Would you allow your teen children to read sexual responsibility magazines?

I'm praying that none of my boys do not think about having sex before marriage, but I'm prepare to face whatever happens, hopefully have to deal with it in a calmer way after all I have done some things when I was younger, even I knew having sex was wrong, but did it stop me? no....
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Unfortunately, nowadays there is high statistic teenager kids out there, having sex before marriage. We can't prevent them or our children. Important, open discuss and protection.
 
GalaxyAngel said:
Important Education for Grade 5 to up...
Yes..
Let them know how much protection sex safer and much more details...

Don't you agree w/Sex Education.... what happen them young children will get preggy or hiv or else... Who fault.. YOU... not School fault reason parent fault refused allow your child learning Sex Education early stage..

I let my children okay learn Sex Education unless Grade 5 to up.. Not Grade 4..
espicaly my last son knows about sex meaning... "Making Love" I cannot blame my little son because of can hear outside from children talking and teenagers wherebouts anywhere ... Don't forget that.. includes as same TV and others stuff..

Do you expecting banned whole thing... Your child will happend become 1.. Your decision not our fault not their fault.. Nope... who fault it's YOU! You made the choice!
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BUT NOT GOOD IDEA... "PLAYBOY OR PLAYGURL"
isn't good idea for young children..

Different issues point of view.. educational

sort of simalir alike CONDOM VENDING machine.. i do not approval that..
What Condom vending company wants encourge them LEARN SEX? Doesn't make sense..

USE GO STORE... buy it proprite place.. as same extactly maginize
Books or maginze never sell on the vending machine.. only GO STORE.. and buy it..
 
I dont allow my son read playboy! I will teach him about sex, diease, pregnact and money and lifes. He is only 8 years old.


My stepson told me that he broke his virgan when he was 12 years old. He learned about it himself with a girl because they kissed and fellt so horny and they did it.

I was a kid, I never want have any sex because my uncle messed me up. I thought sex was so sick. I didnt understand what is love with sex until I was teenager. I learned from a teacher who taught me sex education. My mom had me when she was 16. She asked me to not have sex or would be end like her. I said I dont want have any sex because I never had any love with a boy. My mom told me that If I find a boyfriend and fall in love with him and might want have sex then I should tell her about it before I do it. I had lot of think. I met a boyfriend and I told him that I want to wait and i want to talk to my mom first. He respected me. My mom got me birth control when I was 16 years old. My mom said I cannot have sex in her house but I can have sex in somewhere. My mom and I are very close and I thank her for so open mind. I would teach my son to not have sex until he get old. He can choose have sex or not when he will be 18. My husband never had any sex until he was 18 years old. I taught my stepdaugher that she was 13 years old. She trust me. She never had any sex until she was 18.
 
Kalista said:
Unfortunately, nowadays there is high statistic teenager kids out there, having sex before marriage. We can't prevent them or our children. Important, open discuss and protection.
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Very true.
 
GalaxyAngel said:
*edit forgot add*
here....

BUT NOT GOOD IDEA... "PLAYBOY OR PLAYGURL"
isn't good idea for young children..

Different issues point of view.. educational

sort of simalir alike CONDOM VENDING machine.. i do not approval that..
What Condom vending company wants encourge them LEARN SEX? Doesn't make sense..

USE GO STORE... buy it proprite place.. as same extactly maginize
Books or maginze never sell on the vending machine.. only GO STORE.. and buy it..
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My boys don't read playboy or playgirl magazines but "BRAVO" magazine for teenagers (including sex education, protection, tips, computer, school, advise, etc. etc...). Why should my boys buy expensive magazines like playboy or playgirl out of their pocket money? No, they prefer BRAVO magazine for teenagers. My eldest son bought teenage magazine sometimes... I saw it and must say that it's very good education and mature magazine.

Yes, I don't agree to have condom vending machine at school because it's not sex education but seduce teenagers to have sex...
 
ghsh1996 said:
I dont allow my son read playboy! I will teach him about sex, diease, pregnact and money and lifes. He is only 8 years old.
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Me either! but my sons know about sex when they were young. I rather to have my children to aware about sex issues before they hit puberty.

Playboy or Playgirl magazines has nothing do with sex education. Buy reasonable magazines for teenagers only, not adult magazines.



My stepson told me that he broke his virgan when he was 12 years old. He learned about it himself with a girl because they kissed and fellt so horny and they did it.

I was a kid, I never want have any sex because my uncle messed me up. I thought sex was so sick. I didnt understand what is love with sex until I was teenager. I learned from a teacher who taught me sex education. My mom had me when she was 16. She asked me to not have sex or would be end like her. I said I dont want have any sex because I never had any love with a boy. My mom told me that If I find a boyfriend and fall in love with him and might want have sex then I should tell her about it before I do it. I had lot of think. I met a boyfriend and I told him that I want to wait and i want to talk to my mom first. He respected me. My mom got me birth control when I was 16 years old. My mom said I cannot have sex in her house but I can have sex in somewhere. My mom and I are very close and I thank her for so open mind. I would teach my son to not have sex until he get old. He can choose have sex or not when he will be 18. My husband never had any sex until he was 18 years old. I taught my stepdaugher that she was 13 years old. She trust me. She never had any sex until she was 18.
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Yes it's important to talk open about sex issues with children. You are very lucky to have open mind mother who teach you in right path.
 
Germany's Teen Sex Doctor

Germany's Teen Sex Doctor

How can I tell him I want more? Why doesn't she like me? What is a condom? Generations of confused German teenagers have turned to Dr. Sommer for honesty -- and explicit photos.

Sandra, 16, looks up coyly from the pages of Bravo, wearing a black choker and nothing else. Boyfriend Elias, 18, grins from the opposite page, also in his natural state.

"Tell me, why do you love each other?" reads the headline. And the young couple tells why -- and exactly how.

Sell this in America, and risk prison time for child pornography.

But in Germany, this is nothing tawdry.

It's the country's most popular teenage magazine, and it turns 50 on Saturday.

Sandra and Elias' graphic spread is in the same issue as a free sheet of fake tattoos, a feature about Harry Potter, and an exclusive report on Tokio Hotel, the German boy band currently making girls swoon.

A German institution since 1969, Dr. Sommer combines no-holds-barred sex advice with full-frontal photos.

It highlights a basic cultural divide between Germany and many other countries -- of how openly sex is discussed, especially among youth.

"It is not pornography," says Bravo's deputy editor, Alex Gernandt. "It deals with naked people, but in a very sensitive way. We try to portray young people to tell readers, 'You are not too fat, not too thin. You are OK the way you are.'

"There are a lot less teenage pregnancies in Germany in comparison to the United Kingdom or the US, and I think Bravo has its share in that success," Gernandt said.

Breaking taboos

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The current Dr. Sommer, Eveline von Arx, credits the column with Germany's free sexual attitudes.

When it began in 1969, "Dr. Sommer really broke taboos, and it was really spectacular to do something like that," said von Arx, who has been writing the column for three years. "It's not that spectacular anymore. People are used to it. Everybody knows it."

Each weekly issue of Bravo now features photos of two teenagers, generally between 16 and 20, in the nude, with interviews about their bodies and experiences.

Anyone under 18, like Sandra, must have his or her parents' permission to appear.

They are paid 400 euros (a little more than $500) to pose, and many report the experience is a self-esteem boost, von Arx said.

Weekly letters range from "My boyfriend is once again interested in his former girlfriend" to "Everybody's had sex, only I haven't." Sample answer: "Nowhere does it say that youth have to have sex by a certain time… Talk to your boyfriend about it. Tell him how you feel."

"You can be sexy here"

Bravo's Web site even features explicit petting and positions photo galleries that wouldn't last a day in other countries.

The magazine publishes its eastern European editions with little to no nudity. But in Germany, even teachers and religious leaders seem to welcome the column. Von Arx has spoken in schools and was even invited as a youth expert to a big evangelical Christian conference last year.

Gisela Gille, chairman of Germany's Society for the Health of Women, said Bravo plays an important role in the sexual education of Germany's 12- to 15-year-olds, particularly the lesser educated. Gille said the advice satisfies basic curiosities, but that many teenagers read Bravo only for a short time and stop when they become more experienced.

Tanja Reddig, a 17-year-old Berlin student, said that she read Dr. Sommer when she was 12 and 13 and didn't see what the fuss was over the nudity.

"You can be sexy here and you don't get any problems," she said. "In America, they can't show bodies. They must hide something. Some teenagers don't want to ask their parents things, so they could write a letter to Dr. Sommer."

Started by popular demand

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Dr. Sommer began during the sexual revolution of 1969. Bravo was then a strictly entertainment magazine, but its young readers nonetheless kept writing letters about love and sex.

So editors figured such a column would increase their readership, according to Antje Pfeffer of the Berlin-based Archive of Youth Culture (Archiv der Jugendkulturen), which has published a book about Bravo's 50 year history.

"Dr. Sommer immediately was greeted as too open," Pfeffer said.

Some parents glued the Dr. Sommer pages together so their teenagers couldn't read the column, others banned it from the house. Some schools confiscated it, and in communist East Germany, many clamored for smuggled copies.

But from the start, the column took its mission quite seriously. The first Dr. Sommer, Martin Goldstein, recalled in the Berlin archive's book that he and his team of social workers, psychologists, sociologists, political scientists, family counselors and parents would spend hours going through letters:

I have fallen in love with a sweet young boy. If he would kiss me, I would be happy for my entire life. How can I get him to do it? I see him almost every day and I already know his name. But don't tell me that I should talk to him. Janne, 14

The boys in our village seem to have no interest in us, no matter what we do. We do not know how we can get their attention. Ina, Renate, Anne and Beate, 15 and 16

The team tried to respond in an encouraging, non-judgemental way. But often, they wondered whether the teenagers had anyone else they could confide in. They were shocked at how many letters were sent in -- sometimes 3,000 to 5,000 a month.

"We believed it was because young people wanted to be listened to," Goldstein recalled.

Evolving topics

Soon, they were dealing with much thornier issues, such as a 1988 letter titled "My mum's boyfriend sexually abused me."

By the end of the 1980s, Dr. Sommer had become more mainstream, and answers seemed freer. For instance, Nicola, 15, wrote in with the basic question, "How do I show him that I want more?"

The answer: Tell him what you want. Or, just push his hand higher.

Von Arx says many of the letters have not changed much over the years. But recently she has seen more teenagers concerned that they won't get ahead in school because they are so distracted by lovesickness.

She is often asked if the column is even necessary anymore.

"People think our society is very sexualized, and naked bodies and sex are everywhere, and young people should know everything," she said. "But they don't know anything sometimes."
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Germany's Teen Sex Doctor | Culture & Lifestyle | Deutsche Welle | 25.08.2006


"BRAVO" is not adult and porn. magazine but education to understand about their bodies, sexuality, etc. My son bought BRAVO magazine sometimes like what I said in my first thread here.
 
Yes, I would allow it. Thinking that teen agers will wait until marraige to engage in sexual activity is unrealistic. They will hav esex, and you can either teach them how to be responsible, or you can bury your head in the sand and risk exposure to STDs and teen pregnancy.
 
I remember these BRAVO magazines when I was growing up. I agree, it is not a porn magazine at all, far from it. It is like two pages out of the whole magazine that talks about sex, and the rest of magazine talks about movies, actors, rumours, bands, music, etc... I don't see what the big deal is.

I think with our culture being revolutionised by the cinema, the internet, the television, and so on, it is wise to educate our children about sex. I had my sex ed class in middle school when I was about 11 years old, and I thought it was a good class to teach us to become responsible adults.
 
Reba said:
I don't think that promotes "responsible" sexual behavior. I think it encourages kids to think that sex without marriage is OK. Kids already think about sex enough; they don't need additional stimuli, especially in a glitzy magazine format. Why do teens need to read about "better sex"? They are not supposed to be having any sex, good, bad or indifferent.

Why is there so much emphasis on sex?
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Kids will always think that sex without marriage is OK unless they are raised with religous values. I was raised about safe sex and not for a moment that encouraged me to think sex without marriage is ok. Besides, it was my own personal decision to have sex without marriage at the age of 18. It was a learning experience for me. Your values and my values differ and there is nothing wrong with that.
 
jillio said:
Yes, I would allow it. Thinking that teen agers will wait until marraige to engage in sexual activity is unrealistic. They will hav esex, and you can either teach them how to be responsible, or you can bury your head in the sand and risk exposure to STDs and teen pregnancy.
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Yea I agree...

I would allow it too as long as it is the material is not pornographic.
 
Sorry, but I have to agree, the USA is just in the stone age about teaching kids about sex. They should not allow young adult porn but should expose teens top that stuff. There are just most parents that just refuses to teach their kids about it and swears they don't do it.

Either way, it is not good for the kids. If the kids are exposed at an early age and see that the human body is something that should not be hiden and shunned, then they might not be as curious about how sex feels and everything.

I know I have not lived in Germany that long and my stay here is not going to be a permint move. The little that I have seen and been exposed to, the open-mind feel about the human body does not make a country that is horny from hell. It does the oppsite.

My wife and I will walk around in underwear( her shirt and panties) in the house with our kids. My son getting into the age of noticing the difference between a boy and a gal. I going to be letting him know the sex stuff and tell him do whatever he wants. He just better be using protection, but if he knocks a gal up, he has to take responsablity. My daughter( I know this might be wrong and mean) she will not be allowed to date or anything with a boy cause no one can trust a teenage boy.

Either way, I going to let my kids know that the human body is a form of art, not just something shown in pornos.
 
Handsome_Smiley said:
Sorry, but I have to agree, the USA is just in the stone age about teaching kids about sex. They should not allow young adult porn but should expose teens top that stuff. There are just most parents that just refuses to teach their kids about it and swears they don't do it.

Either way, it is not good for the kids. If the kids are exposed at an early age and see that the human body is something that should not be hiden and shunned, then they might not be as curious about how sex feels and everything.

I know I have not lived in Germany that long and my stay here is not going to be a permint move. The little that I have seen and been exposed to, the open-mind feel about the human body does not make a country that is horny from hell. It does the oppsite.

My wife and I will walk around in underwear( her shirt and panties) in the house with our kids. My son getting into the age of noticing the difference between a boy and a gal. I going to be letting him know the sex stuff and tell him do whatever he wants. He just better be using protection, but if he knocks a gal up, he has to take responsablity. My daughter( I know this might be wrong and mean) she will not be allowed to date or anything with a boy cause no one can trust a teenage boy.

Either way, I going to let my kids know that the human body is a form of art, not just something shown in pornos.
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Ok so u r assuming that the fathers of other girls should trust your teenaged son to do whatever he wants with them? Is that fair cuz iam sure those fathers r in the same shoes about their daughters. God forbid your son knocks one of them up..someone's father is gonna be after him. I am sure u would go after the teenaged boy that knocks up your daughter? I know my hubby and my ex hubby will kick the boy's ass if he thinks he can do whatever he wants with our daughter especially knocking her up.
 
Well, mainly, it is parents job and the eviroment in the home is big impact. When I taught both of my girls about this. They have learned alot. Many are doing out curiosity when they learn in school and even teaching kids as my kids told me what teacher said, it is kids right what they decide, not the parents. that was aggravated. Where I was raised, I learned out of curiosity of my peers, and all is boys stuff and the feeling inside of me change and lead me a hard time later in life try to have a woman. Due of in laws controlling marriage make it worse and make things harder. during my jr high, all I have was a crush on guys and my dad was pissed and told me I will go to hell for doing that. Brought me fear all my life and thought I will never make it, bec the urges. Each has differences of circumstances. I don't ever teach my kids like, you going to hell if you do this and that, bec my perspective Christ taught me differently. My kids still loves me soo much and know the reason why I live with my partner. Yes, they blamed their grandparents (in laws), and my mom likewise blamed them. But it is my accountability what I have done to be with another person, but the main part, it was persistant interferance. I don't think it is a good idea to expose stuff on kids. Now, like some of you mentioned, about if kids ever saw your part or accidentally saw you naked. But you will be amazed, if someone ever caught you naked in front of the kids, evn your own kids, what I've been told, and it is true, you will be charge as a sex offender regardless of the circumstance only when someone us the word against you. In America, it's far gone out of hand and lead many good people in bad labels. Bec I have someone that I knew shared with me and I am appalled what I am hearing and thought that is toooo extreme and crossing the line for making it a law of those circumstances. YOu may say, I don't see that in the news, the answer, they don't.
 
shel90 said:
Ok so u r assuming that the fathers of other girls should trust your teenaged son to do whatever he wants with them? Is that fair cuz iam sure those fathers r in the same shoes about their daughters. God forbid your son knocks one of them up..someone's father is gonna be after him. I am sure u would go after the teenaged boy that knocks up your daughter? I know my hubby and my ex hubby will kick the boy's ass if he thinks he can do whatever he wants with our daughter especially knocking her up.
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I hope I can raise my son to be the kind of teenager that I want my daughter to date when she gets to be a teenager. I also hope to teach my son that the idea of sex is not just the blow a load and don't care of the out come. I also hope that my son will wait to get that far in a relationship after a year or so dating.

My daughter, sorry, she my daughter and I feel no father can raise a son good enough for her. I willraise my son to be a gentlemen he needs to be but there are not that many of them.

Either one not going to go on a single date till they are over 18. They have to go on a group date.
 
Handsome_Smiley said:
I hope I can raise my son to be the kind of teenager that I want my daughter to date when she gets to be a teenager. I also hope to teach my son that the idea of sex is not just the blow a load and don't care of the out come. I also hope that my son will wait to get that far in a relationship after a year or so dating.

My daughter, sorry, she my daughter and I feel no father can raise a son good enough for her. I willraise my son to be a gentlemen he needs to be but there are not that many of them.

Either one not going to go on a single date till they are over 18. They have to go on a group date.
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Aww...that means there will be no man for your daughter if they will never be good enough for u. :eek3:
 
shel90 said:
Aww...that means there will be no man for your daughter if they will never be good enough for u. :eek3:
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That is right. My daughter is my dauther and she will always be my little girl. She will date and everything, just the guy will know he will be hunted down if my daughter gets hurt.
 
christlovedeaf said:
Now, like some of you mentioned, about if kids ever saw your part or accidentally saw you naked. But you will be amazed, if someone ever caught you naked in front of the kids, evn your own kids, what I've been told, and it is true, you will be charge as a sex offender regardless of the circumstance only when someone us the word against you. In America, it's far gone out of hand and lead many good people in bad labels. Bec I have someone that I knew shared with me and I am appalled what I am hearing and thought that is toooo extreme and crossing the line for making it a law of those circumstances. YOu may say, I don't see that in the news, the answer, they don't.
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:jaw: :eek3: This is too extreme and paraniod!!!!!! :cold:
 
I think it'd be a good idea to let my (not happening) future kids to read such magazines. Why? Sex is normal. Almost every person on earth will have sex. I can teach my children my own views on the matter, but in the end THEY are the ones who will act, and as teenagers, they'll probably act in total disregard of me. I'd rather not know my kid was having sex than find out because they're pregnant, exposed to hiv, or some other thing that could change their life or even kill them.
 
Liebling:-))) said:
:jaw: :eek3: This is too extreme and paraniod!!!!!! :cold:
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Yeah the reason why the sex is so much serious case in America is because we have too many rapes, teenager pregnancies, pornography addicted, many things problems with the sexual actions, which makes us in the America feel like the sex is not good for children EVEN while it was good things for the children to know about.

Now go back to my POV, I do believe it's better for the children to learn about the sex without any bad prespective against the sex, so the children will feel comfortable about their own sex expression, so that they would learn to use the condom, learn about the BC pill, many different ways to avoid from the pregnancy while they can have pleasure of their sex life. I learned about the sex when I was like 11, and still are very happy to learn about the sex education very early, but still wish it was earlier.

Also there is no concern about children under 12 years old to have the sex because boys don't ecret or produce any sperms till after their 12th age, and the girls don't produce the eggs in their ovary, nor having breast, nor the periods till after their 12th age. Why worry anyway?
 
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