Why do you want to have kids? Reasons or no reasons?

TXgolfer said:
I said this somewhere but kids actually help you to see the world is good after all. They are also pretty portable:lol: I know what you mean though.

Looking at todays kids is kind of scary......But if all the good people stop having kids then only bad people will have kids.......and then those kids will grow up and be the ones to bring us our 4:30 applesauce dinner and change our Depends!:shock: We need good kids for this.:lol:
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:giggle: Well, for now, I'm the one who is changing Depends! But, that is a good point.

As for portability, I take care of my niece about 40hrs a week and she isn't always a nice package to carry around! lol she will be 2 soon. I haven't decided for sure, but I see how much of your life you have to change and I like being spontaneous and things. If I wanna run out to WaWa for a 1am cup of coffee, I can't. Sounds stupid, but idk :giggle: I still have about 7years to decide...:D
 
TXgolfer said:
Looking at todays kids is kind of scary......But if all the good people stop having kids then only bad people will have kids.......and then those kids will grow up and be the ones to bring us our 4:30 applesauce dinner and change our Depends!:shock: We need good kids for this.:lol:
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believe me, if they are bad kids, they would NOT be bringing our applesauce and changing our depend. Only the good kids will. The bad kids will be too busy being selfish with their own life.
 
I would like to be a foster parent and/or adopt kids. Why? Because so many kids are abandoned in this world and I want to provide a loving home.

I am not yet able to do that, though.
 
quirkylibra said:
:giggle: Well, for now, I'm the one who is changing Depends! But, that is a good point.

As for portability, I take care of my niece about 40hrs a week and she isn't always a nice package to carry around! lol she will be 2 soon. I haven't decided for sure, but I see how much of your life you have to change and I like being spontaneous and things. If I wanna run out to WaWa for a 1am cup of coffee, I can't. Sounds stupid, but idk :giggle: I still have about 7years to decide...:D
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Sure you can.....just give them a little nyQuil first. j/k:lol:

Your right tho. It did turn Vegas trips into Disney trips. Having them when you are older would be more so.
 
Had a wise woman tell me. "having kids is like rolling the dice"

How true! Each child is different.

Raise them with lots of love and educate them about the world.
 
Am I talk to you???

shel90 said:
It is not BS created by the Deaf community.
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I got the links. Thank you! I will ask my Ophthalmologist. I suppose to go doctor appt tomorrow. It's postponed to Feb 23 due to weather advisory. I have to wait. I sent to my husband and my mom of links that I got it from you. I want to know what is their opinions. I read the info. I don't have diabetic and other condition. It's rare in case for RP and other disease due to lack of taking vitamin A supplement. That is why I must take vitamin A supplement daily. But I can't take it right now because it's not good for pregnancy and baby. I'm taking DHA Omega 3mg with prenatal. I am eating lot of carrots. Everyone are different. I planned to be breastfeed. I don't know if it's affect to my vision. I have to ask my OB/GYN and Ophthalmologist.

By the way, I love children. I don't want to be lonely without children.

Mrs Bucket said:
It is not B.S. Pinky.

I visited a specialist and was advised about this. I was not told about this from the Deaf community.

The Deaf people did not share this with me, I learned of this from the medical community and I have been researching and still am researching about this. I still will be doing research about Usher's Syndrome. There are other reasons why blind women lose their vision more during pregnancy and it isn't just because of Retinitis Pigmentosa. There are issues relating to health, both mother and fetus.

It is okay, Pinky. I understand how you feel and don't get upset.

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This country is working hard to reach all the visually impaired people, including women to educate them. Bangladesh has set up a cultural organisation ; UTSA to bring out the visually impaired people to work and include them in recreation instead of isolation.

Physiologic Ocular Changes Occurring During Pregnancy-



Pinky, please discuss those sensitive issues with your opthamologist. You may or may not see a decreased vision loss. I do understand why you are upset. Once again, it is not a myth or a rumour from the Deaf community. It has been a proven medical fact.
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Pinky, this is a discussion forum so anything goes. If you prefer to talk to a memeber directly without others involved, pls use the PM feature.
 
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Pinky said:
I didn't lose my vision during pregnancy. My vision is still same. I will see my ophthalmology appointment on Thursday. I will ask her the question. I am not buying deaf people's BS about usher syndrome and RP would lose the vision during pregnancy. I have a friend who have US like me. She never lose the vision during pregnancy. She have 3 kids. Because We have been pray to god to keep our visions still same. I can't understand why many deaf people try to jinx on US/RP women can't get pregnancy due to vision. That is wrong!
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pregnancy can also trigger gestational diabetes... and untreated gestational diabetes can worsen eyesight. Pregnancy can also speed up teeth decay so that's why many pregnant women have to brush their teeth more often.
 
jinxedkitten said:
Who said I wanted kids?

Haaah.. okay, think about it. Who else will let you reside in the. guestroom and eat all of their ice-cream during your dying days, hmm? I had my son sign a document when he was born (foot stamp worked quite well) so he is legally bound to hand over the spoon in about 60 years (slurps on imaginary chocolate ice-cream with brownie chunks) genius eh?
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Those grown children who have a life: working full-time, living in other state, military, full-time parent raising children. Think they have time to take care of their old age/ailing parents? Come on. Think about it. That's what nursing homes/hospices are for.
 
Douglas said:
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Those grown children who have a life: working full-time, living in other state, military, full-time parent raising children. Think they have time to take care of their old age/ailing parents? Come on. Think about it. That's what nursing homes/hospices are for.
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Believe it or not, many people do take care of their parents and have their own buys lives on the side. It's hard, but they manage.
 
Douglas said:
:rme:
Those grown children who have a life: working full-time, living in other state, military, full-time parent raising children. Think they have time to take care of their old age/ailing parents? Come on. Think about it. That's what nursing homes/hospices are for.
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I think the grandparents prefer to live a short life in a home full of love with family members than living a long life being taken care by some strangers at unfamiliar place. This is very common in Asia, South America, and Africa. I am not very comfortable about my parents being taken care of by strangers. Who knows if my parents are being neglected by them?
 
Lighthouse77 said:
pregnancy can also trigger gestational diabetes... and untreated gestational diabetes can worsen eyesight. Pregnancy can also speed up teeth decay so that's why many pregnant women have to brush their teeth more often.
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Aslo pregnancy can trigger mother by having "baby blue", postranum depression, even worse they abuse or neglect newborn to toddlers...especailly can kill 'em. Well, sometimes it's not their fault...chemical imbalance screws up mentally, emotionally, sometimes physically. My 2 aunts are mentally ill for life because of that (after my cousins were being born).
 
Douglas said:
Aslo pregnancy can trigger mother by having "baby blue", postranum depression, even worse they abuse or neglect newborn to toddlers...especailly can kill 'em. Well, sometimes it's not their fault...chemical imbalance screws up mentally, emotionally, sometimes physically. My 2 aunts are mentally ill for life because of that (after my cousins were being born).
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I experienced postarum depression for about a month after my daughter was born. It was very hard to get through. Didnt have it with my son, whew!
 
Jiro said:
I think the grandparents prefer to live a short life in a home full of love with family members than living a long life being taken care by some strangers at unfamiliar place. This is very common in Asia, South America, and Africa. I am not very comfortable about my parents being taken care of by strangers. Who knows if my parents are being neglected by them?
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Either that there is some adult children who experiences of taking care of their aging parents and it hapens that they abuse and neglect 'em as well. I've seen on news sometimes. :hs:
 
~*Kaelei*~ said:
I've always wanted to have a kid ever since I was a kid.... I've always wanted big family... I love how the family are together and support each other, give each other love. I have a four year old son and I love him more than anything in the world... I can't imagine my life without him...he's my biggest joy. I want more kids, but later on in the future. Sure the world is bad..... but there will always be problems in this world... There is not a such thing as perfect world... it's just something we have to deal with. What matters the most is love... bring the kid to the world with love and fill their life with love and teach them how to survive in this world.
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What's wrong with "outside" of the world? It would be much less problems. Think like the movie "Village". I loved everything with the idea of the story in that movie except the style of its clothing and other thing. Oh yes some children do wish to have a perfect parents and also wish to be perfect themselves. Otherwise, they blame parents for not teaching them how to defend themselves from bad people, blame for not protecting over them, and not answering them the truth when they ask their parents why's, what's, how's, etc. No wonder a lot of children ended up alienating their parents for life.
In the same way parents disowned them for life. Take a look at Jerry Lewis...he disowned his youngest son after 23 years and didn't even bother attending to his funreal/cremation service.

The other way how to solve the problem: don't get preggers, then there'll be no problems...so everything would be fine.

I got this famous quote by unknown author...

"If you can't feed 'em, don't breed 'em!"

Other that, "no more bullshit".

There you go.
 
shel90 said:
I experienced postarum depression for about a month after my daughter was born. It was very hard to get through. Didnt have it with my son, whew!
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My mother did not make it through it. I was of course too young to remember her but the whole tragedy of it hit our little family hard for many many years.
I am so happy you made it Shel!!
 
quirkylibra said:
Believe it or not, many people do take care of their parents and have their own buys lives on the side. It's hard, but they manage.
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I agree with that. I am still raising my 2 teens and also take care of my mother who lives with us and we live in my mother-in-law's house and I am helping to care for her. That's also on top of keeping house and all. I still find time to go to my deaf socials and ASL classes.
 
Lighthouse77 said:
believe me, if they are bad kids, they would NOT be bringing our applesauce and changing our depend. Only the good kids will. The bad kids will be too busy being selfish with their own life.
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Well, even good kids will neglect to make time to take care of you.

I've noticed that we have so many youngsters who are basically growing into self-absorbed adults.

If I'm blessed with kids then I'll do my best to ensure they don't become narcisstic.
 
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