What about living in a predemonatly hearing society? What about communicating with others for things like going to the store, family gatherings. What about if you loose your job. I hear you talk about your frustrations and I am asking if the CI worked, wouldn't that resolve the frustrations? You have done a good job of explaining your position but you have also done a good job of avoiding my questions.
I thought I answered it? If I got a job that required me to speak and hear, I may reconsider getting a CI. As for children are concerned, I thought I have said this over and over again..I am not against CIs in children but I believe in exposing children in learning sign language at the same time they are going to speech and listening trainings. If that is not enough an answer for u, then I cant say it another way. I feel that I am starting to sound like a broken record
My personal frustrations stem from my childhood and I cant go back and change that. Currently, I do have some frustrations from time to time but not enough to warrant a life-changing decision. Now, mostly my frustrations stem from the lack of language access for my children. If I never got frustrated then that means I dont care for these children and I shouldnt be a teacher. A good teacher really cares and works hard to meet the needs of the children. It gets frustrating cuz I know I cant meet all their needs and I wish the parents would try to make some effort too. I realize I cant solve everyone's problems but I wouldnt be human if I didnt care and never had frustrating moments. If I am not allowed to post those frustrations on this forum cuz it would upset some parents of CI children then I will leave AD.
My question to you was assuming for the sake of argument that the CI was successful for you.
It wouldn't be just for your family. It would be to have the ability to communicate and not be at a disadvantage. And again, what if you lost your job. My questions to you are assuming the CI option worked for you.
Didnt I answer that ?? I may reconsider but until the time comes I really cant answer cuz I dont know myself. When I was younger, nobody told me about the CI..I had NO knowledge of deaf culture or other devices besides HA. If I had known about them, I really dont know what would have happened. AS I stated in another post, in 1994 when I was 22 years old, for the first time I learned about CIs I had serious serious self-esteem and self-image problems and when I saw that wire hanging from the head all the way to the waist, it was a big turn off for me. I was still hiding my HAs from people by not putting my hair back up. Think about it..a CI is too revealing. That was how I thought as a 22-year old who thought image was the most important thing
That stress is partially associated with you not being able to hear. If the CI allowed you to hear enough wouldn't that eleviate the stress.
TThe stress that I was referring to was from my childhood up until I was 28 years old. Cant I post about what I experienced growing up? Is that too much? Right now I dont deal with the stress as much as before cuz I am not in a non-signing environment too often. If u meet me and get to know me in person, u would know that I dont go around bashing hearing people. It may look like that here but I am very passionate about my beliefs and I will post them up here but in reality I dont go around stating my beliefs on people. I get up, get my kids ready for the day, go to work, do my thing at work, go to the gym, come home to cook dinner, help my daughter, relax and check AD or emails, hang out with my hubby. That is what my daily life is like most of the time.
I honestly dont think ones ability to hear or not defines them as a person. I do believe that it would remove barriers and the disadvantages that I am sure all that have hearing loss suffer. That's your opinion. If more hearing people were more patient and understanding of deaf needs, maybe all these barriers or disadvantages wouldn't be there since technology has made communication for deaf people easier. Here is an example...the realy service is a great accodomation but it becomes a barrier or a disadvantage when people continually hang up on us thinking we are the Nigerian scams or telemarkers or if they dont hang up, they say "yes" "no" but dont initiate in natural conversations. Know what I mean? My gosh..a little patience and understanding can go a long way.
our personal happiness is very important and I respect your views. The only thing I would say is that if you have made a given choice then you must live with the outcome and accept the cards as they are dealt. Is it fair? hmm.. there are many things in life that are not fair to all of us. If I made a choice that resulted in frustration and that put me at a disadvantage would it be fair for me to complain? After all, my experience and frustration would be a result of my own decision. I didnt make the decision to be placed in an oral only school. My parents made that decision for me. In my 20s I was still in denial about my deafness and was battling a whole shitload of issues and depression until I finally accepted my deafness and changed my life. My decisions that I made after accepting my deafness lead to where I am now as a happier person who has finally learned how to love herself. Now, I am just expressing my frustrations about the parents of my students but I cant make that choice for them so I work hard with their children to ensure they will be successful both academically and emotionally later. That is my decision and I am happy with it. No, I cant change the parents' attitude nor views but if I could help them be more sensitive to their child's needs then I accomplished something.
Let me pose the question another way. For the sake of argument; If there were 100% success rate with a CI, would you opt for one?