Abusive Relationship

[TweetyBird]

Thank you, hugs... I´m sorry about your marriage life... miscarriage... I know how terrible it´s really is...
True, but it´s hard for me to forget the past... I do think about this sometimes... It´s not very easy... since I´m mother of 2 boys... it makes me love them more... I don´t understand my mother.

welcome!!! hugs!! yea i know.. i still think of my daughter, i called her name is Kamila Marie.. i cant help it.. i am think of her in my heart.. she is in heaven now.. so on valentine's day, my gf was sooo SWEET, she got me heart with diamonds necklance so there are 3 of diamonds, one for me, one for kamila and one for my gf java together so i got cried cuz of she is soo sweet and think of kamila... smile.. hugs hugs..

 

[GalaxyAngel]

Thanks Malfoyish.. Made me feel happy and comfy includes same everyones are vitcim.. no matter what always be there for you and others too..

I'll be always understanding how much do you feel that way... Important open your chest and how much you had been pain.. Will ease you pain going away..
Not easy of course there will be feel better.

That what I felt like this before, Now I felt so good because they always be there for me plus extra wonderful kids are shown full of LOVE.. Excellent.

 

[Oddball]

2nd pages
Anyway, other subject what I had been through with my ex boyfriend.

After college I got a good job after 3 month unemployment I got a appartment straight way with the help from the social worker. I take care of my new life... I met & fall in love Graham & let him to move to live with me within 6 months after our first meet. I was puzzled when he asked me to cancel the holiday book to Tenerife which I planned with my friends before I met him. I told him firm that I won't let my friends down because we planned it for a long time. He respect me... That's I realized how person he is... possessive & jealous after let him to move with me.... I suddenly notice when he suggested me to add his name on my appartment. I rejected it & told him that I rather wait... (Oh god, I'm very lucky - I know an experience what I had been through in the past). He dislike an idea of what the kind of life I use like to have... something like that... I met Red Rum at her work every Wednesday for chat & also met my friends etc. sport etc. He want me all for himself... He dislike me to bring my friends to my appartment... (incl. Red Rum). I was shock when he started to hit me... I knew straight it would come so I want to throw him out of my appartment... He plea for his forgive... I gave him the chance... I was in Tenerife for 2 weeks holiday with my friends & had a good thought about our future... After holiday I asked him to leave my appartment because I know it's no good future for us because we're too different. He won't go...because he love me... He started to hit me again for little things... I escaped to Red Rum for the help... The situation goes worst... I begged Red Rum to stay with me for a while... She can't bear anymore of Graham's insult on us... so she brought her boyfriend with her... it stop Graham do something to me... I become scared of him & realized how my mother did with her 3 husbands... I knew I can't carry on like this so I told him to leave because I don't love him anymore... He realized that I stay firm so he tried to threaten me so I ignore it & was about went to my neighbor but he stop me & become very abusive & beat me up so I took kitchen knife to defend myself against him to let me go out. I cut his body with the knife to hurt himself then run away to neighbor to call the police. The police took him away... Oh my god... I'm glad that I'm doing right... Accord court order, it must be 10 miles distance between my home & his area... He's not allow to near me... but I still am scared to be alone case Graham come to kill me so I begged Red Rum to live with me. She's always be there when I need her. She always is there to comfort me & support me during family life & Graham's condition...
I feel more relax & more happier since Red Rum moved to live with me until I married & live in Germany... She went to Australia for 1 year working visa one month later after I left for Germany... met her husband.... We saw each other for a first time after 16 years no see in 2000/2001. We still talking about this...

Whoa.. you survived in a tough situation. Have you seen your silibings on occassions? I hope you can see them someday.

 

[LUNZ]

It really hurt me when i read many sad stories, but im proud of you(ladies) to be strong and get out of relationship. Be freedom and go out have fun. Happiness life as always!

 

[GalaxyAngel]

It really hurt me when i read many sad stories, but im proud of you(ladies) to be strong and get out of relationship. Be freedom and go out have fun. Happiness life as always!

Yes I agreed with you second totally!!!
Thanks for your time reading ladies' comment which sadness... I'm glad you're feel open and supportive as well..
Thanks LUnz!

 

[Liebling:-)))]

aww Thank you Liebling , I read it soon as I read this one....and I don't post in DL anymore but Thank you for posting one and for letting me know....

I am truly sorry to hear what your mother been thru ....It is awful that she had to go thru this by three different men....and most of all, having the children witness this horrible events that happen in that householder.....I know that not alot of people would willing to hear a child out...even if someone in the family been abused ......I really do admire you also for being able to open up the wound in your heart....*hugs*....I am here if you ever need someone to listen!...

Angel, thank you... hugs.. I´ll remember it))
Okay, I understand. I already respond on your thread at DL to this person.
P.S. What a shame that you deleted the Tickle

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Umm...I really don't know what to say, here. A lot of these posts hit me so close to home.

I do have some issues...but I'm not sure I want to talk about them here. I'm really not good at talking about them at all, anywhere. I kind of have to feel comfortable with someone before I get into any of the grisly details. So, you know, maybe I'll take a rain check on posting my story. Hell, if someone really wants to know and if it might help someone else, then yeah, just look me up and we'll talk.

But, my god. I soooo know what you're all talking about. Tweety, I'm so sorry to hear about your bad experiences when you were married. No one deserves that. Angel, we've talked about it some...and my heart goes out to you and your gorgeous sons. Liebling...you may not have been abused physically, but I would definitely say this husband of your mother's played with your emotions and I'd say it's mental and/or emotional abuse at the very least. Especially when you watch someone you love being hurt in so many ways. And Y....I don't know you at all, but in yet another respect, I know how you're feeling. Bullymom...I'm so so so glad that you have a good man in your life now, and a beautiful family to show for it.

The hardest thing in the world, I think, is knowing that you've been abused, and coming forward with it.

So, to everyone here - whether you're a survivor not - thumbs-up to you. I do hope everything works out for you...all of you...and that you aren't hurt unjustly again.

Huggles,
Malfoyish

No, it´s not physcially but physchological emotion. The therapy said that it´s sexual abusement what step dad did to us & also abused our emotion
physchologically... He didn´t touch us but just force us take off our clothes for him to look & play himself is or watch him have sex with my mum belong to sexual abusement. I´m surprise about this because I thought who touch the children belong sexual abusement. But I can image it would be worst when the children had been touched by their relatives... I often read about their stories... terrible... I know how they feel - they need real help to get out of physical emotion.

I visited Self-help group therapy at years ago. They give me the strength to positive my life where I´m now. I have everything what I have now - happy
married & proud mother of 2 darling sons, good job, house, etc look at Bullymom, Angel & tweenty... They are happy what they have their lovely partners who take care of them & keep them happy. I´m happy for them. The therapy said it´s not easy to forget the experience in the past because the scar still there.. I do think about this sometimes when I´m alone.
They said it´s good when I talk with someone who had bad experience like me... or write a paper to get out of chest or throw the pillows or boxer
etc. I often did it with my sons... We throw each other with pillow... real fun... it´s good for us to get out of aggressive emotion... I join this thread voluntary to write out everything... That´s how I learn from therápy.
I´m here to help the children who get out of their parents´s abusive relationship hardly like what I did my 7 years old sister. (she´s 20 years old now) because I myself as child fought to get out of those situation. I admire Bullymom & Angel what they knew what they did right for their children´s sake to get out of abusive relationship.

Y, I hope you don´t mind me to ask/suggest you. It would be good when you get out of your chest but you don´t have to put on this thread if you still don´t want. We understand & respect you but you can do something like that, write a paper yourself to get out of your chest. Did you visit therapy?

I´m here to listen/share your stories... What I am here for...

 

[Liebling:-)))]

welcome!!! hugs!! yea i know.. i still think of my daughter, i called her name is Kamila Marie.. i cant help it.. i am think of her in my heart.. she is in heaven now.. so on valentine's day, my gf was sooo SWEET, she got me heart with diamonds necklance so there are 3 of diamonds, one for me, one for kamila and one for my gf java together so i got cried cuz of she is soo sweet and think of kamila... smile.. hugs hugs..

Very sad My heart goes with you... I know how you feel for losing your belove baby. Hugs...

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Whoa.. you survived in a tough situation. Have you seen your silibings on occassions? I hope you can see them someday.

Yeah, Yes, I still contact my siblings... The daughter of my step-dad is my close sister... She look like her dad. It make me hard when I look at her but I know she can´t help it.

 

[Cheri]

It really hurt me when i read many sad stories, but im proud of you(ladies) to be strong and get out of relationship. Be freedom and go out have fun. Happiness life as always!

That is soo Sweet of you Lunz To said that to all of the women who been into an abusive relationship....


To all the Abusive Women/Children....It is very Frighten, Frustrated you all went through In Your Lifetime....You all had a Guardian Angel Watching over all of you....I know u all are innocent and the abusive person is capable of hurting u in the near future.. U can save yourself Get the Laws Involved. Those Injuries takes a lifetime to heal up it 's Roots.. There are Jealous People out in the world that are irresponsible.. It is how they were raise I guess....Nobody Deserved a Miserable Life...Hugs u all that went through the painful Memory! *hugs*

 

[TweetyBird]

Very sad My heart goes with you... I know how you feel for losing your belove baby. Hugs...

Thanks for being in my heart... i missed her so much!!! she is 2 yrs old right now, will be 3 yrs old this nov 17... sigh.. i still think of her all the time.. i was lose her when i was preg 5 and half... it been hard on me to get over with it.. but i cant! if i get one child girl again, then i will put Kamila Rose so she get her name after her first sister u know what i mean??

 

[Malfoyish]

Thanks for being in my heart... i missed her so much!!! she is 2 yrs old right now, will be 3 yrs old this nov 17... sigh.. i still think of her all the time.. i was lose her when i was preg 5 and half... it been hard on me to get over with it.. but i cant! if i get one child girl again, then i will put Kamila Rose so she get her name after her first sister u know what i mean??

That's a wonderful way to keep Kamila's memory alive. And then your first Kamila will be a guardian angel to her baby sister. Have some faith in things getting better for you, Tweety.

That's what I do, anyway.

Malfoyish

 

[TweetyBird]

That's a wonderful way to keep Kamila's memory alive. And then your first Kamila will be a guardian angel to her baby sister. Have some faith in things getting better for you, Tweety.

That's what I do, anyway.

Malfoyish

(sniffing) thats sooo sweet of u say that.. i wish i see u in person then give u hugs tight!!! yea that what i wanna first Kamila know that i still think of her so i wanna Kamila be part of her baby sister.. this is very important in my heart!! I know that my baby Kamila watch me everywhere i go.. my heart belong her heart!

 

[Cheri]

They seek to pull their partner down to make themselves feel better 75% of women killed by their abusive partners are murdered after they leave.Ongoing contact with the abuser can throw you back into the shame spiral and keep you from moving forward with recovery...

Listening to your partner non-judgmentally,Valuing opinions,Supporting your partner’s goals in life, Respecting your partner’s right to his or her own feelings, friends, activities and opinions, Accepting responsibility for self...

Abusing List....Smashing or destroying things, Destroying or confiscating your partner's property, Displaying weapons or threatening their use, Putting your partner down, Making your partner feel bad about himself or herself, Calling your partner names. Playing mind games,
Harassing or intimidating your partner,"Checking up on" your partner's activities or whereabouts...

Stalking...
Your chances of being stalked are close to 1 in 10.

One in 12 women are stalked at some point in their life.

A woman is 3 times more likely to be stalked than raped.

Each year an estimated 1,006,970 women and 370,992 men are stalked in the U.S.

The primary targets of stalkers are women (80%).

8% of all women and 2% of all men are stalked at some time in their life.

10% of female victims and 12% of male victims are less than 18 years old.

Approximately 50% of all stalking victims never report their victimization to law enforcement. Only 25% attain restraining orders against their assailant.

80% of all restraining orders attained against stalkers are violated. On September 23, 1996 President Bill Clinton signed into law the Interstate Stalking Punishment and Prevention Act of 1996 making it a federal offense to stalk across state lines. As of January 1, 1994, all fifty states in the U.S. have an anti-stalking law...

 

[Y]

I'm sorry if you are embrassassed when I'm asking you about this, but just wanna know something. HOW were you abused emotionally instead of physically? I had a friend who was in that kind of sitation with my long time best friend and said that he did some inapporiate things to her so I dunno...I didnt really believe her because she kept changing her story just abit so I wouldnt know...anyway, it seems that most deafies were sexually ambused more than the hearies because they think the deafies wouldn't say a thing about it or try to say something because they wouldn't speak or anything like that...it's like we were treated as a sex toy and treat us like crap for nothing...it's very ambusing and pathetic.

So do you mind if you tell us how you were ambused emotionally? if you dont feel like expressing those things out of your chest, I understand. Better to keep things private than to let another know about it...

Thats ok That's a good question helped me
to think about "how was I abused emotionally"
Let me put this way: I used to give lots of love
and then I felt that I was being taken advantage of
and felt insulted, hurt and destroyed. After that,
I am not able to give lots of love. Looks like
every time when I'm in love, then I'm the one
getting hurt. Not worth at all. (I was reading
everyone's posting above at this special thread
going through difficult paths of lives at some
various kinds)

 

[Steel X]

hmmm...makes more sense I suppose...well thank you for your time and patience. I'll try go easy on my friends who went through that situation next time.