Pinkster, I am sorry you feel that way, especially now that I've been telling my friends, in-laws, etc what a transformation myself and my wife have made in recent months. If we thought we were close before, we now can't get enough of each other! We sat down one day and I was mentioning to her how we, as a society are bomboarded/pressured/influenced from all sides; the media, Hollywood, our jobs, friends & relatives, societal expectations, yadda, yadda, yadda to take things for granted, to not attend andf attune to one another. So I said, "Let's water our garden!" The rest is history! If more people would do this, I betcha the divorce rate would be cut in half or better! There's a multitude of ways to achieve this and it isn't Utopia....it is very achievable once two people put their minds, hearts and souls into the effort. You have a nice day now. Regards,......