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fei ku

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why cant man trust and believe woman's love for him???
dont talk abt woman....since i am woman and i wanna to know abt man...pls stay on that topic thanks....


(remmy i explained abt my ex boyfriend from pa? our plm? well he admit to me that he cheated on me....and he still put our relationship on hold he love that girl in his whole life.... :rl: he said that he is in deep shit cuz of his feeling that he still love me and other girl...he even said that he had sex with her and everything....like he did with me.....why did he admit the truth to me??? i was soo destoryed inside me....i felt like world is crush on me and felt like i am worth to anyone anymore.... :tears: why me??? i dont derverse it....all i am loyal to him!!! *sighs*)
 
I just knew it! That you are not over your ex, I remember recalling you created a thread about having a crush on someone, and even told that person you liked him, It was a wrong timing I told you before what you need to do is get over your ex before moving into someone new. Yet, you haven't listened. I'm sorry for being blunt I am done giving advices which you would not take to heart.
 
Hi Fei ku, I am deeply sorry for your pain. I am not going to be surprise that you are not the only one. In fact I have helped battered women in the past! Yes, some men can be abusive. My suggest to you, let it go... if you can't live without relationship, there is 12 steps program that helps deal with your own addict. You could try Co-dependent anonymous. There are plenty of help you can find and get. Good man will walk into you when you least expected! The best relationship often when two met each other without plans, or expecting anything. Here is good example, I know Cheri for about 18 months, and believe me, I HATE her, so is she hated me to begin with! We never thought we would find ourself together!

If you still want a man, best man do NOT drink, do not use drugs, do not ask you for money. They will not force you into something you don't want to.

I am sorry, but what I see you is your looking for trouble, more than what's worth. So, again my advice. take plenty of steps backward and focus on yourself. You will find true love if you take my advice, trust me!
 
whoa....i did take ur advice.....i didnt become sweetheart with him yet....i just be honest with him that all...he undy my plm and he respect me and we just chatting and get to know each other i do like him but for now i rather to be friend....i am still hurt inside....it take long time to heal....i did listen to u ...pls dont get wrong idea thanks :thumb: and i arent rush into anything and plus i am not looking for trouble i mean...i noticed now that i make lot of new friends than before and i am happy and feel alot better without my ex bf but the pain is still there....just hard to believe that he cheated on me...actually it is my second time he cheated on me my first one is before...with other guy.....it just hard to get rid of my pain....i dont want to be with someone else while my pain is still there and plus i am not "hook" or "need" a guy to be my boyfriend....i can be single for more than 1 year cuz i have been thro that before.....right now the pain is worse than before....it take long time for me to heal the pain soo dont get any wrong idea thro
 
fei ku said:
why cant man trust and believe woman's love for him???
dont talk abt woman....since i am woman and i wanna to know abt man...pls stay on that topic thanks....
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I'm sure he believes you that you love him and you have been loyal to him as well, but the thing is he has an eye on another woman and obviously he does not want to be committed to you. For his own selfish act you're better off without him and find someone who will love you and be totally committed to you. Good luck!
 
Catmandu said:
I'm sure he believes you that you love him and you have been loyal to him as well, but the thing is he has an eye on another woman and obviously he does not want to be committed to you. For his own selfish act you're better off without him and find someone who will love you and be totally committed to you. Good luck!
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i totally agree with u ......he is jerk thro he is selfish and all he want to do is having sex that all and plus why didnt he break up with me to save me alot of pain instead of go off with other woman and cheat on me and cause me lot of pain??
 
I understand, You will have this pain for quietly awhile, because you love him and you didn't get the same love back from him the way you want it to be. I know how that feels because I've been in that boat before. Sometimes some men want more than having to settle down to one person. He is just a jerk nothing more nothing less. You don't need that, you need someone who would treat you the way you want to be treated. ;)


That's good that you are taking your time before jumping into a new one, because honestly you don't need to get yourself into a rebound relationship, It would not work out would cause more conflicts between you two. :thumb:

Sorry about what I said earlier at the begin of my post. :hug:
 
Try to think not all men are jerks. There are cool guys waiting for you, just that you have to wait when time is right. But if you think all guys are jerk, you'd scare off many good guys!

I know plenty of good guys, and they generally don't try to jump right into you. They would have some good talk to begin with, like as if it is just friendly. Nothing more, and wanted to start with just friend... This CAN lead you something.

I wanted to correct, I know Cheri for 18 months, it does not mean I hate her for 18 months. We hate each other for about a year, then 6 months we were just surface friend... Nothing serious, now here we are!

fei ku said:
i totally agree with u ......he is jerk thro he is selfish and all he want to do is having sex that all and plus why didnt he break up with me to save me alot of pain instead of go off with other woman and cheat on me and cause me lot of pain??
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fei ku said:
i totally agree with u ......he is jerk thro he is selfish and all he want to do is having sex that all and plus why didnt he break up with me to save me alot of pain instead of go off with other woman and cheat on me and cause me lot of pain??
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Why didn't he break up with you? Because he wanted to continue the enjoyment and take advantage of you as well.

Again, you just answered to yourself a question. Because he's a consummately J-E-R-K.
 
Cheri said:
I understand, You will have this pain for quietly awhile, because you love him and you didn't get the same love back from him the way you want it to be. I know how that feels because I've been in that boat before. Sometimes some men want more than having to settle down to one person. He is just a jerk nothing more nothing less. You don't need that, you need someone who would treat you the way you want to be treated. ;)


That's good that you are taking your time before jumping into a new one, because honestly you don't need to get yourself into a rebound relationship, It would not work out would cause more conflicts between you two. :thumb:

Sorry about what I said earlier at the begin of my post. :hug:
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i forgive u :hug: that allrighty i undy....ur right...i arent looking for a rebound relationship....i just take a time for myself to get over the pain......thanks for undy ;)
 
Yup, what if you run into right guy and it was rebounded relationship. It will fail! I have been there and learned my lesson. I wish I have love for my last ex gf. It didn't work, it was love for that bitch before her.

Cheri said:
I understand, You will have this pain for quietly awhile, because you love him and you didn't get the same love back from him the way you want it to be. I know how that feels because I've been in that boat before. Sometimes some men want more than having to settle down to one person. He is just a jerk nothing more nothing less. You don't need that, you need someone who would treat you the way you want to be treated. ;)


That's good that you are taking your time before jumping into a new one, because honestly you don't need to get yourself into a rebound relationship, It would not work out would cause more conflicts between you two. :thumb:

Sorry about what I said earlier at the begin of my post. :hug:
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just leave him for good since he cant have 2 women in his life period... so u need leave him so u will find a better man for u...

same thing, few my ex did cheated on me, i left them for good... cuz of it not worth to stay with them what for???? nah.. just leave him!
 
diehardbiker65 said:
Try to think not all men are jerks. There are cool guys waiting for you, just that you have to wait when time is right. But if you think all guys are jerk, you'd scare off many good guys!

I know plenty of good guys, and they generally don't try to jump right into you. They would have some good talk to begin with, like as if it is just friendly. Nothing more, and wanted to start with just friend... This CAN lead you something.

I wanted to correct, I know Cheri for 18 months, it does not mean I hate her for 18 months. We hate each other for about a year, then 6 months we were just surface friend... Nothing serious, now here we are!
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*chuckles* i know that for the fact that all men are not jerk...some are.... :P i will just be myself for while and chat with any friends for now...nothing serious.....
 
diehardbiker65 said:
Yup, what if you run into right guy and it was rebounded relationship. It will fail! I have been there and learned my lesson. I wish I have love for my last ex gf. It didn't work, it was love for that bitch before her.
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if i find a right guy....i still wont jump into rebounded relationship i will just be myself for while and get rid of the pain in my heart.....
 
Catmandu said:
I'm sure he believes you that you love him and you have been loyal to him as well, but the thing is he has an eye on another woman and obviously he does not want to be committed to you. For his own selfish act you're better off without him and find someone who will love you and be totally committed to you. Good luck!
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yea i agree with u.. that what i told her in other post...
 
Hi Fei Ku, the best thing you can do for yourself right now is to get through the pain and to let this bad experience help you to become more stronger then things will happen at the right time for the right reason in the right place. Something good always comes out of something bad. :)
 
TweetyBird said:
just leave him for good since he cant have 2 women in his life period... so u need leave him so u will find a better man for u...

same thing, few my ex did cheated on me, i left them for good... cuz of it not worth to stay with them what for???? nah.. just leave him!
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ur right he cant have 2 women in his life....he is a moron.....i agree with u ..... :mrgreen:
 
fei ku said:
ur right he cant have 2 women in his life....he is a moron.....i agree with u ..... :mrgreen:
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good that u agree with me.. then do it or it will too late that u will get hurt more later... better think abt it... i am care of u!! :thumb:
 
TweetyBird said:
good that u agree with me.. then do it or it will too late that u will get hurt more later... better think abt it... i am care of u!! :thumb:
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aww thanks for care abt me...i will do it....he will be big sorry and a biggest loser i ever seen in my life that he did it on purpose....he shud have gone out with her long time ago too bad that he suffer thro this shit cuz he knew it is wrong to do that
 
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