Why is it so frustrated to find a right deaf lady?

authentic said:
From what I've seen many American deaf guys are having a hard time to find a deaf American woman, so they decided to travel to other countries, and meet the better deaf woman over there. So, why don't you?
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The problem lies in this suggestion of yours is you dont know if foreign women love you for who you are or they re just sucking ur cock bec they have only their eyes on visa/green card.

But yes if we deaf men are that so desperate and romantic hopeless, I think we should give it a consideration by going down this route what you were suggest. :afro:
 
ryan- u are doing fine just that it takes alot of patience to find right girl... I noticed u lived in windy city? I used to live in illinois but moved to california long time ago when I was little but yeah I'm native of illinois but... a little off topic here :giggle: don't mind me.. but just find some girls who will be so interested to know u so u never know if fate will lead u to some girl that u may be with forever? u don't know.. ;) anyways sometimes having alot of patience can be tough those days tho... :)
 
If you get high hope from that lady then you will never find one. Just let go the flow, the right time will tell you.

have you try go to the site www.deafsinglesconnect.com to make new friends then date then next ???
 
lumbingmi said:
The problem lies in this suggestion of yours is you dont know if foreign women love you for who you are or they re just sucking ur cock bec they have only their eyes on visa/green card.
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That could happen for 3rd world countries, and most European girls prefer to stay in Europe, because there are so many things to do. My ex-girlfriend and I has ended the relationship, because she don't want to move to America. :eek3:
 
I noticed that Ryan hasnt posted in this thread since he started it. Maybe he found a woman? :giggle:
 
lumbingmi said:
The problem lies in this suggestion of yours is you dont know if foreign women love you for who you are or they re just sucking ur cock bec they have only their eyes on visa/green card.......
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LMFAO

Ain't that the truth.

But as long as she is careful with the teeth, it's ok.
 
Kalista said:
If you get high hope from that lady then you will never find one. Just let go the flow, the right time will tell you.

have you try go to the site www.deafsinglesconnect.com to make new friends then date then next ???
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Do you have any success with DSC.com? I dont agree with having to pay for dating online. It should be free!
 
I agreea and disagree with what some are saying.

First of all, looks are only important as far as appearance. Is the guy clean? If he isnt clean, who would wanna get close to that? Would you? Does he care about the way he looks? Does he dress ok? If his jeans and shirts are full of car grease while trying to meet chicks, lets say that its not exactly a good endorsement for him.

The guy does not have to be hot to grab our attention. Give us a guy that sees a woman going out the door, and he runs and opens the door for us. Small things like that leave a lasting impression, more than any words ever could.

Secondly, some men here are saying that us women base everything on looks. What about you men? If she isnt a Jessica Alba look alike most of you men arent even interested. What about going for a average looking, maybe even overweight women?

You pass up some very good hearts, when you over look that slightly or severely overweight woman.

Yes, I practice what I preach, while my hubby isnt overweight, one of my most cherished friends is. I would date him in a heartbeat if I was single, simply because he has such a soft heart.

I think the true key to meeting someone and finding a lasting love, is going into the dating scene, without a certain type in mind. If you go in willing to give ANYONE a chance, then you just might up your chances of finding Ms. Right.

As mentioned above, the number one thing you can do is be yourself. Dont be all Mr. Player coming up with these stories to make yourself look good. When found out, its a great way to lose future prospects. Trust me us women do talk to each other about who is good to date and who to avoid. Just BE YOURSELF.

Sooner or later, even the good guys do win.
 
With this phrase "Nice guy finish last." I always added "Sometimes they get the best one."

Only if they learn to stop and actually look at ones that were with them.

After all, a nice girl finish last as well. Trust me.

I totally agree with this Bear's phrase "You pass up some very good hearts, when you over look that slightly or severely overweight woman."

I am one of those that wait for nice guy that finish last. Since they are last, it means I have to wait longer than most. But I am waiting, only for one that don't give up in the middle of "race."

Most deaf guys where I live don't go to college. Usually it is deaf women who go. I know education isn't important but this does sent an uncomfortable messages to me. What is deaf guy's goal? What does he do for free time? Etc.

If he works as janitor but yet understand the world, then I will be happy with him regardless of where he works. I am an odd one, I like to have a deep conversation with someone and if they don't provide me that, then I get bored.
 
Bear said:
I agreea and disagree with what some are saying.

First of all, looks are only important as far as appearance. Is the guy clean? If he isnt clean, who would wanna get close to that? Would you? Does he care about the way he looks? Does he dress ok? If his jeans and shirts are full of car grease while trying to meet chicks, lets say that its not exactly a good endorsement for him.

The guy does not have to be hot to grab our attention. Give us a guy that sees a woman going out the door, and he runs and opens the door for us. Small things like that leave a lasting impression, more than any words ever could.

Secondly, some men here are saying that us women base everything on looks. What about you men? If she isnt a Jessica Alba look alike most of you men arent even interested. What about going for a average looking, maybe even overweight women?

You pass up some very good hearts, when you over look that slightly or severely overweight woman.

Yes, I practice what I preach, while my hubby isnt overweight, one of my most cherished friends is. I would date him in a heartbeat if I was single, simply because he has such a soft heart.

I think the true key to meeting someone and finding a lasting love, is going into the dating scene, without a certain type in mind. If you go in willing to give ANYONE a chance, then you just might up your chances of finding Ms. Right.

As mentioned above, the number one thing you can do is be yourself. Dont be all Mr. Player coming up with these stories to make yourself look good. When found out, its a great way to lose future prospects. Trust me us women do talk to each other about who is good to date and who to avoid. Just BE YOURSELF.

Sooner or later, even the good guys do win.
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:gpost:!!!
 
Silentwolfdog said:
With this phrase "Nice guy finish last." I always added "Sometimes they get the best one."

Only if they learn to stop and actually look at ones that were with them.

After all, a nice girl finish last as well. Trust me.

I totally agree with this Bear's phrase "You pass up some very good hearts, when you over look that slightly or severely overweight woman."

I am one of those that wait for nice guy that finish last. Since they are last, it means I have to wait longer than most. But I am waiting, only for one that don't give up in the middle of "race."

Most deaf guys where I live don't go to college. Usually it is deaf women who go. I know education isn't important but this does sent an uncomfortable messages to me. What is deaf guy's goal? What does he do for free time? Etc.

If he works as janitor but yet understand the world, then I will be happy with him regardless of where he works. I am an odd one, I like to have a deep conversation with someone and if they don't provide me that, then I get bored.[/QUOTE]

U are not the only one who is odd...I am the same too. I have dated several deaf guys and it is those who challenge me intellectually are the ones that I fall for. The ones who talk about video games, how cool they are, and how many women they can get are the ones who bore me.

I fell for this one deaf guy in New York City..he was very very creative with how he played around with English to make people laugh. I loved bantering him and having myself being challenged to come up with a better come-back. Too bad, he wasnt ready for a commitment at the time. It wasnt meant to be, I guess.
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Yay, I am not the only one? Although, it does feel like that.

Seriously, I think I could tell you are that type of person based on your posts.

I also meant people in general. Not just traits I look for in a future boyfriend/husband.

This is reason why I enjoyed being around people who are spiritual or act as devil's advocate, since they forced me to see it through a different perspective. The argument can be heated and so fun or very serious and thought-provoked (unsure how to say this).

But those traits aren't what I have saw in potential deaf guys just yet, lol.

That person you mentioned must have been fun to be around with.
 
ShamRockMan said:
Hello all deaf.com users!

Introduce myself: I am Ryan and I am 30 years old. I have moved and transfered job to Phoenix, AZ from Chicago months ago.

I think alldeaf.com is cool way to talk about anything. Share anyone with thoughtful. So I am new on this. I have been thinking about different issues. I would like to know and to understand something from what other are thinking. Hopefully this will help me a lot.

I have been single for half year after 6 years with my ex. While I am around in Phoenix. I have met some nice deaf ladies. I'm taking my time just to get to know them. I'm looking for a right lady and have a similar interests as mine.

I usually go out sometime on weekends. Sometime I went to some place with deafies group for socialize. I have met some deaf ladies there. When I met them. We were have like just simple conversations. They knows that I am single. After we exchanged email address. Then later they seem don't really keep in touch with me. I tried to ask them if one of them if they would like to hang out with me just to get to know more with each other. But later. When I see them again. (At different place like bar and whatever.) I saw them with other guys. Some of them are dating. I was like what have I done to them? I dont understand why is this happening. I have attended to different deaf socialize events. So far no luck girl for me. I was wondering. Are they oppression and shallow? I was like this is pretty frustrated me. I am looking for a lady who have a good confident, opened-mind, ambition, not afraid to get to know me more. Willing to take chances to hang out with me. Something like that.

Do you have any suggestion or advices for me how to deal with the frustrates? What are you thinking? Let me know! Thanks.

Ryan
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Oh Sweetheart,

There is no right lady/man on earth. PERIOD. Just enjoy YOUR life.. no worry abt YOUR age and YOUR time... just let it go as flow...whatever... Because you are 30 yrs old... pretty young guy. That IS NOT too late! Believe me... There are hottie ladies (millions) in the world.. U have nothing to lose! dont ya agree ??


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M-
 
a bit of a tangent

I read something on the internet about body language between men and women.

Supposedly when a man is interested in the girl he makes a lot of eye contact. When he is uninterested he tends to stare at her mouth, avoiding eye contact.

I found it amusing cuz I have a hard time understanding women, so I focus on the lips. Im sending the wrong signals
 
^ Heh. It can't be helped. You could just tell them that only way for you to "understand" women better is to look at their lips. Women like the fact that man is actually listening to them. lol

You know what I did when I find a guy I liked? I looked away from him. I become too shy and overwhelmed that I avoid eye contact whenever I can.

That kind of signal tell em that I am not interested which is not what I meant.

Also, on news one person said everyone is not supposed to look for Mr/Ms Right, but a friend. Just don't only look for romantic, sex, and love but also friendship as well.

It makes sense to me. You would want someone to share your feeling with and someone to spend the time with, but in more loving way. So you need to be able to see the friend within someone you like.
 
shel90 said:
I noticed that Ryan hasnt posted in this thread since he started it. Maybe he found a woman? :giggle:
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Ryan probably is hidding in your closet to watch you in your bedroom. You better hurry up to check your closet.
 
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