Why is it necessary to attack the way I live my life

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In the short time I have been back to AD, after being away for 3 years, I was surprised to find that there are still some people that can not have a discussion in forum without making it an attack. I recently replied with a qq and comment regarding a forum on our National Debt. I knew it would be a topic that touched each of us. But when i asked a qq in a comment I was Laughed at, accused of misrepresenting who i was and how i lived my life and
labeled a term by someone who does not even know me. I must have struck a nerve with my qq and comments. I try to be open minded and always wish
Peace to whoever I am speaking with . it IS who I am and I am very comfortable in my own skin. I am a well educated, articulate individual who may not be able to keep up with some due to my recovery from my Traumatic brain Injury. I assure you, I have seen this same person and others like them go off on anyone who disagrees with them and they are just plain mean!
I offered a wish for peace to the person and asked that perhaps they work on tolerance. I forgive them and hold no bad feelings. There is no place in my heart for that kind of negativity. I hope I did not make a mistake returning to AD. I have made so many wonderful friends, old and new. I respect each persons opinion. I want everyone to know I do fill my heart each day with Love and Peace and take that with me out into the World, that is my Path...how others react to me is theirs. Smile..so Peace to All thanks for listening..M♥♥♥
 
I was wondering how to reply to that. Since that certain poster is "ignoring" me.

Sure I may not be a soft target, and when something is off I call it.

But in that case, I was actually trying to come up with something constructive. However I give in because if I say anything, he will view it as offensive.
 
All I can suggest is to roll with the punches...Life's a funny thing, ya know! And remember, this too, shall pass. We all are seperate individuals with a mind of our own.

I don't know "how you live ur life", but do know that upon reading ur posts & threads, you seem like a very nice individual and are overcoming some hard knocks....which all of us have during the span of our lives....It's not wise to dwell on the negative. And things will work out for the best. So, if it were me, I'd flip it off and get on with my everyday living.
 
To be honest, you are the one who started it by calling him smug and you were personally attacking him with different comments. And he never criticized how you live. I suggest to just leave it alone.

You are very comfortable in your own skin, we respect that completely, but we'd appreciate it if you don't start a new thread and start pointing out people for "attacking" you. What you are doing is very passive aggressive.
 
lanapoo said:
To be honest, you are the one who started it by calling him smug and you were personally attacking him with different comments. And he never criticized how you live. I suggest to just leave it alone.

You are very comfortable in your own skin, we respect that completely, but we'd appreciate it if you don't start a new thread and start pointing out people for "attacking" you. What you are doing is very passive aggressive.
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What you're doing is oppressing awareness... Just saying...
 
Some people will defend their worldviews up to a certain point and then accept whatever it is that you *might* be saying. Which isn't necessarily wrong (let's not all just parrot each other and not use any science/logic at all...shrug), but how peep defend themselves is an issue that should be talked about; sometimes there is unacceptable behavior but ADers and mods need to let them know in a sincere, honest manner. If I'm being an overpowering academic asshole let me know and I'll tone it down. I know I can be a wee bit aggressive with my arguments but if someone speaks up, I must back down because I really don't know who's reading it and being affected by it negatively. It's the approach to each other and the respect we give. It's hard to admit mistakes but if we admit the ones we do make, it's not as personal as it can get to be later. I'm here to learn and I hope everyone else is sort of in the same (positive) boat too.

I went through a rather nasty concussion a couple years back and it's not an easy thing to recover quickly from. Be patient with the recovery time or let people ramble on with their nonsense if you don't think they're listening to your concerns. I may disagree with some people on this board but sometimes there's a reason that is NOT personal for it. And I try to yield some respect to those who do actually put in the effort and not completely backing down or ignoring what I'm saying (unless I'm a true attention whore). Specifically to Jiro and TxGolfer <<<beer summit in a heartbeat
 
posts from hell said:
What you're doing is oppressing awareness... Just saying...
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What am I oppressing exactly? Your implication that he is racist, audist, sexist, etc?

Have you ever considered taking a different POV on this situation?

Let's be civil here.
 
To clarify what I mean by awareness:

One must be told that whatever he was doing is in the wrong to be aware that it is wrong. This is a part of the learning process of any society. Rules differ across societies. One may visit another society and find out what is accepted in one society is not in the other by being told. (Clarification: the term "he" is of no specific gender)

In this regards, I refer to this quote:

Arthur Schopenhauer (1788 - 1860) said:
All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.
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Lanapoo - you are talking about a specific incident, I will say this about that specific incident:
He first ridiculed MidnightSun using this icon: :laugh2:
Now he is in the 2nd step: Violently opposing it by saying MidnightSun is a sick individual.

I now await the third step.
 
lanapoo said:
What am I oppressing exactly? Your implication that he is racist, audist, sexist, etc?

Have you ever considered taking a different POV on this situation?

Let's be civil here.
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Never once said he was Racist, Audist, or Sexist. Also never thought he was.

I suggest you read that statement again, and slowly. I'll help with quoting it here.
posts from hell said:
Sexism, Racism, Audism, and Smugness awareness is only raised if someone speaks out about it. In this case - she voiced it. And you go off responding in an extremely negative way. Far worse than what she has done.
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I am being very civil. I am not calling names and what not.
 
And if the third step isn't forthcoming.......? What then?
 
I have no idea who you are talking about but I understand. There is a such thing as agreeing to disagree and that seems to be something not easily grasped for some here, or that is my experience anyway. I would say that maybe you should PM that person and express how you feel and see how they respond rather than putting them on blast in a thread, it will only add fuel to the fire. But that is just my opinion.
 
rockin'robin said:
All I can suggest is to roll with the punches...Life's a funny thing, ya know! And remember, this too, shall pass. We all are seperate individuals with a mind of our own.

I don't know "how you live ur life", but do know that upon reading ur posts & threads, you seem like a very nice individual and are overcoming some hard knocks....which all of us have during the span of our lives....It's not wise to dwell on the negative. And things will work out for the best. So, if it were me, I'd flip it off and get on with my everyday living.
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Smile..Hey girl you do rock...thanks for the advice. that's what I will do anyway I have no time or room in my heart for negative things. thanks for your support..I live my life treating others the way I would want to be treated.. i help whenever I can and i do believe that Peace, Love, Tolerance , Communication and Forgiveness of others and ourselves is the Path i was set on by my Creator. many Blessing my new friend..M♥♥♥
 
MidnightSun said:
Smile..Hey girl you do rock...thanks for the advice. that's what I will do anyway I have no time or room in my heart for negative things. thanks for your support..I live my life treating others the way I would want to be treated.. i help whenever I can and i do believe that Peace, Love, Tolerance , Communication and Forgiveness of others and ourselves is the Path i was set on by my Creator. many Blessing my new friend..M♥♥♥
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Forgiveness is the BEST revenge isn't it?
 
posts from hell said:
Lanapoo - you are talking about a specific incident, I will say this about that specific incident:
He first ridiculed MidnightSun using this icon: :laugh2:
Now he is in the 2nd step: Violently opposing it by saying MidnightSun is a sick individual.

I now await the third step.
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... He made that face because she was already attacking him. Read the thread again. ;) She unnecessarily got herself involved by ridiculing him first.

It'd be nice if we stopped pointing fingers at each other and playing the blame game.

Man up.

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lanapoo said:
To be honest, you are the one who started it by calling him smug and you were personally attacking him with different comments. And he never criticized how you live. I suggest to just leave it alone.

You are very comfortable in your own skin, we respect that completely, but we'd appreciate it if you don't start a new thread and start pointing out people for "attacking" you. What you are doing is very passive aggressive.
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I do not know you but respect you and your opinion. smile..thank you for your imput...Peace to you...I guess I will agree to disagree...thanks again
 
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