't want to move to CA at this time. I got the impression they would consider the move if it wasn't for his dying mother.
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Also it is not just a matter of a job for her but what does her husband do?
 
LoveBlue said:
Where are you guys gettin EX husband? Another thread? Because in this thread she says husband . Plus she said his mother, who lives nearby, was dying, which is probably why they don't want to move to CA at this time. I got the impression they would consider the move if it wasn't for his dying mother.
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Yeah, and, additionally, Authentic wasn't really making an offer in the usual sense that that means......lol
 
My husband stays home with our kids, he is trying to get disability through the va, he use to make all the money but was missing out on the kids so we switched places so I can work and go to school.
 
One thing that I don't remember any mention being made of is what is the monthly payment supposed to cover? Are things like food, and use of laundry, etc. included?
 
I am not sure, I buy all the food in the house and do everyone laundry and dishes and clean. I think my parents are nazi hahaha jk but I don't know
 
DeafNerdMommy said:
I am not sure, I buy all the food in the house and do everyone laundry and dishes and clean. I think my parents are nazi hahaha jk but I don't know
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You should start keeping tabs on how much laundry and house keeping you do and save all your grocery receipts add all this up plus $15 a hour for your labor
and subtract it from the $400 rent then pay the balance . You could weight the laundry and charge by the lbs. like they at laundry marts!
 
Jane B. said:
One thing that I don't remember any mention being made of is what is the monthly payment supposed to cover? Are things like food, and use of laundry, etc. included?
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A roof over their heads, heat, water/sewer, electricity. The same stuff one might get at an apartment for their rent.
 
whatdidyousay! said:
You should start keeping tabs on how much laundry and house keeping you do and save all your grocery receipts add all this up plus $15 a hour for your labor
and subtract it from the $400 rent then pay the balance . You could weight the laundry and charge by the lbs. like they at laundry marts!
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You should leave deafnerdmommy alone and allow her to do what she thinks is best; this is between her and her parents on what they decide to do. Doing all of what you suggest would likely make things worse and more tension in the house. Not an ideal situation in my humble opinion.

I'm sure they'll figure something out.

And now I know not to say anything about my own situation.. I'll get back some pretty drastic advice... oh... wait no I won't since I'm on ignore anyway ...;)
 
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