Kuifje, yes, I do agree with you that it's pretty important to be understood. However, it also brings up another point for me: Should we please everyone by leaving out certain words and phrases? What's stopping people from asking about the new words and phrases? Isn't it a good thing to expand knowledge through exchanges?
For example - I really prefer that the norwegian deaf people do not use international sign language to communicate with me. I want them to expose me with the full range of norwegian sign language so I can learn and pick up more signs! It is frustrating when I feel like the norwegians dumb down their signing - because they are underestimating my ability to learn and to pull my own weight in a conversation. As a result I don't have much of a conversation with many norwegian deaf people... everyone practices that floating standard in so many ways, and it is frustrating
I feel like *if* I use easier words I enable others to stay at that level instead of giving them the opportunity to learn something new. It should not be viewed as an unwanted thing but could be and should be viewed as a gift. Additionally, it is not really a problem if I am asked to explain what I mean. That is an obligation everyone has as a participant in every shared discussion and exchange, IMO.
In conclusion, I'd rather write the way I want to because I know it IS an opportunity for others to learn something new if any; no one should feel ashamed about learning something new at all. I never, never mocked or made fun of the ones I were tutoring in English years ago. Why should I do that today? They knew I were on their side. We all never stop learning, anyway!
Yes, there are some people who use "big" words to show off or just to practice their usage... that's absolutely fine to me! Practice makes perfect!
Ah! The only times that it would be rude and downright dirty rotten IF they refuse to explain what they mean AND make people feel dumb about not knowing these things. That is something I personally do not support. Those people are arrogant and not the ones I would want to socialize with. The ones who patronize me by dumbing down their language for my "benefit" should know that the road to hell is usually paved with good intentions. I've been guilty of that in the past, of course. How else did I know about the road to hell? Just because I refuse to caretake (enable) people today, it doesn't mean I look down at them at all. Trust me.